Series#3: REALationship; "Do We Part?"

20120219 Sunday Celebration Church [Solo]
Series#3: REALationship; "Do We Part?"
By Pastor Joe Champion

Do We Part?
Do Us Part?
Is Divorce an option? A Big Question?
If divorced, there is no condemnation-get back on track.
Marriage is designed to be 100% successful.
Do you have the right one in your life? The answer is yes.
It is God’s will that you are married to him/her.

Keys to a Happy/Lasting Marriage
    1. Take care of body
    2. Take care of your spirit [don’t be concern with the other person]
    3. Take care of your mind
    3. Do not blame the other person. 
    4. Look at yourself first before pointing to your spouse
    5. Walk Right/Do Right/Say Right

10 Critical Marriage Questions:
1. Did you prepare properly in your marriage?
    How much counseling you received before marriage?
    Puppy love does not work-it will fade away over time
    Two people are two different people [they are not alike]
    Living with "unlike" people is not easy.
    Spouse-be prepared that he/she cannot give you everything
    There is a real big difference between MAN and WOMAN
    Count the cost when committing to marriage. Then pay the price
    Count the cost so that you can finish [marriage is bound to last]
    Marriage is like learning how to drive a car-You have to learn every step

2. Did you ever experience divorce in your life?
    Have you seen a separation in your family?
    Separation is painful and contagious
    Examples of failure will follow the path of failure
    Fear predicts the future-If you fear it, then it will happen
   
3. Did you sleep together before marriage?
    Violation of God’s Commandments
    You setup your marriage to fail
    Blessings are gone
    Needs restoration
    Women live for security
    Men live for benefit
   
4. Did you ever have a strong spiritual relationship together?
    Strong devotion to God together
    Window of Prayer-open it up

5. Is there someone around you getting a divorce?
    Divorce is a sickness-very contagious
    Epidemic-stay away

6. Is the marriage filled with constant negativity and disappointment?
    When you complain – it’s about you
    When you criticize- it’s about the other person
    Complain a few
    Avoid criticism-this kills relationship

7. Are you holding on to a big disappointment?
    Be not sinful in your anger
    Diffuse your anger right away
    Anger when kept will turn to disappointments
    Release your anger ASAP

8. Have you ever blamed your spouse?
    Blame game-the other spouse
    Look to yourself first
    Don’t shift the blame to the other person
   
9. Have you ever been thinking/contemplating other scenario?
    Are you reconnecting with someone? Email/FB/Phone/Text
    Are you being tempted?
    Are you thinking of leaving the relationship?

10. Why did you get married?
    Are you renting?
    Are you owning?
    Marriage is about ownership
    You just can’t break the contract
    When you own something-it costs you so much
    You are willing to pay the price
    Renters don’t last
    Owners last forever
    Owners
        They sacrifice
        Save everything you can
        You think twice before leaving
    Divorce is violent to the nation
    Divorce is violent to the children
    Divorce is violent to the immediate family
    Divorce hurts

Marriage is a covenant between two people who are so committed to each other no matter how big the problem they face.
Marriage is a covenant between you, your spouse and God.