Series#2: REALationship; "Sleeping Single"

20120212 Sunday Celebration Church [Solo]
Series#2: REALationship; "Sleeping Single"
By Pastor Joe Champion

Sleeping single-being alone, death of a spouse, married but sleeping single
The world-it looks abnormal when you are pure [Stay pure]
Statistics: 47% marriage failure when cohabitating with spouse prior to marriage [stay away]

Understand the Commandments of God:
    1. Commandments are to bless us
    2. Commandments are to prosper us
    3. Commandments are to guide us away from destruction

Sometimes, Christians will walk out from faith
    1. Not having fun in life anymore
    2. Being pure and holy is boring [lost the fire]   
    3. Being deceived/tempted
    4. Present culture change

Marriage for convenience [to provide comfort]
    1. Marrying because it is convenient
    2. Marriage for comfort
    3. Marriage for pride [got a beautiful/handsome spouse]
    4. Marriage for lust [sex is pleasurable and I need a partner]
       
Marriage for covenant [to commit]
    1. Marrying because this person is a gift to me
    2. We are a covenant people by design [the Bible Way]
    3. We marry our spouse-so we commit ourselves to him/her
    4. Marriage to Honor the spouse his/her family and God
   
Convenient Relationship
    1. Single people doing married things
    2. No blessings-filled with curse/misfortune
    3. Always in a roller coaster emotion [no end of uneventful life]

4 Things You Ought Not To Do

1. Don’t let yourself get desperate
    When you are desperate-you tend to rush things/decision
    Desperate people do desperate things
    Desperate people get deceived by temptation
    Desperate=Deception
    Wait! Wait! Wait! and Wait! and Wait
    The Lord is good to those who wait
    Learn to be content with your life
    Stop complaining that he/she have not showed up yet in your life
    Wait! Wait! Wait! and Wait! and Wait
    Think-you are not being left behind
    God has a special person for you
    God’s people don’t live out of desperation
   
    Phases of Spiritual Death [A cycle sometimes]
        1. Temptation
        2. Pleasure
        3. Confusion
        4. Destruction
        5. Spiritual death

2. Don’t let the physical rule over the spiritual
    The world starts with the physical first [Physical]
    Kingdom of God starts on the spiritual realm
    Seek God first and all "these" things shall be added unto you.
    The Physical=The Flesh
    The Spiritual=The Spirit
    Date only when you are ready to make a covenant with somebody
   
    Some "Before Marriage" Rules to follow:
    a. Don’t go alone
    b. Don’t go in the dark
    c. Stay away from bed-bed are for married people
    d. Don’t lie down with somebody
    e. Don’t get engaged very long.
    f. Got the ring? Don’t wait for years to make the VOW.

3. Don’t be unequally yoke with unbeliever
    Unbeliever + Believer = Spiritual/Relationship Death
    Views/Faith are different when you don’t share the same beliefs [Faith in God]
   
    How to detect a true believer?
        1. Watch them at the church
        2. Watch how they spend their time
        3. Watch how they spend their money
        4. Watch how they treat their family
        5. Watch how they appear in Facebook
        6. Watch their manners
        7. Watch the way they talk/write
        8. Watch their holiness and purity

4. Don’t forget your purpose
    Consider your destiny when choosing a spouse
    Destiny and Purity are connected
    Purity produces peace and commitment
    Adulterer will not inherit the Kingdom of God
    Repentance is required
    Repentance-Stop sinning
    Repentance-Turning around your life