Series#4: REALationship; "Striking your Sexual Match"

Reasons for Marriage:
     1. to meet man/wife physical, emotional, spiritual needs
     2. we cannot exist without the other
Greatest marriage-two servants serving each other; depending each other

Marriage: These 3 must be working together [body, mind, spirit]
     1. Physical
     2. Spiritual
     3. Emotional

1. Striking your Spiritual Match
     Spiritual belief in sync
     Marriage is a covenant-meaning forever
     More sacrifice->more satisfaction
     Sex is sacred in marriage
     Purpose of wedding ring-when spouse is not around [tell the world that you are already committed to someone]
     Sex-a covenant seal; covenant with God also
     Phases of Marriage: Make Bride–>Make Baby [not the other way around]
     Immorality kills marriage; violates covenant->will never be happy
     Sex-is for one man and one woman 
     Don’t bring another one [imaginary or real]

2. Striking your Emotional Match
     Take care of your spouse [two way traffic-husband and wife]
     Validate her/his feelings [don’t invalidate]
     Tell: You can tell me anything without repercussions
     Real man-will listen to anything including – what is wrong with you
     You are not a good husband/wife until your spouse say so
     Ask: Are you happy with me?
     Ask: Are you satisfied with me?
     Ask: Am I fulfilling your sexual needs?
     Delete: I’m afraid to tell you this… Tell anyway
     Emotional honesty is a must-to highest level
     Sexual problems-source is unresolved anger
     Learn not to be defensive when receiving a criticism
     Do not attack emotionally. Open an honest conversation and then come to unity

3. Striking your Physical Match
     There is a physical difference between man and woman
     Husband wants more
     Wife wants less
     Libido matching-wife is 20% less [mostly]
     Commit to meet each other’s needs
     Accommodate each other
     If one is low, stay back and understand
     Sex in marriage means "we are committed to each other"
     Serve the other spouse