Forever Formula

To my dearL4 friend SJ [newlywed] February 29, 2016:

May both of you keep the covenant of marriage forever.  There will be times of trouble – please endure patiently.  Marriage is not a sprint event but rather a long distance endurance race.  When you celebrate your 25th anniversary, please call me.  I have a gift for you waiting.

RA

 

 

The Partner
Caring
Responsive
Communal
Intrinsically interested in a romantic relationship
Positively correlated with agreeableness and a secure attachment style
Negatively correlated with sociosexuality and the three insecure attachment styles.
Partners were more likely to be female than male.

The player
Pursues a mixed reproductive strategy of being moderately warm while eschewing commitment [avoid and stay away from deliberately]
Strongly correlated with sociosexuality
Somewhat negatively correlated with agreeableness
Correlated with all three of the insecure attachment prototypes
Insecure Attachment Style-Anxious–preoccupied
Preoccupied Attachment Style-Dismissive–avoidant
Fearful Attachment Style
Correlated most strongly with dismissive

The Parasite
Pursues a long-term relationship strategy apparently to address personal needs or deficiencies
Passionate
Intense
Stalker-may engage in stalking if the partner decides to leave
Negatively correlated with agreeableness
Positively correlated with the preoccupied attachment style
Uncorrelated with sociosexuality.

The Predator
Unrestricted individual
Unscrupulous predator
Exploits and abandon the date
Negatively correlated with agreeableness
Positively correlated with sociosexuality
Positively correlated with fearful attachment style

Source: Handbook of Relationship Initiation Sprecher, Wenzel, Harvey Chapter 5 p.101 ISBN-13: 978-0805861600