Book Review: The 8th Habit

Title/ Author/ ISBN; The 8th Habit Stephen R. Covey
ISBN-978-0-684-84665-1
Pages=328
Introduction The book 8th Habit is about personal leadership. The main theme is finding your voice and inspiring others to find theirs. When personal leadership is fully developed and grounded within, it can be used as a springboard to influence others [another dimension of effectiveness]. The 8th Habit is -“Finding your voice and inspire others to find theirs”. The book itself is not just about the 8th Habit, the title is misleading because once you finished reading the book, you end up with a “million things” to absorb/learn, practice, study and implement.
What is the book about? The book is divided into 15 Chapters. The book includes a DVD with 16 videos to be viewed almost at the end of every chapter. The videos are good “eye openers” and speak a lot of meaning. At the end of every chapter beginning in Chapter 4, there is a Question and Answer portion, these are off topic questions [sometimes] but has a lot of wisdom and good answers.

Chapters:
Chapter 1-The Pain
Chapter 2-The Problem
Chapter 3-The Solution
Chapter 4-Discover Your Voice
Chapter 5-Express Your Voice
Chapter 6-Inspiring Others to Find Their Voice-The Leadership Challenge
Chapter 7-The Voice of Influence
Chapter 8-The Voice of Trustworthiness
Chapter 9-The Voice and Speed of Trust
Chapter 10-Blending Voices
Chapter 11-One Voice
Chapter 12-The Voice and Discipline of Execution
Chapter 13-The Empowering Voice
Chapter 14-The 8th Habit and the Sweet Spot
Chapter 15-Using Our Voices Wisely to Serve Others

My Notes:
Recap: 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

1. Be proactive
2. Begin with the end in mind
3. Put first things first
4. Think Win-Win
5. Seek first to understand then to be understood
6. Synergize
7. Sharpen the saw
8. Find your voice and inspire others to find theirs

Two Steps to 8th Habit
A. Find your voice
-engage in work that genuinely taps your talents and fuels your passion
-to do something significant with your career
-to sense an unmet need
-harness all your talents and passion to meet that need
-to take the path to greatness rather than settling for mediocrity

B. Inspire others to find their voices
-continue your achievements by helping others finding their voice as well
-recognize, respect and create meaningful opportunities for others to express their voices
-to breathe life into another
-encourage and positively influence others within your organization

Focus
1. Expand your influence
2. Be trustworthy
3. Build trust
4. Blend other’s voices
5. Create a common vision

Execution
1. Align goals and systems
2. Empower others

Voice-Unique Personal Significance
1. Talent-natural gifts and talents
2. Need-know what the world needs [or workplace, or community]
3. Conscience-still small voice
4. Passion-things that naturally energize, excite, motivate and inspire

Life is too short-mindset change
1. To Live
2. To Love
3. To Leave a legacy

5 Ages of Civilization
1. Hunter/Gatherer Age
2. Agricultural Age
3. Industrial Age
4. Information/Knowledge Worker Age
5. Wisdom Age

Video Lesson Max and Max:
1. Do your job and your job only disease
2. Confusing leadership disease
3. Initiative killers

Whole Person Paradigm-4 Dimensions of a Person
1. Mind-To learn, growth and development
2. Body-To live, survival
3. Heart-To love, relationship
4. Spirit-To leave a legacy, meaning and contribution

6 Levels of Choice
1. Rebel or Quit
2. Malicious obedience
3. Willing compliance
4. Cheerful cooperation
5. Heartfelt commitment
6. Creative excitement

A Great Organization
1. Can sustain long term growth
2. Provide prosperity
3. Contribute to the world

Habit is the glue of:
1. Knowledge
2. Attitude
3. Skills

Hardwired Birth Gifts
1. Freedom and power to choose
2. Principles [natural laws-universal, timeless, self-evident]
3. The 4 Intelligences/Capacities
IQ-Mental
PQ-Physical/Economic
EQ-Emotional/Social
SQ-Spiritual

Stimulus and Response is separated by our Freedom to Choose

5 Component of Emotional Intelligence-EQ
1. Self-awareness
2. Personal motivation
3. Self-regulation
4. Empathy
5. Social skills

Components of Spiritual Intelligence
1. Integrity-being true to one’s highest values and conscience
2. Meaning-a sense of contribution to people and causes
3. Voice-aligning work with one’s unique calling and gifts

Video Lessons: Law of the Harvest
Preparation
Patience
Respect Law of Nature
Acknowledge Human Element
Avoid shortcuts

4 Leadership Must Haves
1. Have a vision-Mind
2. Have discipline-Body
3. Have passion-Heart
4. Have a conscience-Spirit

Traits of Significant Person
A-Vision-Mental Intelligence/Capacity
1. Idealistic
2. Long term perspective
3. Anticipates failure
4. Dreamer
5. People believer
6. Sets expectations
7. Philosophical
8. Pioneering
9. Strategic Thinker
10.Hopeful
11.Outside the box

B- Discipline-Physical Intelligence/Capacity
1. Realistic
2. Focused
3. Execution
4. Constant
5. Takes initiatives
6. Committed
7. Hard working
8.Tenacious
9. Willing to sacrifice
10. Self-disciplined
11. Competent
12. Consistent
13. Decisive

C-Passion-Emotional Intelligence/Capacity
1. Optimistic
2. Hope
3. Synergistic
4. Courageous
5. Emphatic
6. Inclusive
7. Affirming
8. Fearless
9. Challenging
10. Sensitive
11. Motivating
12. Fun
13. Influential
14. Humor
15. People oriented

D-Conscience-Spiritual Intelligence/Capacity
1. Enthusiastic
2. Intuitive
3. Takes responsibility
4. Moral
5. Wise
6. Integrity
7. Servant
8. Humble
9. Fair
10. Abundant
11. Ethical
12. Inspired
13. Compassionate
14. Respectful
15. Cause oriented

What do successful leaders do?
1. Set direction-vision, customers, future
2. Demonstrate personal character-habits, integrity, trust, analytical thinking
3. Mobilize individual commitment-engage others, share power
4. Engender organizational capability-build teams, manage teams

4 Primary Management Practices
1. Strategy-devise and maintain a clearly stated focused strategy
2. Execution-develop and maintain flawless operation execution
3. Culture-develop and maintain a performance oriented culture
4. Structure-build and maintain a fast, flexible, flat organization

7 Levels of Initiative
1. Wait until told.
2. Ask
3. Make a recommendation
4. I intend to
5. Do it and report immediately
6. Do it and report periodically
7. Do it

5 Cancerous Behaviors
1. Criticizing
2. Complaining
3. Comparing
4. Competing
5. Contending

Survey Said: “Character of Effective Leader”
1. Integrity [the top quality]
2. Communicator
3. People Focused
4. Visionary
5. Caring
6. Decision Maker
7. Dedicated
8. A Model
9. Motivator
10. Expert
11. Courageous

Effective Team/Individual
1. Clear Mission and Values
2. Goals are set
3. Plan Weekly
4. Plan Daily

Types/Levels of Listening
1. Ignoring
2. Pretend Listening [patronizing]
3. Selective Listening
4. Attentive Listening
5. Empathic Listening [within the other’s frame of reference][highest level]

Solution Continuum
1. Lose-Win/Win-Lose [transaction]
2. Compromise [transaction]
3. Mutual understanding [without agreeing] [transformation]
4. Win-Lose/Lose-Win [with increased understanding and caring] [transformation]
5. Compromise on issue [synergy in relationship] [transformation]
6. Synergy on issue and in relationship [transformation][stay on this]

Video Lessons: Goal
1. Unable to identify top goal and priorities
2. Not passionate about the goal
3. Less time spent on goals
4. Don’t understand what to do

Video Lessons: Berlin Wall
1. Barriers exist within people
2. Barriers prevents communication
3. Barriers cannot be broken in  a short time
4. Barriers are sometimes spiritual-unseen
5. People are different even after the barrier is taken down

Point of View Changes the World
You cannot change the world
But you can change the facts
And when you change the facts,
You changes point of view
When you change the point of view,
You can change the world

Survey Said: What is holding Empowerment?
1. Manager afraid to let go [let go of micromanagement]
2. Misaligned systems
3. Manager lack skills
4. Employee lack skills
5. Employee don’t want responsibility
6. Manager too busy
7. Management too controlling
8. Lack of company vision
9. Employee don’t trust manager
10. Employee lack integrity

A Servant Leader 5 Questions
1. How is it going?
2. What are you learning?
3. What are your goals?
4. How can I help you?
5. How am I doing as a helper?

4 Roles of Leadership
1. Modeling-Inspire trust without expecting it [personal moral authority]
2. Pathfinding-create order without demanding it [visionary moral authority]
3. Aligning-nourishes both vision and empowerment without proclaiming them [institutional moral authority]
4. Empowering-unleashes human potential without externally motivating it [cultural moral authority]

Modes of Communication
1. Hostility [1+1=-1] [contention]
2. Defensive Communication [1+1=5] [contention]
3. Communication Compromise [1+1=1.5] [transaction]
4. Synergy-Third Alternative [1+1=3, 10, 100] [transformation]

Execution Gap
1. Unable to identify top goals and priorities
2. Not passionate about the goal
3. Less time spent on goals
4. Don’t understand what to do

Requisite of a successful team:
1. Mission-clear purpose
2. Strategic planning-main strategy on how to accomplish the mission
3. Structure-detailed roadmap of actions; people, resources, tools [templates, database, spreadsheets, documentation

Mission Statement
1. should encompass your sense of purpose, your vision and your values
2. strategic plan-crisp descriptions of how you will provide value to your customer [value proposition]; focus and voice
3. strategic plan=action plan, realizing your vision and values everyday

Level 5 Leadership Hierarchy
Level 1-Highly Capable Individual, makes productive contributions through talent, knowledge, skills and good work habits
Level 2-Contributing Team Member, contributes to the achievement of group objectives, works effectively with others in a group settings
Level 3-Competent Manager, organizes people and resources toward effective and effective pursuit of predetermined objectives
Level 4-Effective Leader, catalyzes commitment to and vigorous pursuit of a clear and compelling vision; stimulates the group to high performance standards
Level 5-Executive, builds enduring greatness through a paradoxical combination of personal humility plus professional will

What do you think about the book? The success and the impact/influence of the 7 Habits across the globe transformed many individuals from just being “good” to “being great”. Personally, I’ve been a believer and a practitioner of the 7 Habits many years ago. My favorite is the Time Management Matrix-Quadrant2. Truly a remarkable starting point to get things organized in our personal life. Knowing the fundamental principles of a true working leadership theory, one should not hesitate to include the 7 Habits as the core/guiding principle in life. Later on, once mastery is attained to the fullest; apply/utilize the 8th Habit. The 8th Habit takes the 7 Habits as the basic foundation of personal development and then later implemented like a building block to transform a person, a family, a workplace or an organization. Influencing a person or a friend or a child or a colleague is a broad subject by itself and takes a lot of wisdom/demand on how to truly impact their lives with what we currently believe and practice. The author took time and effort and provided plenty of explanation and theories and gave examples on how to guide others to find their voice. The first step before we can even think of executing the 8th Habit is to find/know our voice. Once our voice is identified and engrained in our personal habits/systems and the voice itself is grounded in solid foundation of our own “life examples” and “life experiences” we can then share it to someone. You cannot share what you don’t have and it is impossible to really give what you do not practice. Many people are finding the hard truth of why our personal leadership is ineffective. The true/short answer is most likely; we have not “got it” ourselves yet. There are many components to become a great leader/person. One has to constantly sharpen those fundamental skills/traits daily and work towards flawlessness and constancy of application to real life situation. There is no shortcut to true personal leadership, one has to acquire each skillset one a time and then later on we become capable to inspire others and one day they too will nod their head and say – “this is a good example of true leadership and me too – I want to inspire others to find their meaning and voice”. In doing so, we transform a person at first and then our surroundings and then our organization and then the world.
Conclusions/Recommendations: I was in the mid part of the book when I shared the 8th Habit to someone. I asked him if he knows about the 7 Habits and he said yes. Then later I asked him if he heard about the 8th Habit, he became curious instantly but when I told him that the 8th Habit demands us to inspire others – he automatically become so antagonistic about the subject and we started having a debate. His point of view are these:
1. At work, I have to compete to survive.
2. Why would I inspire others? Who cares about other employees?
3. I worked hard to get where I am, everyone should go through the same ordeal.

I was speechless and unable to carry on the conversation. Later in my reading of the book, I came across the 5 cancerous behaviors. That is when I realized that a personal transformation must happen first. The transformation must come inside the core of our self – mind, body, heart and spirit. Without the visible transformation, a person cannot set out to sail in the business of inspiring other people. It takes great humility and firm belief system to transform an individual. A person can read several motivational/self-help books, listens to great speakers but without the spiritual transformation within, the human nature will take over and dominate the person and will eventually show the symptoms of the cancerous behaviors of criticizing, complaining, comparing, competing and contending. Step Zero-get rid of this cancerous attitudes.

The Book 8th Habit is a lengthy read. I managed to take notes as I went along through the 20 pages/day pace. I wish they have a Kindle version of the book so that I can just screenshot key points and take notes. There are a good amount of theories to dissect and absorb but generally the knowledge and wisdom of what Covey is talking about is easily comprehensible.

I made a summary of key points on this report to remind me of the things that I’ve read. Reading the key points will not immerse you to the full effect of the message of the book. You really have to read the book to know what Covey is talking about.

Recommendations:
1. Read the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People before reading this book.
2. Take notes when reading this book. Mark or highlight key points so that when you try to go back for a second reading, you know where to go.
3. Take time to absorb the material and then apply. You have to practice it.
4. Establish a clear personal mission statement. Once done, inspiring others will come natural.

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