Condition: Adult Egocentrism
Treatment:
1. Romans 12:1-2
2. 5 Steps Egocentrism Corrective Action
So I beg you, brothers and sisters, because of the great mercy God has shown us, offer your lives as a living sacrifice to him—an offering that is only for God and pleasing to him. Considering what he has done, it is only right that you should worship him in this way. Don’t change yourselves to be like the people of this world, but let God change you inside with a new way of thinking. Then you will be able to understand and accept what God wants for you. You will be able to know what is good and pleasing to him and what is perfect.
Romans 12:1-2
A case of weird human response [WHR]
There was a near-miss incident in companyX and I was invited to participate an AAR meeting [After Action Review] and we were discussing what really happened during an incident that has a “great potential” of a loss if not being addressed.
In an AAR, the following questions are asked.
1. What went well?
2. What did not go well?
3. What will I do differently?
The meeting was a brainstorming session and everyone in the room gave their inputs to the 3 AAR questions. The AAR went well and we were able to pinpoint the issue and provided a few countermeasures at the end of the session and action items were generated and assigned. Overall, the AAR meeting was a success although it took us 3 hours to finalize. As I said, it went well… but right after the meeting, a person who was a participant of the AAR approached me and requested ‘”Can I talk to you in private?” and so we did. In the conference room, I became the receiver of long mindless rant:
1. i was blamed
2. it was my fault
3. i was left with no choice, it is always my fault
4. i am not good enough
5. they don’t know me any better
6. i am the best at my work but…
etc….
I am a self-trained listener and I let the person finished until there was silence. But while listening, I can hear inside me this statement “GROW UP, IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU!” I did not say that verbally but i felt guilty why I was thinking that way. In the meeting, there was no indication that the team was blaming someone. It was more of an objective discussion about the incident and not about a person.
Fast forward many weeks after the AAR, I found the answer why such an experienced and mature person acted that way.
“The Self was still connected to the Ego” and is suffering from a syndrome called Egocentrism
I am not in the Psychology field and I can’t explain any further, They call it “Egocentrism” and most common to people who has depression.
My objective here is to help/deliver information treatment and not to gossip the suffering of others. I am well aware that there are people out there who refuse to seek treatment. They prefer to do their own therapy or decide to just plainly suffer from the illness themselves without any outside help hoping that one day it will go away. Or maybe some just don’t have the resources to see a councilor or a doctor.
If you decide to DIY the treatment of your Egocentrism Syndrome, please read the following articles. Once you gain an insight about the subject, you can then make a micro-self improvement towards a better you daily without spending a dime.
Notes/References:
Narcissism and Egocentrism
Egocentrism in Adults
Egocentrism
Book-Transforming the Mind [website]
Guide-Transforming The Mind
Figure 1- a mature individual with a healthy Ego-Self state is the one on the right.
egocentric-limited to or caring only about yourself and your own needs; A self-centered person with little regard for others
Immaturity of a Child p.201 Book-Transforming the Mind
The newborn baby is the Self, bearing within it the seeds of attributes
that will later develop through the stages of maturation (including the
first four programs and the potential for more). With maturation the ego
develops a subjectively experienced independence from the Self –
indeed it may consider that it is the Self and that the body and its
somewhat inexplicable feelings are separate from it – a subjective
disconnection that has been described earlier as the body-mind split .
But in reality (at least unconsciously) the ego remains intimately related
to the Self – this is the E go-Self axis.
This diagram represents the development of the ego-Self axis (the
perpendicular line). At first the ego exists only in potentia as a
component of the Self. As development proceeds from this first biosurvival program, through the emotional-territorial, semantic and then
socio-sexual programs, the ego gradually differentiates out from the
Self, connected by the ego-Self axis – the vital link which sustains the
integrity of the personality. The fifth element illustrates a mind-body
split, where the ego has lost touch with its physical roots and the axis
disintegrates. In a sense, the Self is to the ego what the parent is to the
child; it also resembles the relationship envisaged by the great world
religions as existing between God and man; for the ego is the Self s
representative in external reality, and the Self is the Higher Self s
vehicle on earth. The newborn child makes no distinction between
inside and outside , between his mother and himself. Consciousness
has not yet appeared to disrupt bliss with conflict.
As growth of the ego-Self axis proceeds however, the original
undifferentiated unity is left behind in paradise and the world is
increasingly encountered as a realm of tensions. The Self, as central
co-ordinating nucleus of the total psyche, instigates and
homeostatically controls the emergence of the developing ego, and on
this process the whole future integrity of the personality stands or falls .
That it should not go wrong largely depends on the presence and
appropriate responsiveness of the mother, as the stable foundation for
the normal development of the ego-Self axis: it is the primal
relationship, the basis of the bio-survival program, the spinal column of
future individuality and autonomy. Gradually, with the emergence of the
child s ego-consciousness, the mother s functions of cherishing,
nourishing and protecting lose their anonymous features and
personify as the attributes of Mum . From this secure attachment
base, the child begins to explore, to investigate his surroundings, and
then of course the influence of his father comes to bear.
