Notes-VisualMeeting

Being a technical person and a pure problem solver at work, I made it clear to my peers and boss that I don’t like to attend meetings.  If you want to discuss something with me, you need to drop by at my cube and I will give you my undivided attention.  My line of work has evolved lately and I have to spend more time in the carpet [this is what my factory peers choose to call the people in the cubicle – carpet worker or armchair quarterback] . Being in the carpet, we are always called for meetings for just about anything that comes up in our department.  If a hard problem arises, they call for a meeting.  If a mouse is trapped in the cabinet, they call for a meeting. [I’m just kidding] .There is also a daily morning meeting at 0750 which is better now due to the carefully planned agenda.  But sometimes, this morning meeting can also suffer from the syndrome called “meeting bounce” where a topic on the table is not part of the main agenda.  This ‘”meeting bounce” syndrome can be hard to stop sometimes especially when the bouncer are your superiors.

This weekend, I wanted to learn more about improving the way we hold meetings and did some search on the web of a good book to educate me.  I ended up with Visual Meetings by Sibbet.  I took some notes but you really have to read the book yourself to get the full dosage of learning.  Such a good read and lots of illustration as the book implied – Visual.

Book-Visual Meetings
Author-David Sibbet
ISBN: 978-0470601785
Chapters: 23
Pages: 259
My Rating: 5 Stars

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Notes-VisualMeeting

  • Core Idea
    • Imagine
      • Imagine the problem to solve
      • Explore the pattern
      • Store chunks of information
      • Find the pattern
    • Vision
      • Listen
      • Visualize
      • See
      • Talk
    • Values
    • Action
    • Results
  • Meetings
    • Purpose of Meeting
      • Launch a team
      • Make decision
      • Track/Guide progress
      • Lead change process
    • Meeting starts in our imagination
    • Visualize meeting purposes and objectives
    • You can’t control thinking but can guide it
    • Tools for visual meetings
      • Display
      • Mapping
      • Diagramming
    • Visions to action
      • Roadmap
      • Gameplan
      • Progress map
      • Task list
      • Journey charts
      • Dashboards
    • Power of visual meetings
      • Sparking imagination
      • Thinking Big picture
      • Engaging people actively
      • Supporting group memory and productivity
    • Why Meetings?
      • Why are we here?
      • Who are you?
        • What might you be asking
      • What are we doing?
        • How are we going to do it?
    • Models
      • Who is there?
      • Who are you?
      • What are we doing?
      • How are we going to do it?
    • Types of meeting
      • Welcoming new members
      • Initial session
      • Brainstorming and design
      • Annual meeting
      • Visioning session
      • Problem solving
      • Learning session
      • Decision making
      • Project kickoff
      • Board retreat
      • Virtual team meeting
  • Learning
    • Learning Cycle
      • Imagination with intentions and task focus
      • Exploration and engagement
      • Thinking/pattern finding
      • Decision to move to action and application
  • Thinking
    • Process of finding connection
    • Solving problems
    • Revealing a design
    • Setting the criteria for decision
    • The Thinking Process
      • What are the simplest/the most fundamental elements
      • Work towards the most complex
    • 4 Ways To Get Started
      • Personal visualization using journal/sketchbook
      • One on one meeting
      • Graphic template
      • Let others draw
    • Thinking Exercises
      • Doodle faces
      • Spontaneous drawing
      • Mind mapping
      • Spontaneous writing
        • write a question and answer w/out thinking
      • Trace drawing
      • Note taking
      • landscapes
  • 4WH
    • Who?
    • What?
    • When?
    • Where?
    • How?
  • Journaling
    • Draw setting charts
    • Practice bullet points
    • Play with lines and borders
    • Doodle little people
    • Play with cartoon bubble
    • Take notes in a different format
  • Push and Pull
    • Push
      • asserts itself
      • changes things by adding context
      • Rule based
      • Guidelines
      • Creates resistance
      • ex. Powerpoint is a push
    • People feel pushed by
      • Instructions
      • Dense contents
      • Predesigned formats
      • Confrontation/attacks
      • Decision
      • Evaluation
      • Proposal
    • People feel pulled by
      • Open questions
      • Simple images
      • Silence
      • Moving back out of the way
      • Blank paper/blank spaces
      • Open hand drawn charts
      • Uncertainty
      • Breakdown in agenda
  • Brainstorming
    • Rules
      • Suspend judgment
      • Speak whatever occurs
      • Don’t edit, same ideas ok
      • Write down all ideas
      • Work quickly
    • Types of Brainstorming
      • List brainstorming
      • Howto or I wonder
      • Sticky notes wall
      • Vision breakout
      • Improvise
        • make things up
      • Discuss/propose
    • 5 Steps
      • Understand the problems
      • Identify success criteria
      • Brainstorm solution
      • Pick best solution
      • Implement solution
  • Storyboarding
    • Break information down
    • Arrange in narrative flow
    • Look at the big picture
  • Idea Mapping
    • add central idea in the middle
    • Identify something connected
    • create branch
    • keep adding branches
    • Purpose
      • to stimulate thinking
      • to think linearly
  • Visioning Process
    • Preparing
    • Exploring and learning
    • Agreeing on current realities
    • Opening to a vision
    • Creating strategies
    • Implementing change
    • Living the vision
    • Exercise
      • Write your career histories, 15years
      • Write your career future, 5 years
  • SWOT
    • Strength
    • Weakness
    • Opportunities
    • Threats
  • Change
    • How to change
      • Go beyond brainstorm session
      • Come to shared agreement
      • Unite what step to begin
    • stress tension=creative tension
    • Creative people
      • they have the capacity to keep themselves in the space of creative tension long enough to create extraordinary results

        each day, they make progress

        structural tension drives creative action

        they have an appetite for creative tension and hold their visions while exploring every way possible to change current reality

    • Agreeing on Action Plan
      • Where are we now?
      • Where do we want to go?
      • How do we get there?
      • What are the success factors?
  • Team Performance
    • Flow of action
    • Flow of energy
    • Flow of information
    • Flow of operation
    • Models
      • Orientation
        • Why here?
      • Trust building
        • Who are you?
      • Goal clarification
        • What are we doing?
      • Commitment
        • How will we do it?
      • Implementation
        • Who does what/when/where?
      • High performance
        • WOW
      • Renewal
        • Why continue?
    • Decision Funnel
      • Proposal for action
      • Dot vote
      • Hi/Lo graphs
      • Agree
  • Visual Problem Solving
    • Use frequency checklist
    • Use scatter diagrams
    • Use pareto charts
    • Use fishbone diagram
    • Use histogram
    • Use flow charts
    • Use control charts

Field Notes

 

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Field Notes

  • Why Field Notes?
    • To gain insights
    • To learn from experience
    • To document life
  • Contents
    • Date, Time and Place of observation
    • Specific facts, numbers, details of what happened
    • Sensory impression: sights, sounds, textures, smells, taste
    • Personal responses
    • Specific words, phrases, summaries of conversation
    • Questions about people or behaviors
    • Page Number
  • 4 Major Parts
    • 1. Jotting down brief words
    • 2. Detailed description
    • 3. Analysis of what you learned
    • 4. Reflection of what you learned

Observation and Field Notes – Human Computer Interaction
On writing fieldnotes: collection strategies and background …
Chapter One. Fieldnotes in Ethnographic Research
Field Notes — “I’m not writing it down to remember it later, I’m writing …

BookNotes: The Brain That Changes Itself

If I have to come up with a top 5 books that I’ve read,  this one will be in the list.  I’m not going to ruin the surprise but when you get a chance, find a way to acquire and read this book.  Such an eye opener about almost anything related to the way we think and perceive things.

Although this is not a Christian book, the author mentioned Exodus 20:18 in the first chapter.  Good enough for my credibility check at least he reads or know what a Bible verse is.

 Exodus 20:18 – “And the saw the voices” [ During all this time, the people in the valley heard the thundering and saw the lightning on the mountain. They saw smoke rising from the mountain and heard the sound of the trumpet. They were afraid and shook with fear. They stood away from the mountain and watched.”

.Book-The Brain That Changes Itself 
Author-Norman Doidge
ISBN: 9781921753091
Chapters: 11
Pages: 448
Excerpt 
FAQ

myNotes [in progress]
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Prepare The Way

Prepare The Way  [Listen in Spotify]
Paul Wilbur

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We were born in the time of triumph
We were born on a battlefield
We were born for a such a time as this
We were born for a true revival
We were born for a harvest field
We were born for a such a time as this

So let the earth shake
Let the stars fall
Let the mountains tremble
We are not afraid
Let the people
Let the faithful stand and say

Prepare the way, He was
Prepare the way, He is
Prepare the way, He is to come

This is the sound of the generation
This is the song of the Royal King
You are born for such a time like this
He will return the declaration
He will appear every eye will see
We are born for a such a time as this


During worship yesterday at Celebration Church, I asked God to explain to me why there is calamity? [Tsunami, 9/11, wars, now Oklahoma tornado] but I came home with unanswered question.  Today, as I opened Spotify and played my favorite Christian music, I stumbled upon the new album by Paul Wilbur “Your Great Name”. This song spoke to my heart and answered my question.  I did not get my direct answer but I remember in the Bible that these days are coming… and warned us not to be surprised.

Our instructions: Prepare The Way

INCIDENT: Running a Red Light Lesson +Countermeasure

INCIDENT:  My 17 years old son ignored the right turn red traffic light. Parents paid $75.00 fine.
DATE: March 1, 2013, Friday 20:15:24
LOCATION: Intersection of Red Bud and Forest Creek Ln
COUNTERMEASURE:  Explain what a Red Light is. It means a complete STOP
No. of Days having a license: 70 Days [since December 21, 2012]
Penalty: $75.00
Benefit: Brain mapping of RED LIGHT = COMPLETE STOP

ISFailure-RunningARedLight.pdf
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Analysis: $75.00 Unnecessary Fine 17 Years old son ran a red light
    Training Issue
        Lack of knowledge
        Unaware of the law
        Unaware of what the red traffic light means
            Countermeasure: Explain what a Red Light is. It means a complete STOP
        Trainer [me] did not mention in training
    Mechanical Failure
        Brakes did not work
        Road slippery
    Traffic Light Camera Problem
        Traffic camera triggered prematurely
        Traffic proximity sensor malfuntion
    Attitude
        Don’t care
        In a hurry
        Rebelling against authority
        Totally ignoring the red light

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Freeware Mind Mapping Software

I was looking for a cheap and simple alternative to Visio 2010 mind mapping and fault tree feature and I found these two applications to be just as effective.  Please add these to your toolbox.   .

Download Freemind
Download Freeplane
Download Sample GTD Mindmap.pdf

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BookSummary: Fault Trees

Book-Fault Trees
Author-Nikolaos Limnios
ISBN-978-1-905209-30-9
Pages: 224
Chapters: 10

Chapter 1 Single-Component Systems
Chapter 2 Multi-Component Systems
Chapter 3 Construction of Fault Trees
Chapter 4 Minimal Sets
Chapter 5 Probabilistic Assessment
Chapter 6 Influence Assessment
Chapter 7 Modules – Phases – Common Modes
Chapter 8 Extensions: Non-Coherent, Delay and Multistate Fault Trees
Chapter 9 Binary Decision Diagrams
Chapter 10 Stochastic Simulation of Fault Trees

NASA Fault Tree Handbook [alternate download]
Visio Template
Visio Template-myVersion
Excel Data Template-myVersion
Fault Tree Sample
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Dependability: a generic term encompassing the concepts of reliability, availability,
maintainability, security, etc. It is also simply designated by the term
“reliability”, which underlines its quantitative aspect.

The aim of reliability is the study of systems (sets of elements – hardware,
software, human resources – that interact with a view to accomplishing a mission)
that are subjected to physical processes such as the processes of failure,
repair, and stresses.

The component is a part of a system which is non-resolvable within the
framework of the study for which sufficient qualitative information (functioning,
modes of failure, etc.) as well as quantitative information (failure rate, repair
rate, etc.) has been provided in this study. The notion of component is relative
and depends on the study. For example, an aircraft, within the framework of a
study dealing with flight safety, represents the system, whereas for the airline
company it represents a component.

Fault Trees [FT]-quantitative modeling of a system.
– a deductive way of finding faults in a system
– represents a failure mode of a subsystem or component
– if not studying system faults, it is called Event Tree
– to obtain the map of a complex system quantitatively
– to improve reliability
– to find faults of a system
– systematic modeling of a system structure
– to model human errors

Minimal cut sets-the minimal path for studying the reliability of a system [simplified]

Classification of Reliability
1. Component Reliability
2. Reliability Statistics
3. Reliability of Systems

Classes of Systems
1. System components
2. System’s structure function
3. Maintenance Systems
4. Binary systems
5. Multi performance systems
6. Non-repairable systems
7. Repairable
8. The mission

3 Stages of FT Modeling
1. Construction of the tree
2. Qualitative analysis
3. Quantitative analysis
Note: the construction should be exhaustive in nature representing all the significant causes for the failure of the system

3 Questions To Ask
1. What are the failure modes of the component and of the system?
2. How does the system break down?
3. What is the probability of the system breaking down?

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The Qualitative Analysis
– deals with methods for obtaining the minimal sets: minimal cut sets and minimal paths
– what is the top event?
– what is undesirable?

Reliability Phase Diagram
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(a) non-repairable system
(b) repairable system
1: state of good functioning
2: state of breakdown

Multi-Component Systems

Whereas in the case of single-component systems the failure in the component
implies the failure of the system, this is no longer the case for
multi-component systems, at least not automatically. The failure in a multi component
system arises in the wake of the failure in the sub-sets of well-defined
components. For example, the failure in one of the four cylinders of a car does
not jeopardize its overall working: it works badly, but it still works. On the
other hand, the failure of the drive shaft leads to the immobilization of the car.

Let us consider the brake system of a vehicle, made up of front
and rear brakes. If the rear brakes are down, we can still continue braking.
On the other hand, if both the brakes are down (front and rear), we can no
longer brake and the braking system is declared to be failed. If the front brakes
be indicated by x1 and the rear brakes by x2, then the braking system of the
vehicle can be described by the function:

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Elementary structure systems

The distinction between elementary structure systems and complex structure
systems is very useful in matters of reliability. The elementary structure
systems are concerned with series structure and the parallel structure or, more
precisely, the structure k-over-n, which is a generalization of the preceding two
structures. Any system giving a k-over-n structure through successive reductions
is called a elementary structure system. In the contrary case, it is known
as a complex structure system. The structural function of an elementary structure
system is obtained directly using the functions of structures, as described
in the following section. On the contrary, for the complex structure systems,
we require the notions of minimal cut set or of minimal path.

Series system
A system is said to be in series if its functioning is subjected to the simultaneous
functioning of all its components. If just one of its components is failed,
then the system will have broken down.

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Parallel system
The functioning of this system is assured, if at least one of its components
is in good state. The system will be failed if and only if all its components are
simultaneously failed.

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Parallel-series system
This is formed by r blocks mounted in series, and each block i constitutes
a parallel system of ij components j =1, …, r.

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Series-parallel system
This is formed by r blocks mounted in parallel, and each block i constitutes
a series system of ij components j =1, …, r.

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Systems with complex structure
A system that cannot be directly classified into the preceding cases of elementary
structures is called a system with complex structure. For the study
of systems with complex structure, the concepts of minimal paths and cuts (in
the case of monotone structures) must be introduced. The system in Figure 2.6
is a system with complex structure. This system cannot be directly classified
into modules with traditional structures. If the input/output of this system are
located at the extremities of component 3, it will then involve a system with
elementary structure.

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Path: a sub-set of components whose simultaneous good functioning will
assure the good working of the system, which is independent of the states of
the other components.

Minimal path: a path which does not contain another path.

Cut set: a sub-set of components whose simultaneous failure leads to the
system failure, which is independent of the states of the other components.

Minimal cut set: a cut set that does not contain another cut set.

Reliability bounds
The exact calculation for the reliability of the systems is very costly (NPhard
problem); that is why the calculation of the bounds, instead of for exact
value, is suitable. We have four types of bounds: the bounds of inclusion–
exclusion, the minimal sets bounds, the “min–max” bounds and the trivial
bounds. Other bounds can be obtained by improving the above-cited bounds
or through the construction of mixed bounds or by a modularization of the
system. It has to be noted that there is a relationship of order among those
four types of bounds. The best bound depends on the problem.

Construction of Fault Trees
Operators
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Special Operators
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Events
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Transfer Triangles
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Graphic Symbols
FT is represented by means of 3 types of graphic symbols
1. Logic Gates or Operators
2. The Events
3. The Transfer Triangles
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Primary operators-when all inputs are basic events
Top Event: A
Intermediate Events, B,C, D, E, F
Basic Events: 1,2,3,4,5,6,7
Non-Elementary Events: 5,6 [transfer triangles]
Event 2 and 3 are repeated events
Operator OR: G1, G3, G4, G5, G6
Operator AND: G2
G5 and G6 are primary operators because all their input are basic events

OR Operator-Series System
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AND Operator-Parallel System
– active redundancy
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Priority AND operator
-passive redundancy
-component2 is in standby but starts when component1 fails
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BookSummary: Full Cup

Book-Full Cup Thirsty Spirit
Author-Karen Horneffer-Ginter
ISBN-978-1401939939
Pages: 224
Chapters: 6

NOTES: Full Cup: Chapter 1-Honoring Our Rhythms
NOTES: Full Cup: Chapter 2-Turning Within
NOTES: Full Cup: Chapter 3-Filling Up
NOTES: Full Cup: Chapter 4-Fully Inhabiting Our Days
NOTES: Full Cup: Chapter 5-Remembering Lightness
NOTES: Full Cup: Chapter 6-Embracing Difficulty

 

# NOTES: FULL CUP
1 We have a rhythm that moves through us [pulsating heart, breathing, mood, hunger, sleep, energy level etc]
2 Rhythms differs from  person to person
3 Rhythms involves showing up in the world and taking a break [1 and 0 or the yes or no, rest or go]
4 Rhythms involves our capacities for activity, engagement, need for rest, renewal and emptying out of debris
5 Our culture asks us to ignore these deeper rhythms
6 When the rhythms are ignored/disregarded, results are fatigue, undefined illness, tiredness, loss of motivation, loss of sense of peace
7 Begin to listen to and notice how your body and soul want you to live.
8 What are they craving most, and what are some small (and maybe not-so-small) ways you could honor this?
9 Are there places where you get stuck in the movement between engaging in the world and turning within?
10 How might you honor this movement between rest and activity, bringing forth new life and releasing what is stale? 
11 What would this honoring look like in your daily, weekly, and monthly life?
12 Experiment in this next month by making small changes and seeing which ones have the biggest impact on your well-being.
13 The Art of Slowing Down [have time]
14 Have time to exercise
15 Have time to read a book
16 Have time to cook a meal
17 Have time to  walk outside
18 Practice the lack of rushing, be a non-rusher
19 Delete the word "hurry" in your vocabulary
20 Remove the personal belief of busyness=being valuable and important
21 Have time to PAUSE! [in the middle of doing something]
22 Choose to walk slowly
23 Sit down and do nothing and think nothing
24 Be more present with yourself
25 Journey to change is complicated but it must be done
26 We chose to rush [not the external forces around us]
27 Practice downshifting very often
28 Are there beliefs you carry about the necessity of being busy that are getting in the way of slowing down? 
29 Reflect on any messages you might have picked up about busyness being associated with success or worthiness. 
30 What do you fear would happen if you slowed down?
31 Which beliefs and fears are you ready to let go of?
32 Reflect on your relationship to rushing. What changes do you want to make? 
33 Are there certain tasks or times of day that might be worth moving through at an intentionally slower pace? 
34 What would help you to shift gears even if only for an hour?
35 Experiment with the art of slowing down—find one activity each day that you can intentionally do at a slow pace. 
36 Try eating a meal slowly, or next time you drive somewhere take your time as you walk from the parking lot to the building. 
37 Take time to notice what it’s like to move at this pace. 
38 What do you notice that would have gone unseen, un-tasted, or unheard on another day?
39 Take time-outs.  Sit in a corner and do nothing or think nothing or take a nap
40 Balancing is viewed as fundamental to healing. 
41 When the body is stagnant, it needs stimulation to begin moving again
42 When it’s depleted, it needs nourishment
43 When it’s damp and cold, it needs heat 
44 When it’s hot and dry, it needs cooling moisture
45 When we’ve been extremely active, we need rest
46 When we’ve been sitting at a computer inside, we need movement outside
47 When we’ve been in our head with too much thinking, we need to reconnect with our heart and our feelings
48 When we’ve been engaged in repetitive tasks, we need inspiration
49 When we’ve been serious, we need some lightness and laughter
50 50 Ways to take a Break
51 1. Take a bath
52 2. Listen to music
53 3. Light a candle
54 4. Rest with your legs up on a wall
55 5. Take a nap
56 6. Listen to a guided relaxation
57 7. Take deep belly breaths
58 8. Let out a sigh
59 9. Turn off all electronics
60 10. Enjoy a warm beverage
61 11. Eat a meal in silence
62 12. Sit in silence
63 13. Write a journal
64 14. Go on a walk
65 15. Sit in nature
66 16. Explore a park
67 17. Go to a farmers’ market
68 18. Meander around town
69 19. Go to a body of water
70 20. Fly a kite
71 21. Watch the clouds
72 22. Watch the stars
73 23. Go for a run
74 24. Take a bike ride
75 25. Drive somewhere new
76 26. Climb a tree
77 27. Do some gentle stretches
78 28. Put on music and dance
79 29. Move twice as slowly
80 30. Notice your body
81 31. Make some music
82 32. Paint on a surface other than paper
83 33. Color with crayons:
84 34. Read or watch something funny
85 35. Read poetry
86 36. Write a quick poem
87 37. Learn something new
88 38. Take a photograph
89 39. Find a relaxing scent
90 40. Examine an everyday object with fresh eyes
91 41. Pet a furry creature
92 42. Buy flowers
93 43. Read a book
94 44. View art
95 45. Let something go
96 46. Forgive someone
97 47. Call a friend
98 48. Write a letter
99 49. Engage in a small act of kindness
100 50. Give thanks
101 When slowing down and taking breaks are not enough, the next step is to step away from life in a more significant way.
102 Unplug from daily life and deeply reconnect with self
103 Time being alone is directly proportional to busyness.  If you are too busy, the more time you need to be alone to unwind
104 Quite time is a must.
105 Set aside a day or two for a retreat
106 Unplug for a day or two from anything
107 Go inward for a day-self retreat.
108 Step away from life for a day or two
109 Create space in your life intentionally
110 Radically simplify your life
111 Don’t peek at your next task or next move, stay with the PRESENT, the "NOW"
112 Feel the event at the moment. Be fully present
113 Set aside one day each week to nourish yourself, talk to self, write a journal about self, meditate, sleep, pray.
114 Connect to what matters most
115 Nourish our spiritual being through rest and reflection produces greater balance.
116 Emotional and physical health is as important as the spiritual.
117 Basics of emotional/physical health often times neglected.
118 Self care is essential to being healthy – body, mind, spirit
119 Don’t ignore the very basics of human needs
120 If we are hungry, we take in food
121 If we are tired, we go to sleep
122 If we need to dispose waste, we go to the bathroom
123 There is a simple relationship between what the body needs and how the body responds, ignoring those needs are not being wise
124 As we become older, we tend to ignore or able to tolerate such needs [peer pressure or just merely the drive to succeed]
125 Are you a black belt in ignoring your needs?
126 When your body request downtime, do you drink coffee instead?
127 We have the mindset of work hard-play hard, do whatever it takes [with disregard to the self needs]
128 Hard work and constant busyness are somehow the main theme in our endeavor.
129 We carry certain beliefs that we don’t need to take care of our self needs/care.
130 Sometimes avoiding self-care was a response to having a mother/father who had been extremely self-absorbed and inattentive and we want to do the opposite
131 Don’t wait for your "tank" to be in EMPTY, fill it up
132 What is the MOST essential now?
133 Dimensions of Life
134 1.Body
135 2. Mind/Heart
136 3. Spirit
137 4. Social Relationship
138 5. Work/Service/Finances
139 6. Home and Family 
140 Stages of Change
141 1. Pre-contemplation (not intending to make a change)
142 2. Contemplation (intending to take action in the next six months)
143 3. Preparation (intending to take action in the next month)
144 4. Action (engaging in the new behavior)
145 5. Maintenance (sustaining the behavioral change over time)
146 Changes takes time.
147 Inhabit-Be present in; exist or be situated within
148 Act intentionally of paying attention to beauty of life/world
149 Discover objects of beauty over and over again
150 Loving-kindness can be defined as “paying attention.
151 “The way we do anything can reflect the way we do everything.”
152 Think the NOW – the present, what you are currently doing and do not wander
153 Do every task as if you are in a sacred ceremony.
154 Show up in life and pay attention
155 Sense the things around you
156 Hear the seen and the unseen
157 Do one thing at a time [strictly]
158 You cannot make soybeans into corn; you cannot make someone he’s/she’s fundamentally not.
159 Practice "Hmm … isn’t that interesting?" [get interested in small wonders around you]
160 Ex.1 I’ve got a $50 parking ticket and I have to write an appeal. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting?" and find a way to write an essay to avoid the fine.
161 Ex.2 My wife is mad at me. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting?" and find a way to win her creatively.
162 Practice
163 Ex.3 I have a heart attack. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting?" and find a way to survive 50 more years after.
164 Ex.4 I lost my job. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting?" and find a way to land a job/livelihood that pays more and more enjoyable.
165 Ex.5 Me my husband lost our love for each other. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting?" and look for ways to get back on track like the first month of the relationship.
166 Ex.6 I failed in my exams today. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting?" and find a creative way to get better.
167 Ex.7 I’ve got cancer and I have 6 months to live. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting?" and find out what else you have not done to make a mark to the people around you.
168 Ex.8 I’m really tired of my job and I want to change. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting? and think 20 years ahead and see what it will be like if you stay put.
169 Ex.10 My life has no direction and I’m stucked. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting? and write down a list of things in a piece of paper that you have not done or explored – then pick one and do it. 
170 Write a journal and tell something about your life.
171 Take a special photograph each day with an intention of finding beauty in it like no one else.
172 4 Questions
173 1. When did you stop singing
174 2. When did you stop dancing
175 3. When did you lose your sense of enchantment with stories, and in particular, your own life story?
176 4. When did you become uncomfortable with silence?
177 Lightness-a feeling of joy and pride
178 Seriousness-opposite of lightness [sort of]
179 Humor and lightness disappear as we mature
180 Life becomes more serious when serious things happen like illnesses or the loss of relationships, loved ones, or jobs.
181 As to-do lists increase and the balance between work and home gets more complicated, humor and fun depart
182 Find enchantment in life by making a difference in the world around us and offer a sense of meaning and fulfillment in our lives
183 Identify things that make you come alive
184 Identify things that deplete you, then avoid
185 How do you relate to difficulty?
186 Sometimes what’s behind our choice to be busy, consciously or unconsciously, is a desire to avoid feeling our pain
187 If you can’t get out of it, get into it
188 Life is filled with crossroad moments, how do you face it?
189 How do you face unpleasant emotions? 
190 Common responses: denial, becoming anxious, drinking alcohol, getting busier, blame others, self blame
191 Most human suffering is not getting what we want or getting what we don’t want.
192 The best response to unpleasant experience or emotion – get into it. [face it]
193 Don’t be running around talking about the monster in the closet.  Open the closet and see what this perceived monster really is.
194 Sometimes in life we find ourselves, cursing at situations that are empty of blame. If no one is to blame, get to the next phase – acceptance.
195 Embrace our emotions, it helps to see that often the experiences that bring us to our knees are also what allow us to grow into the fullness of who we really are.
196 Fire of painful feelings, sometimes their presence is a gift in disguise.
197 Know, Accept and Befriend Ourselves
198 All humans, at their core, want to be loved and to feel like they have something to offer
199 I want to be loved. I want to do well.
200 Human Vulnerabilities:
201 1. wanting to fit in socially
202 2. wanting to have love reciprocated
203 3. wanting to be appreciated by family
204 4. wanting to be acknowledged at work
205 5. wanting intimacy
206 6. wanting to be accepted, 
207 7. wanting to feel pretty enough
208 8. wanting to feel capable of tackling the demands of daily life, of overcoming fears, or of feeling strong enough to continue functioning in the face of depression or illness.
209 It’s okay to be humbled. It’s okay not to be all that we are expected
210 Allow yourself to amused at not winning or being proven wrong or being made fool of
211 Remember to use kindness in times of difficulties
212 How can I deal with the enormous fear and anger that I feel about what happened? ANSWER: Do one kind thing for someone every day.
213 Allow bad experiences to act as an inner fertilizer that can strengthen our capacity to open our hearts to ourselves and to those around us.
214 Think of self-compassion during a time of distress but use kindness to others as a method of delivery
215 The secret of happiness: Find something more important than you are and dedicate your life to it

NOTES: Full Cup: Chapter 6-Embracing Difficulty

Book-Full Cup Thirsty Spirit
Author-Karen Horneffer-Ginter
ISBN-978-1401939939
Pages: 224
Chapters: 6

185 How do you relate to difficulty?
186 Sometimes what’s behind our choice to be busy, consciously or unconsciously, is a desire to avoid feeling our pain
187 If you can’t get out of it, get into it
188 Life is filled with crossroad moments, how do you face it?
189 How do you face unpleasant emotions? 
190 Common responses: denial, becoming anxious, drinking alcohol, getting busier, blame others, self blame
191 Most human suffering is not getting what we want or getting what we don’t want.
192 The best response to unpleasant experience or emotion – get into it. [face it]
193 Don’t be running around talking about the monster in the closet.  Open the closet and see what this perceived monster really is.
194 Sometimes in life we find ourselves, cursing at situations that are empty of blame. If no one is to blame, get to the next phase – acceptance.
195 Embrace our emotions, it helps to see that often the experiences that bring us to our knees are also what allow us to grow into the fullness of who we really are.
196 Fire of painful feelings, sometimes their presence is a gift in disguise.
197 Know, Accept and Befriend Ourselves
198 All humans, at their core, want to be loved and to feel like they have something to offer
199 I want to be loved. I want to do well.
200 Human Vulnerabilities:
201 1. wanting to fit in socially
202 2. wanting to have love reciprocated
203 3. wanting to be appreciated by family
204 4. wanting to be acknowledged at work
205 5. wanting intimacy
206 6. wanting to be accepted, 
207 7. wanting to feel pretty enough
208 8. wanting to feel capable of tackling the demands of daily life, of overcoming fears, or of feeling strong enough to continue functioning in the face of depression or illness.
209 It’s okay to be humbled. It’s okay not to be all that we are expected
210 Allow yourself to amused at not winning or being proven wrong or being made fool of
211 Remember to use kindness in times of difficulties
212 How can I deal with the enormous fear and anger that I feel about what happened? ANSWER: Do one kind thing for someone every day.
213 Allow bad experiences to act as an inner fertilizer that can strengthen our capacity to open our hearts to ourselves and to those around us.
214 Think of self-compassion during a time of distress but use kindness to others as a method of delivery
215 The secret of happiness: Find something more important than you are and dedicate your life to it

PRACTICE:
1. What difficult emotions do you tend to push away? What feeling do you wish you would never have to experience again? Why?
2. How might you begin to develop a sense of hardiness in your ability to feel the sensations associated with this emotion?
3. Is there someone who could hold space for you to explore the monster-like qualities of these feared emotions?
4. Can you connect to the truth that other humans share this same pain?
5. What have been the tricksters in your life? What has caused you to be shattered? Have you found unexpected gifts in these unwanted situations?
6. Consider writing a vow to yourself. What would you want to say, at the altar, if you were to marry yourself? What commitments do you want to make?
7. What areas of vulnerability are you aware of? How do you respond to their presence?
8. What would it look like to accept and befriend yourself in moments when you feel humbled by life?
9. What tools help you to be in conversation with yourself: journaling, artistic expression, movement, communicating with others either in person or online?
10. What is the connection between kindness and difficulty in your own life?
11. What would it look like and feel like to be kind to yourself in your day-to-day life, especially when you next encounter pain or difficulty?
12. If you notice the presence of critical inner voices, see if you can identify where they come from. Notice, also, what these critical voices want for you and what they’re concerned might happen if they don’t voice their judgment.
13. Reflect on how kindness shows up in your interactions with others.
14. Can you think of a small act of kindness that made a big difference in your life? In what ways do you feel drawn to offer kindness to others?
15. Do you notice a connection between compassion and busyness in your daily life? When you initially feel too busy to be compassionate, what can you do to shift that feeling?
16. Sometimes this awareness, alone, can help us remember that kindness is always an option.

NOTES: Full Cup: Chapter 5-Remembering Lightness

Book-Full Cup Thirsty Spirit
Author-Karen Horneffer-Ginter
ISBN-978-1401939939
Pages: 224
Chapters: 6

 

177 Lightness-a feeling of joy and pride
178 Seriousness-opposite of lightness [sort of]
179 Humor and lightness disappear as we mature
180 Life becomes more serious when serious things happen like illnesses or the loss of relationships, loved ones, or jobs.
181 As to-do lists increase and the balance between work and home gets more complicated, humor and fun depart
182 Find enchantment in life by making a difference in the world around us and offer a sense of meaning and fulfillment in our lives
183 Identify things that make you come alive
184 Identify things that deplete you, then avoid

PRACTICE:
”1. Where in your life could you use some humor and lightness: in your relationships, at work, in your ways of approaching self-care?
2. What are some ways of lightening up your life that would work for you?
3. What might be the benefits of such lightness for you—possibly feeling less stressed or finding a greater sense of acceptance or creativity or gratitude in life?
4. Are there stressful situations you can reframe, possibly imaging them to be part of the plot line in a comedy? (Of course, you don’t have to make clay figures.) Play with this mind-set during the week as life challenges you or seems utterly serious. See if this helps to shift your felt sense of busyness.
5. Consider doing the comparison exercised described. Create one side that depicts things that make you come alive and the other representing things that deplete you. Be honest with yourself about what shows up in both sections. Is there anything that surprises you?
6. How can you shift the timing of when or how you do certain activities to lessen the ways in which they exhaust you?
7. Are there ways you can enliven the potentially mundane tasks of everyday life, like waiting?
8. How might you spice up your life with some new adventuresome activities? What would be your version of getting a pet monkey?
9. Are there aspects of your life that have gotten too narrowly defined?
10. What brings you joy, fun, and amusement?
11. Are there new activities you’d like to try or activities you used to do that possibly you’d like to dust off and revisit? These may be hobbies that are purely for your entertainment or endeavors that might be both fun as well as of value to those around you.”

NOTES: Full Cup: Chapter 4-Fully Inhabiting Our Days

Book-Full Cup Thirsty Spirit
Author-Karen Horneffer-Ginter
ISBN-978-1401939939
Pages: 224
Chapters: 6

147 Inhabit-Be present in; exist or be situated within
148 Act intentionally of paying attention to beauty of life/world
149 Discover objects of beauty over and over again
150 Loving-kindness can be defined as “paying attention.
151 “The way we do anything can reflect the way we do everything.”
152 Think the NOW – the present, what you are currently doing and do not wander
153 Do every task as if you are in a sacred ceremony.
154 Show up in life and pay attention
155 Sense the things around you
156 Hear the seen and the unseen
157 Do one thing at a time [strictly]
158 You cannot make soybeans into corn; you cannot make someone he’s/she’s fundamentally not.
159 Practice "Hmm … isn’t that interesting?" [get interested in small wonders around you]
160 Ex.1 I’ve got a $50 parking ticket and I have to write an appeal. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting?" and find a way to write an essay to avoid the fine.
161 Ex.2 My wife is mad at me. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting?" and find a way to win her creatively.
162 Practice
163 Ex.3 I have a heart attack. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting?" and find a way to survive 50 more years after.
164 Ex.4 I lost my job. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting?" and find a way to land a job/livelihood that pays more and more enjoyable.
165 Ex.5 Me my husband lost our love for each other. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting?" and look for ways to get back on track like the first month of the relationship.
166 Ex.6 I failed in my exams today. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting?" and find a creative way to get better.
167 Ex.7 I’ve got cancer and I have 6 months to live. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting?" and find out what else you have not done to make a mark to the people around you.
168 Ex.8 I’m really tired of my job and I want to change. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting? and think 20 years ahead and see what it will be like if you stay put.
169 Ex.10 My life has no direction. Say "Hmm … isn’t that interesting? and write down a list of things in a piece of paper that you have not done or explored – then pick one and do it. 
170 Write a journal and tell something about your life.
171 Take a special photograph each day with an intention of finding beauty in it like no one else.
172 4 Questions
173 1. When did you stop singing
174 2. When did you stop dancing
175 3. When did you lose your sense of enchantment with stories, and in particular, your own life story?
176 4. When did you become uncomfortable with silence?

PRACTICE:

“1. How can you support yourself in bringing what you find during your time within back out into your day-to-day life? What might this expression look like?
2. Set an intention to show up fully in this day. What helps you to be in the moment? How does this type of awareness affect your experience of being busy?
3. Play with bringing your attention to your senses. Notice what objects visually catch your eye, what smells and sounds surround you in different places during the day.
4. Notice the things that are very ordinary.
5. Experiment over the next week with what methods work best for you. Does it help to keep a journal, to carry a camera, to write poems, or maybe to cover your fingers in whatever is
sitting right in front of you?  What is your life telling you about who you are? Reflect on this day
or this past week. 
6. Consider the question from the perspective of your whole life. What have you learned about yourself?  Notice if you have any fears about really listening to what your life is telling you. If so, what are you afraid you might hear?
7. Try moving into the day with a sense of curiosity, either thinking of the phrase Hmm … isn’t that interesting? or looking for moments that contain messages worth listening to.
8. Consider that what’s around you, whether in nature or otherwise, may hold some teachings that are worth paying attention to.
9. Take some time to reflect on these four questions. Reword them as needed so that they make sense within the context of your life:
When did you stop singing?
When did you stop dancing?
When did you lose your sense of enchantment with stories, and in particular, your own life story?
When did you become uncomfortable with silence?
Are there any other aspects of who you are and what your life is about that have gotten lost along the way? What might you do to reclaim these qualities? “

NOTES: Full Cup: Chapter 3-Filling Up

Book-Full Cup Thirsty Spirit
Author-Karen Horneffer-Ginter
ISBN-978-1401939939
Pages: 224
Chapters: 6

115 Nourish our spiritual being through rest and reflection produces greater balance.
116 Emotional and physical health is as important as the spiritual.
117 Basics of emotional/physical health often times neglected.
118 Self care is essential to being healthy – body, mind, spirit
119 Don’t ignore the very basics of human needs
120 If we are hungry, we take in food
121 If we are tired, we go to sleep
122 If we need to dispose waste, we go to the bathroom
123 There is a simple relationship between what the body needs and how the body responds, ignoring those needs are not being wise
124 As we become older, we tend to ignore or able to tolerate such needs [peer pressure or just merely the drive to succeed]
125 Are you a blackbelt in ignoring your needs?
126 When your body request downtime, do you drink coffee instead?
127 We have the mindset of work hard-play hard, do whatever it takes [with disregard to the self needs]
128 Hardwork and constant busyness are somehow the main theme in our endeavor.
129 We carry certain beliefs that we don’t need to take care of our self needs/care.
130 Sometimes avoiding self-care was a response to having a mother/father who had been extremely self-absorbed and inattentive and we want to do the opposite
131 Don’t wait for your "tank" to be in EMPTY, fill it up
132 What is the MOST essential now?
133 Dimensions of Life
134 1.Body
135 2. Mind/Heart
136 3. Spirit
137 4. Social Relationship
138 5. Work/Service/Finances
139 6. Home and Family 
140 Stages of Change
141 1. Precontemplation (not intending to make a change)
142 2. Contemplation (intending to take action in the next six months)
143 3. Preparation (intending to take action in the next month)
144 4. Action (engaging in the new behavior)
145 5. Maintenance (sustaining the behavioral change over time)
146 Changes takes time.

“ It’s useful to consider the image of a fuel gauge and to reflect on the place from which we operate in life. Is our tank usually more than halfway full, or do we tend to move through life at near empty? At what point do we tend to fill up, and how do we know when we get to this place? Of course, as we are humans, there is no yellow light that comes on to warn us when we only have 20 more miles in us. Instead, we have to figure out our own indications of when it’s time to fill up. “

“Todd came into counseling after his wife had moved out of the house and his already-present headaches worsened into migraines. It wasn’t until then that he saw how ignoring his
family life and his body was no longer an option. “I guess I got lost in my work, forgetting that other things in life need my attention as well. But this is how my dad was with the hours he worked—I guess I grew up thinking that this was required in order to be successful.”

“Jan came to recognize that, for her, avoiding self-care was a response to having a mother who had been extremely self-absorbed and inattentive in her parenting. “I think I just wanted to be the opposite of her. She was so much more concerned with her own activities and dating relationships
than us. God forbid that picking up her children might get in the way of getting her nails done. I think I’ve been concerned that if I take any time for myself, I might become like her.”

“Kim had made a similar decision in reaction to her husband’s behavior. “He takes so much time for his own hobbies from hunting to golfing to playing poker with the guys, it doesn’t leave any time for me. If I started to take time for myself, who would cook dinner? Who would help the kids with their homework? I’ve just surrendered to the situation because it’s not worth arguing about.”

“Both women needed to see that their choice not to take care of themselves as a reaction to someone else’s extreme behavior was really only hurting them. In Jan’s case, she began trusting
in her ability to balance self-care and caring for others as she came to see that there really wasn’t the slippery slope she had imagined. For Kim, it helped to strategize how she could talk with her husband about ways they could both carve out time to take care of themselves. In doing this, she needed to acknowledge and let go of her role as martyr. She had to question her assumptions that her husband had no interest in her well-being and that it was somehow her destiny to carry
the full load of family responsibilities. “

“Even when we follow the perfect formula for self-care—eating well, exercising, taking vitamins, spending time with friends, praying, thinking happy thoughts when possible—this doesn’t always mean we’ll perpetually reside in the upper quadrants of health.  The reality is that sometimes our best equations for health flow perfectly, and sometimes they fail miserably—it’s a reminder that none of us has complete control over our well-being. It helps to embrace a balanced view that we can do what we can, accepting that there will always be variables, known and unknown, that we can’t control or even understand. Even in its imperfection, it’s still worth doing what we can to maximize our health and vitality. “

PRACTICE:
1. Take some time to reflect on your beliefs and attitudes toward self-care.
2. Where did these beliefs come from?
3. Do these beliefs support you or hinder you?
4. Are there any that you want to revise?
5. What would it look like and feel like to deeply take care of yourself?
6. Imagine yourself living in and from this upper quadrant of health and vitality.
7. How can you find a balance between doing what you can to care for yourself and realizing we can’t always be successful at such attempts?
7. Consider the fuel gauge metaphor: At what point do you usually fill up by taking care of yourself?
8. How low can you safely let your fuel line get?
9. Has this changed over time?
10.What are the signs that you’ve reached this point?

NOTES: Full Cup: Chapter 2-Turning Within

Book-Full Cup Thirsty Spirit
Author-Karen Horneffer-Ginter
ISBN-978-1401939939
Pages: 224
Chapters: 6

101 When slowing down and taking breaks are not enough, the next step is to step away from life in a more significant way.
102 Unplug from daily life and deeply reconnect with self
103 Time being alone is directly proportional to busyness.  If you are too busy, the more time you need to be alone to unwind
104 Quite time is a must.
105 Set aside a day or two for a retreat
106 Unplug for a day or two from anything
107 Go inward for a day-self retreat.
108 Step away from life for a day or two
109 Create space in your life intentionally
110 Radically simplify your life
111 Don’t peek at your next task or next move, stay with the PRESENT, the "NOW"
112 Feel the event at the moment. Be fully present
113 Set aside one day each week to nourish yourself, talk to self, write a journal about self, meditate, sleep, pray.
114 Connect to what matters most

PRACTICE:
”What would be an ideal way of stepping out of life for you?
How much time would you like?
Would it be structured in one block of time or across multiple days or months?
Would you go away or stay at home?
What qualities would you most like to experience from this time: peace, clarity, strength, joy, gratitude, rest, others?
What activities, or lack of activities, feel like they’d be most restorative?
Put this description in a location where you can see it, in order to let these ideas sink in. In a week or so, revisit what you’ve written down and consider what elements of your plan are possible to make happen.
Think creatively.

Choose a certain time of day.
Choose a place, preferably a quiet spot or a place that can be made quiet.
Find a way to sit in which your back can be straight and your body can feel relaxed, whether this is on a chair, a cushion, or some other type of pillow on the floor. As you sit down, notice how you’re making contact with the chair 
Begin meditating by noticing your breath, not just the idea of your breath but rather the physical sensations of your breath. 
Let the practice be light—don’t try too hard, but rather allow the process to be as relaxing as possible.
Remember to be friendly with yourself. It may help to lower your expectations about what you’re hoping to experience.”

NOTES: Full Cup: Chapter 1-Honoring Our Rhythms

Book-Full Cup Thirsty Spirit
Author-Karen Horneffer-Ginter
ISBN-978-1401939939
Pages: 224
Chapters: 6

1 We have a rhythm that moves through us [pulsating heart, breathing, mood, hunger, sleep, energy level etc]
2 Rhythms differs from  person to person
3 Rhythms involves showing up in the world and taking a break [1 and 0 or the yes or no, rest or go]
4 Rhythms involves our capacities for activity, engagement, need for rest, renewal and emptying out of debris
5 Our culture asks us to ignore these deeper rhythms
6 When the rhythms are ignored/disregarded, results are fatigue, undefined illness, tiredness, loss of motivation, loss of sense of peace
7 Begin to listen to and notice how your body and soul want you to live.
8 What are they craving most, and what are some small (and maybe not-so-small) ways you could honor this?
9 Are there places where you get stuck in the movement between engaging in the world and turning within?
10 How might you honor this movement between rest and activity, bringing forth new life and releasing what is stale? 
11 What would this honoring look like in your daily, weekly, and monthly life?
12 Experiment in this next month by making small changes and seeing which ones have the biggest impact on your well-being.
13 The Art of Slowing Down [have time]
14 Have time to exercise
15 Have time to read a book
16 Have time to cook a meal
17 Have time to  walk outside
18 Practice the lack of rushing, be a non-rusher
19 Delete the word "hurry" in your vocabulary
20 Remove the personal belief of busyness=being valuable and important
21 Have time to PAUSE! [in the middle of doing something]
22 Choose to walk slowly
23 Sit down and do nothing and think nothing
24 Be more present with yourself
25 Journey to change is complicated but it must be done
26 We chose to rush [not the external forces around us]
27 Practice downshifting very often
28 Are there beliefs you carry about the necessity of being busy that are getting in the way of slowing down? 
29 Reflect on any messages you might have picked up about busyness being associated with success or worthiness. 
30 What do you fear would happen if you slowed down?
31 Which beliefs and fears are you ready to let go of?
32 Reflect on your relationship to rushing. What changes do you want to make? 
33 Are there certain tasks or times of day that might be worth moving through at an intentionally slower pace? 
34 What would help you to shift gears even if only for an hour?
35 Experiment with the art of slowing down—find one activity each day that you can intentionally do at a slow pace. 
36 Try eating a meal slowly, or next time you drive somewhere take your time as you walk from the parking lot to the building. 
37 Take time to notice what it’s like to move at this pace. 
38 What do you notice that would have gone unseen, untasted, or unheard on another day?
39 Take time-outs.  Sit in a corner and do nothing or think nothing or take a nap
40 Balancing is viewed as fundamental to healing. 
41 When the body is stagnant, it needs stimulation to begin moving again
42 When it’s depleted, it needs nourishment
43 When it’s damp and cold, it needs heat 
44 When it’s hot and dry, it needs cooling moisture
45 When we’ve been extremely active, we need rest
46 When we’ve been sitting at a computer inside, we need movement outside
47 When we’ve been in our head with too much thinking, we need to reconnect with our heart and our feelings
48 When we’ve been engaged in repetitive tasks, we need inspiration
49 When we’ve been serious, we need some lightness and laughter
50 50 Ways to take a Break
51 1. Take a bath
52 2. Listen to music
53 3. Light a candle
54 4. Rest with your legs up on a wall
55 5. Take a nap
56 6. Listen to a guided relaxation
57 7. Take deep belly breaths
58 8. Let out a sigh
59 9. Turn off all electronics
60 10. Enjoy a warm beverage
61 11. Eat a meal in silence
62 12. Sit in silence
63 13. Write a journal
64 14. Go on a walk
65 15. Sit in nature
66 16. Explore a park
67 17. Go to a farmers’ market
68 18. Meander around town
69 19. Go to a body of water
70 20. Fly a kite
71 21. Watch the clouds
72 22. Watch the stars
73 23. Go for a run
74 24. Take a bike ride
75 25. Drive somewhere new
76 26. Climb a tree
77 27. Do some gentle stretches
78 28. Put on music and dance
79 29. Move twice as slowly
80 30. Notice your body
81 31. Make some music
82 32. Paint on a surface other than paper
83 33. Color with crayons:
84 34. Read or watch something funny
85 35. Read poetry
86 36. Write a quick poem
87 37. Learn something new
88 38. Take a photograph
89 39. Find a relaxing scent
90 40. Examine an everyday object with fresh eyes
91 41. Pet a furry creature
92 42. Buy flowers
93 43. Read a book
94 44. View art
95 45. Let something go
96 46. Forgive someone
97 47. Call a friend
98 48. Write a letter
99 49. Engage in a small act of kindness
100 50. Give thanks

PRACTICE:
“Begin to listen to and notice how your body and soul want you to live.
What are they craving most, and what are some small (and maybe not-so-small) ways you could honor this?
Are there places where you get stuck in the movement between engaging in the world and turning within?
How might you honor this movement between rest and activity, bringing forth new life and releasing what is stale?
What would this honoring look like in your daily, weekly, and monthly life?
Experiment in this next month by making small changes and seeing which ones have the biggest impact on your well-being.
Are there beliefs you carry about the necessity of being busy that are getting in the way of slowing down? Reflect on any messages you might have picked up about busyness being associated with success or worthiness.
What do you fear would happen if you slowed down?
Which beliefs and fears are you ready to let go of?
Reflect on your relationship to rushing. What changes do you want to make?
Are there certain tasks or times of day that might be worth moving through at an intentionally slower pace?
What would help you to shift gears even if only for an hour?
Experiment with the art of slowing down—find one activity each day that you can intentionally do at a slow pace.
Try eating a meal slowly, or next time you drive somewhere take your time as you walk from
the parking lot to the building.
Take time to notice what it’s like to move at this pace. What do you notice that would have gone unseen, untasted, or unheard on another day?”

50 Ways To Take A Breakimage


NOTE: There’s no mention of “take a long vacation” 

BookSummary: Wisdom

Book-Wisdom
Author-Myles Munroe
ISBN-978-0768432282
Pages: 268
Chapters: 40

Wisdom: Introduction
Wisdom: Chapter 1-Wisdom for Everyday Victory
Wisdom: Chapter 2-Wisdom During Crisis
Wisdom: Chapter 3-Wisdom Versus Greed
Wisdom: Chapter 4-Wisdom and Opportunity
Wisdom: Chapter 5-Wisdom of Management
Wisdom: Chapter 6-Wisdom and Faith
Wisdom: Chapter 7-Wisdom of Change
Wisdom-Chapter 8-Wisdom Seeds
Wisdom: Chapter 9-Wisdom Working
Wisdom: Chapter 10-Wisdom in Serving
Wisdom: Chapter 11-Wisdom’s Secret
Wisdom: Chapter 12-Wisdom Focus
Wisdom: Chapter 13-Wisdom to Prioritize
Wisdom: Chapter 14-Wisdom and Obedience
Wisdom: Chapter 15-Wisdom, Righteousness, Generosity
Wisdom: Chapter 16-Wisdom and God’s Big Idea
Wisdom: Chapter 17-Wisdom of Ideas
Wisdom: Chapter 18-Wisdom and Master Gardener
Wisdom: Chapter 19-Wisdom Through Temptation
Wisdom: Chapter 20-Wisdom in the Kingdom of Heaven
Wisdom: Chapter 21-Wisdom’s Influence
Wisdom: Chapter 22-Wisdom Against Rebellion
Wisdom: Chapter 23-Wisdom and Jesus
Wisdom: Chapter 24-Wisdom, Religion, Government
Wisdom: Chapter 25-Wisdom of Democracy
Wisdom: Chapter 26-Wisdom and Purpose
Wisdom: Chapter 27-Wisdom and Potential
Wisdom: Chapter 28-Wisdoms Death
Wisdom: Chapter 29-Wisdom Abhors Abortion
Wisdom: Chapter 30-Wisdom From The Beginning
Wisdom: Chapter 31-Wisdom and Your Body
Wisdom: Chapter 32-Wisdom Over Fear and Anxiety
Wisdom: Chapter 33-Wisdom of Marriage
Wisdom: Chapter 34-Wisdom and Baggage 
Wisdom: Chapter 35-Wisdom in Intimacy
Wisdom: Chapter 36-Wisdom of Not Settling
Wisdom: Chapter 37-Wisdom of Not Being Normal
Wisdom: Chapter 38-Wisdom of Living Beyond; The Source
Wisdom: Chapter 39-Wisdom’s Treasures
Wisdom: Chapter 40-Wisdom to Become; Not The END

 

# WISDOM NOTES
1 Are you expecting the unexpected and preparing for the unforeseen?
2 Do you possess the necessary mental, emotional, psychological, and spiritual tools to successfully and effectively weather seasons of turmoil?
3 Always remember: the Kingdom of God is never in crisis.
4 God knows what to do—He cares for you.
5 God has never failed His people.
6 Are you sure that you are one of His people?
7 What crisis are you facing today?
8 Are you facing your crisis alone or with God?
9 You cannot control the crisis that has come upon you suddenly, but you can take control of some of the details.
10 Get a grip on how to overcome your circumstances.
11 Regain your emotional footing to overcome a crisis.
12 Put your feet on the Rock-solid foundation of God.
13 Evils travel together because all of them originate in the sinful hearts of human beings.
14 Do not let your financial uncertainty make you do something rash and foolish.
15 Do not do something dishonest.
16 Do not go the way of the world.
17 Do not worry about yourself.
18 Put your trust in God and ask Him what to do.
19 The seeming defeat inherent in every crisis holds the keys to an unanticipated victory.
20 Believe that your crisis becomes your best opportunity.
21 Remember, you are not under the world’s system.
22 Instead of worrying, rejoice.
23 Do not throw away your confidence.
24 God, who began a good work in you, will finish it.
25 God created people in His own image to manage the earth.
26 When you follow the Master Plan, you will flourish.
27 When you mismanage, you lose.
28 The principle is honesty.
29 Proper management is the correct use of something.
30 Proper management is timely use of another person’s property.
31 Figure out what your resources are, and then use them wisely.
32 The resources we need come to us in the natural course of living our lives according to God’s design and intention.
33 Kingdom of God benefits come to us as we seek the Kingdom.
34 The provisions and resources that we need are by-products of our faith.
35 Kingdom-dwellers have faith.
36 True Kingdom people treat their faith as a relationship with an invisible King.
37 Your King has made blessings accessible to all who have eyes to see and ears to hear.
38 God is the same yesterday, today, and forever (see Heb. 13:8).
39 God is in charge of all changes.
40 It does not matter what is happening because it will not last.
41 There will be an end to every crisis.
42 Everything is seasonal, times of plenty and times of poverty.
43 Are you open to change?
44 God does not make mistakes.
45 Do not be surprised when God’s answer is in the form of harvest-producing seed.
46 Out of the midst of the fire, God purifies you.
47 Find God’s seed for you. Plant it. Nurture it to maturity.
48 Your seed will multiply greatly.
49 Your job is what you were trained to do. Your work is different.
50 Your work is what you were born to do.
51 No kind of educational system can teach you your true work because it is your life purpose
52 Your work [life purpose/God-given assingment] is revealed by your God-given gifts.
53 You are much more than your job.
54 If you can find yourself, you will gain a new perspective on what you were created to do on this earth.
55 The King created you, and the King called you.
56 You were created to contribute to the great bringing-in of the Kingdom of God.
57 He gave you special gifts that match with His purpose for your life.
58 He wants you to discover that purpose so that you can fulfill it.
59 No employer on earth can take away your work. 
60 Fulfilling your God-given purpose can happen wherever you go.
61 God likes to move people around. He makes sure that He has representatives in many places
62 Your work is ongoing throughout your life on this planet.
63 Your job is only your career. It is temporary. You can lose it.
64 Your whole career can collapse. You can also have more than one career in your lifetime. 
65 Your work is your life assignment. You cannot lose that.
66 You were created to serve the world around you with Kingdom compassion and Kingdom energy.
67 If people are always asking you for help, you must be reflecting the character of your King.
68 If you shoulder your share of the work without murmuring or complaining, then you have probably already been deployed in the service of the King.
69 God’s Kingdom designates every single citizen as a king in his or her own right.
70 You work your way up the Kingdom management ladder by working your way down in lowly service.
71 You are a king who serves the world with your God-given gifts
72 “What is the key to life?”
73 Is love the key?
74 Is life just an accident?
75 Is your existence a kind of “living death”?
76 Finding your true purpose and living it is the key to life.
77 The greatest tragedy in life is not death, but life without purpose.
78 Do you long for a focused, purposeful, organized life and simplified lifestyle?
79 Do you have a problem putting first things first?
80 Are you drifting through life with no focus or sense of purpose or direction?
81 Do you shoot off in too many directions trying to do too many things?
82 Are you focused on the wrong thing?
83 What can you do today to better prioritize your life?
84 If you don’t know where you are going, any road will take you there.
85 Life is daily and constantly demanding of our time, energy, talent, attention, and focus.
86 You must know what your priorities are.
87 The absence of priority is dangerous and detrimental.
88 If you’re not doing the right thing at the right time, you are doing the wrong thing at the wrong time.
89 Prioritizing sharpens your vision so you can focus on the most important things.
90 The key to maintaining right standing is obedience.
91 Your pursuit of righteousness places you in the right positioning to receive all the rights, resources, blessings, and privileges of the Kingdom.
92 It’s very simple: you obey, God opens; you disobey, He closes.
93 Sin interrupts your communication with God and shuts down the flow of His resources to you.
94 If your mind is pure, you will see God in everything and in everyone.
95 Righteousness bears abundant fruit in your life.
96 Generosity is a character trait of the righteous.
97 God never forsakes the righteous or their children—He always provides for them.
98 Righteous living will bear the fruit in your life of an inheritance you can leave to your descendents.
99 The only true material wealth of any lasting value, particularly as an inheritance to pass on, is real estate.
100 Not only will the righteous inherit land to dwell in forever, but that land will be covered with peace and security.
101 The world is ruled by dead men.
102 Our planet spins under the power of ideas.
103 The big idea is the ideology that served as the foundation of the first and original government instituted on Earth.
104 The big idea is the divine aspiration, celestial vision, and eternal purpose of the Creator for His creation and humanity on planet Earth.
105 The big idea is the concept of the ultimate governing program for mankind on Earth that provides for all the fundamental needs of humanity and produces a culture that integrates all the noble aspirations of all mankind, such as equality, justice, peace, love, unity, and respect for human dignity, human value, and personal and corporate empowerment.
106 Death can never kill an idea.
107 Ideas are more powerful than death.
108 Ideas outlive men and can never be destroyed.
109 Everything began as an idea and is the result of the conception of an idea.
110 The most difficult thing to fight against is an idea!
111 Ideas can be transferred and live on for generations.
112 God is the Master Gardener who ensures that the gardens of our lives produce good fruit.
113 Whoever tends your garden determines your culture, values, beliefs, and behavior.
114 Has the devil taken up residence in you?
115 You were created to be filled with the Spirit of God and live in perfect harmony and fellowship with Him.
116 You have a choice as to who you allow to tend your garden.
117 Are you a holy sissy?
118 Are you afraid of the devil?
119 Temptation is a fact of life.
120 Satan tempts with the intent to destroy.
121 If you occupy and stand firm during temptations, a rich reward lies in store for you.
122 Your King will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you can bear.
123 Whatever temptations you do face, you can bear, as long as you do so in His strength rather than your own.
124 The Kingdom of Heaven is not a religion and has nothing at all to do with religion.
125 The Kingdom of Heaven is the sovereign rulership of the King (God) over a territory (Earth).
126 The Kingdom of Heaven is a real, literal country, although invisible to physical eyes because it is spiritual in nature.
127 The most powerful expression of any nation is its culture. A strong and rich culture can wield an influence far beyond its geographical boundaries.
128 Are you spreading the culture of the Kingdom of Heaven?
129 There are two kinds of influence: the influence of the moment and lasting influence.
130 Kingdom influence operates gradually, based on eternal, unchanging principles of God and according to a timetable that encompasses millennia.
131 The influence of God’s Kingdom is irresistible.
132 Christ is the King of an eternal, all-powerful, all-knowing, present-everywhere Kingdom.
133 Yeast is one of the most powerful influencing agents in the world.
134 Are you influencing others for the Kingdom of God?
135 Rebellion against God is called sin.
136 Sin is the singular act of rebellion, while sins are the manifestations of that one act.
137 Adam and Eve could have freely chosen to obey God rather than disobey Him.
138 Jesus Christ came to Earth to put an end to our sin of rebellion through His blood.
139 Christ came as a “second Adam” to reverse the consequences of the first Adam’s failure.
140 Christ came to announce the return of the Kingdom of Heaven and to give us access through the sin-cleansing power of His blood.
141 Everything Jesus said and did—His prayers, teachings, healings, and miracles—was focused on a kingdom, not a religion.
142 Have you had to come to grips with your own personal defects to understand Jesus and His message?
143 The original intent of God’s mandate to Moses was not to establish a religion, but a nation of people who would love, serve, and honor God.
144 Do you understand Jesus?
145 Have you reduced His message to nothing more than an escapist plan for getting to Heaven and His promises as a mere fire insurance policy for escaping the pains of a tormenting hell?
146 Religion is one of the greatest obstacles to the Kingdom.
147 Few pastors have any formal instruction at all in any Kingdom concept.
148 Humankind’s greatest challenge has been to learn how to live in peace.
149 The need for government and order is inherent in the human spirit and is a manifestation of a divine mandate.
150 Man was created to be a governor and ruler.
151 It is in man’s nature to seek some authority mechanism that brings order to his private and social world.
152 Democracy is the best form of civil government as we know it.
153 Democracy is built on the premise and principle of “majority rule” and the protection of individual rights.
154 From the Creator’s perspective, life is politics, and He is the essence of life.
155 In Him there is no distinction between government and spirituality.
156 We all are political and religious.
157 Democracy can succeed only where there is a clear accountability to a moral code.
158 The big picture means to see the end from the beginning throughout the creative process.
159 A good artist already sees the end result in his mind.
160 Purpose defines the big picture.
161 What was God’s purpose as the Artist who created humanity?
162 Without purpose, human life has no meaning or significance.
163 Can you see the big picture?
164 Your life has the potential to fulfill your purpose.
165 If you imprison that potential, you rob your life of its purposeand fulfillment.
166 You possess an awesome treasure.
167 Your valuable deposit of potential was given to enrich the lives of others.
168 You have the ability to change your attitude and your internal environment until they are conducive to the germination of your potential seed.
169 You owe it to the next generation to live courageously so the treasure of your potential is unleashed.
170 Continuous effort—not strength or intelligence—is the key to unlocking our potential.
171 Don’t allow the grave to rob this world of your latent, awesome potential.
172 Deep within you lies a seed of greatness waiting to be germinated.
173 You have been endued with natural talents, gifts, desires, and dreams.
174 Hidden within everything is the potential to fulfill itself and produce much more than you see.
175 You have the ability to accomplish everything your God-given purpose demands.
176 The releasing of your potential is not up to God but you.
177 Abortion is the ignorance of responsibility and the denial of obligation.
178 Abortion is self-comfort at the expense of fruitfulness.
179 The abortion of potential is the death of the future.
180 Abortion is the ignorance and the lack of understanding of the principle of potential that pervades our world.
181 All creation was affected by man’s sin.
182 What are your thoughts about abortion?
183 Most of the potential God gave you at birth still remains within you, unseen and unused.
184 On any given day, you are not all you can be.
185 God can always do more than He has already done.
186 Everything came forth when God spoke it into a material substance, in accordance with His master plan.
187 What steps can you take to begin realizing your potential?
188 Can you see yourself in God’s master plan?
189 Jesus promised that He would return to redeem your body.
190 God intended your body to live forever.
191 God’s making you a new home.
192 God’s in the business of giving you a new body.
193 Don’t worry if your body isn’t all you’d like it to be.
194 You are much more than your imperfect, deteriorating body.
195 Fear and anxiety shadow our lives.
196 God is well acquainted with the insanity of your world.
197 God offers Himself as the solution to your problems.
198 God will not force you to accept the new environment He offers.
199 God waits for you to come to your senses and admit your sin and your need of His forgiveness.
200 Are you immersing yourself in God’s commandments?
201 Marriage is a companionship covenant.
202 Procreation is a function of marriage, but it is not the main focus.
203 The social and moral requirement of being married before having children is still very strong in many, many places.
204 Most people are still sensitive to the respectability of marriage.
205 Married couples who take their responsibilities seriously are careful not to conceive and give birth to more children than they can adequately love and care for.
206 True family planning is mature, responsible stewardship.
207 Marriage is the beautiful accommodation of another lifetime.
208 Building a strong marriage takes time, patience, and hard work.
209 Difference of viewpoint is one of the biggest sources of stress and conflict in young marriages.
210 Adjusting to these differences is critical to marital survival.
211 No one enters marriage “clean.”
212 Fusion creates oneness.
213 A husband and wife should know each other better than they know anyone else in the world.
214 A husband and wife should know everything about each other, even those undesirable traits that they hide from everyone else.
215 Relationship does not guarantee knowledge.
216 Labels that imply closeness and intimate knowledge may in reality hinder true relationship building.
217 Marriage is a lifelong journey into intimacy, but also into friendship.
218 As your relationship develops, you should grow into true friends and love and accept each other.
219 Have you fully utilized your abilities, talents, and gifts?
220 Have you settled for the norm?
221 Have you done your best?
222 Have you allowed others to place limitations on your potential?
223 Have you created self-imposed limitations?
224 You determine the degree to which your destiny is accomplished.
225 Have you resigned yourself to a normal life?
226 Your Creator never intended you to be normal.
227 God created you as an original.
228 Are you so preoccupied with trying to fit in that you neverstand out?
229 You were designed to be distinctive, special, irreplaceable, and unique.
230 Be satisfied with nothing less than your best.
231 Great minds and souls never settle for great work.
232 All individuals throughout history who have left their footprints in the sands of destiny were driven by a passion greater than the desire for personal comfort.
233 Retirement is a great myth that traps untapped potential.
234 Retirement is never a concept in the minds of world changers.
235 The enemy of better is best, and the tomb of the extra-ordinary is the ordinary.
236 Your responsibility is to maximize life to its fullest potential
237 All the great things God has put inside you—your visions, dreams, plans, and talents—are satan’s targets.
238 He is afraid of people like you who have faith in God’s wisdom and power.
239 The deceiver fears the treasure you possess.
240 Only as you are “strong in the Lord and in His mighty power” (Eph. 6:10) can you withstand satan’s onslaught against you.
241 The Holy Spirit, sent by Jesus when you received Him as Savior, is your Helper.
242 Understand the provisions of God’s plan and put them into practice to defend your potential.
243 Commit yourself to the goal of dying empty.
244 Discover what you were born to be, then do it.
245 Fulfill your own personal purpose for the glory of God.
246 Don’t rob the next generation of your contribution to the destiny of mankind.
247 Time is God’s gift for accomplishing your purpose and fulfilling your potential.
248 Will you waste or use wisely the days God has assigned to your life?

I Knew What I Was Getting Into

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I Knew What I Was Getting Into [Listen in Spotify] 
Misty Edwards

I knew what I was getting into when called you.
I knew what I was getting into when I said your name, but I said it just the same.
I knew what I was getting into and I still want you.
I knew what I was getting into.

I knew what I was getting into and I still chose you.
I knew what I was getting into and I still want you.
I knew what I was getting into when I said your name, but I said it just the same.
I knew what I was getting into.

And I am not shocked by your weakness.
And I am not shocked even by your sin.
And I am not shocked by your brokenness.

I knew what I was getting into and I still want you.
I knew what I was getting into and I still like you.
I knew what I was getting into and I still chose you.

Cuz only I can see the end from the beginning.
And only I can see where this is going.
And only I can see the end from the beginning.
And I see in you the seeds of love.
And I see in you strength when all you see is your failure and all you feel is ashamed.
I can see deeper than that.
I know you better than that.

I knew what I was getting into when called you.
I knew what I was getting into when I said your name.
I said it just the same.
I knew what getting into and I still want you.
I knew what I was getting into and I still like you.

Your only at the beginning.
You’ve only just begun and I know where you are going
And all you can see in the moment is that your hurting.
And all you can see in the moment is that your aching.

I knew what I was getting into when I called you.
I knew what I was getting into and I still want you.
I knew what I was getting into and I still like you.
I knew what I was getting into when I called you.

Just don’t give up.
And don’t give in.
If you don’t quit. You win, you win.

Just don’t give up.
And don’t give in.
If you don’t quit. You win, you win.

Everything is in my hands.
It’s going to be alright.
Everything is in my hands.
It’s going to be alright.
It’s going to be okay.
Everything is in my hands.
It’s going to be alright.
It’s going to be Okay.
And you don’t have to pretend to be something or someone your not.
Cuz I know you better than that, even better, even better than that.
Listen my Beloved.

I knew what I was getting into when I called you.
I knew what I was getting into when I said your name.
I said it just the same.
I knew what I was getting into and I still like you.
I knew what I was getting into and I still chose you

To Know Your Name

http://open.spotify.com/track/5pFKIgyEFJOGWwquTYc9Eo 

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The precious blood of Jesus Christ redeems
Forgiven I’m alive, restored set free
Your Majesty resides inside of me
Forever I believe, forever I believe

Arrested by Your truth and righteousness
Your grace has overwhelmed my brokenness
Convicted by Your spirit, led by Your word
Your love will never fail, Your love will never fail
To know You gave the world
Your only son for us

To know Your name
To live within the Saviors love
And He took my place
Knowing He’d be crucified

And You loved, You loved
For people undeserving
To know You gave the world
Your only Son for us

To know Your name
To live within the Saviors love
And He took my place
Knowing He’d be crucified

And You loved, You loved
For people undeserving
And I know you gave the world
Your only Son for us

To know Your name
To live within the Saviors love
And He took my place
Knowing He’d be crucified

And You loved, and You loved
For people undeserving
For people undeserving
Hallelujah, Hallelujah

Arrested by your truth and righteousness
Your grace has overwhelmed my brokenness
Convicted by Your spirit, led by Your word
Your love will never fail, Your love will never fail

To know You gave the world
Your only Son for us
To know Your name
To live within the Saviors love

And He took my place
Knowing He’d be crucified
And You loved, and You loved
For people undeserving

And I know You gave the world
Your only Son for us
To know Your name
To live within the Saviors love

And He took my place
Knowing He’d be crucified
And You loved, You loved
For people undeserving

And I know You gave the world
Your only Son for us
To know Your name
To live within the Saviors love

And He took my place
Knowing He’d be crucified
And You loved, You loved
For people undeserving

To know You gave the world
Your only Son for us
To know Your name
To live within the Saviors love

And He took my place
Knowing He’d be crucified
And You loved, You loved
For people undeserving

Believing Without Seeing

Jesus said to him, “You believe because you see me. Great blessings belong to the people who believe without seeing me!” John 20:29

The Bible tv series from the History Channel concluded last night with a strong message in my heart and if you ask me about the best part of the story – it is when Thomas doubted about Jesus’ resurrection. We want proof, we want physical evidence, we want tangible indication of His presence. 

We argue about the story in our heart.  Did it really happen?  Did Jesus really existed?  Were there really miracles?  We all posses the character of Thomas.

I doubted and I wanted proof but then when I started my journey through faith, evidence started piling up and later I said in my prayer, Lord, you don’t have to show me proof, I believe in You.

My prayer is this – may you believe without seeing.

http://www.history.com/shows/the-bible/videos
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Overcome

Overcome

I’m coming to be touched by the coal
I’m coming that you’d reach out your hand and make me whole
I’ve walked by this fire so many times but now I’m coming in
Purify me Lord
Burn away the things that don’t please you
Create in me a light
A light that shines
Overcome I wanna be overcome
Overcome I wanna be overcome
Let the fire burn in me for the pure in heart will see you Lord
Baptize us in the Holy Spirit
Baptize us in fire
Fresh fire
I want to burn for you Lord

Extended Version at Spotify

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Wisdom: Introduction

Book-Wisdom
Author-Myles Munroe
ISBN-978-0768432282
Pages: 268
Chapters: 40

“Solomon asked God for it. Universities espouse its virtues. Pastors pray for it. Parents want to believe their children have it. Students hope for it. Executives bank on it. Some rationalize it. Others brag about it. Most want more of it.  Within today’s 24-7 communication culture, it is many times hard to recognize truth from fiction, wisdom from folly. In our virtual reality worldwide society, someone’s “wisdom” can be—and is—blogged, Twittered, Skyped, emailed, and Facebooked instantaneously to others next door or in a faraway continent. Allowing wisdom to become relative is opening doors for imposters to barge in. Only with God’s wisdom can believers forge ahead to make the world a safer, stronger, and more beautiful place. How much better to get wisdom than gold! And to get understanding is to be chosen rather than silver (Proverbs 16:16 NKJV). God’s wisdom, shared through His committed and dedicated  servants, has carried people through ages past full of danger, through current economic and worldwide unrest, and will continue to protect and defend His children throughout eternity. Only wisdom from Heaven provides peace that passes all human understanding.”

WISDOM:
An Apocryphal book consisting mainly of a meditation on wisdom; although ascribed to Solomon it was probably written in the first century BC
1. Accumulated knowledge, erudition or enlightenment
2. The trait of utilizing knowledge and experience with common sense and insight
3. Ability to apply knowledge, experience, understanding or common sense and insight
4. The quality of being prudent and sensible

Book Summary: Mindset

Book-Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
Author-Carol Dweck
ISBN-9780345472328
Pages: 449 [pdf]
Chapters: 8

Chapter 1-The Mindsets
Chapter 2-Inside the Mindsets
Chapter 3-The Truth about ability and accomplishments
Chapter 4-Sports:The Mindset of a Champion
Chapter 5-Business Mindset and Leadership
Chapter 6-Relationships: Mindsets in Love (or Not)
Chapter 7-Parents, Teachers and Coaches
Chapter 8-Changing Mindsets

NOTES/REFERENCES:
What is Mindset?
Mindset Diagram
Understanding Mindset
More Dweck’s Articles

# NOTES
1 Fixed Mindset leads to a desire to look smart
2 Fixed Mindset avoid Challenges
3 Fixed Mindset give up easily
4 Fixed Mindset see effort as fruitless or worse
5 Fixed Mindset ignore useful negative feedback
6 Fixed Mindset feel threatened by the success of others
7 Fixed Mindset RESULT: plateau early and achieve less than their full potential
8 Fixed mindset believing that your qualities are carved in stone
9 Fixed mindset believing your personal traits are fixed
10 Fixed mindset creates an urgency to prove yourself over and over
11 Fixed mindset focus on permanent traits
12 Fixed mindset fear challenges
13 Fixed mindset devalue effort
14 Fixed mindset produces non-learners, they already know it [no need to learn]
15 Fixed mindset only interested when the feedback reflected on their ability
16 Fixed mindset put people on a pedestal
17 Fixed mindset make people feel perfect
18 Fixed mindset worship people
19 Fixed mindset fixed qualities
20 Fixed mindset it’s not enough just to succeed.
21 Fixed mindset it’s not enough just to look smart and talented.
22 Fixed mindset you have to be pretty much flawless
23 Fixed mindset you have to be flawless right away
24 Fixed mindset measure the fixed ability right now and project it into the future
25 Fixed mindset must succeed perfectly and immediately
26 Fixed mindset always proving that they are special and superior
27 Fixed mindset believe that talent is ALL
28 Fixed mindset the loss of one’s self to failure can be a permanent, haunting trauma.
29 Fixed mindset my Success Is Your Failure
30 Fixed mindset try to repair their self-esteem after a failure is by assigning blame or making excuses
31 Fixed mindset higher levels of depression
32 Fixed mindset effort is only for people with deficiencies.
33 Fixed mindset when failure: “I could have been [fill in the blank].”
34 Fixed mindset proving superiority over and over [on anything]
35 Fixed mindset easily discouraged
36 Fixed mindset will quit in a heartbeat
37 Fixed mindset will skip learning when feeling that there is room for failure
38 Fixed mindset everything is about outcome
39 Fixed mindset low effort and always looking for easy task
40 Fixed mindset prefer effortless success
41 Fixed mindset always putting their talent in display
42 Fixed mindset intolerant of mistakes
43 Fixed mindset less confident person
44 Fixed mindset early performance tells you all you need to know about their talent and their future.
45 Fixed mindset imperfections are shameful
46 Fixed mindset criticism: view as a threat, an insult or an attack
47 Fixed mindset setbacks: a total failure
48 Fixed mindset does not cope well with adversities
49 Fixed mindset does not need a team
50 Fixed mindset delivers blame and excuses during failure
51 Fixed mindset full of bitterness
52 Fixed mindset always thinking of being brilliant
53 Fixed mindset felt judged and labeled by the rejection
54 Fixed mindset rejection is like the end of the world
55 Fixed mindset when rejection happens: REVENGE is the #1 priority
56 Fixed mindset believe that your qualities are fixed
57 Fixed mindset believe your partner’s qualities are fixed
58 Fixed mindset believe that relationship’s qualities are fixed—inherently good or bad, meant-to-be or not
59 Fixed mindset meant-to-be.
60 Fixed mindset the ideal is instant, perfect, and perpetual compatibility. Like it was meant to be
61 Fixed mindset a mind reader-always reading partner/spouse mind and making assumptions
62 Fixed mindset believe that a couple should share all of each other’s views
63 Fixed mindset assume entitlement-hey I deserve this…
64 Fixed mindset assign blame to a failing relationship ie. character flaw
65 Fixed mindset blame self or partner when relationship go sour
66 Fixed mindset always defending self
67 Fixed mindset shy type
68 Fixed mindset lack social skills
69 Fixed mindset avoid meeting new friends
70 Fixed mindset does not like to let their guard down
71 Fixed mindset cannot let go of fear of failure or rejection
72 Fixed mindset I have a certain amount of intelligence, and I can’t really do much to change it.”I feel like a reject”
73 Fixed mindset “I’d feel like a reject”
74 Fixed mindset “I’m a total failure”
75 Fixed mindset “I’m an idiot”
76 Fixed mindset “I’m a loser”
77 Fixed mindset “I’d feel worthless and dumb—everyone’s better than me”
78 Fixed mindset “My life is pitiful.”
79 Fixed mindset “I have no life.”
80 Fixed mindset “Somebody upstairs doesn’t like me.”
81 Fixed mindset “The world is out to get me.”
82 Fixed mindset “Someone is out to destroy me.”
83 Fixed mindset “Nobody loves me, everybody hates me.”
84 Fixed mindset “Life is unfair and all efforts are useless.”
85 Fixed mindset “Life stinks. I’m stupid. Nothing good ever happens to me.”
86 Fixed mindset “I’m the most unlucky person on this earth.”
87 Fixed mindset “Do nothing.”
88 Fixed mindset “Stay in bed.”
89 Fixed mindset “Get drunk.”
90 Fixed mindset “Eat.”
91 Fixed mindset “Yell at someone if I get a chance to.”
92 Fixed mindset “Eat chocolate.”
93 Fixed mindset “Listen to music and pout.”
94 Fixed mindset “Go into my closet and sit there.”
95 Fixed mindset “Pick a fight with somebody.”
96 Fixed mindset “Cry.”
97 Fixed mindset “Break something.”
98 Fixed mindset “What is there to do?”
99 Fixed mindset “If you have to work at something, you must not be good at it.”
100 Fixed mindset “Things come easily to people who are true geniuses.”
101 Fixed mindset “People have a certain fixed amount of management ability
102 Fixed mindset and they cannot do much to change it.”
103 Fixed mindset  I’m unlovable
104 Fixed mindset “If I had to choose between me being happy and him being miserable, I would definitely want him to be
105 Fixed mindset miserable.”
106 Fixed mindset “As a husband/wife, I have a right to—’ and my husband/wife has the duty to—.”
107 Fixed mindset ‘I’m not going to wash the dishes, no way. That’s a woman’s job.’
108 Fixed mindset the man/woman I loved was a bad person
109 Fixed mindset he/she was a bad person and drove him/her awayrelationship was bad and irreparable”
110 Fixed mindset my partner is incapable of change
111 Fixed mindset Nothing can improve our relationship
112 Fixed mindset “I am a football player, and therefore I’m better than you.”
113 Fixed mindset “I am a basketball player … pathetic geeks like you are not on my level.”
114 Fixed mindset You have permanent traits and I’m judging them
115 Growth mindset believe that anyone can be anything
116 Growth mindset believe that a person’s true potential is unknown (and unknowable);
117 Growth mindset based on the belief that your basic qualities are things you can cultivate through your efforts
118 Growth mindset believe that you can learn anything and new things as they come
119 Growth mindset believe they are learners
120 Growth mindset paid close attention to information that could stretch their knowledge. Only for them was learning a priority
121 Growth mindset see people’s faults and help them to work on them.
122 Growth mindset challenge people to become a better person.
123 Growth mindset encourage them to learn new things.
124 Growth mindset effort is the key to success
125 Growth mindset success is about being your best self, not about being better than others
126 Growth mindset learn from failure
127 Growth mindset will not quit easily
128 Growth mindset will take the challenge
129 Growth mindset will comeback another day and fight
130 Growth mindset not easily discourage
131 Growth mindset continue their effort even if progress is not visible
132 Growth mindset eagerness to learn and advance despite repeated failure
133 Growth mindset passionate of what they do
134 Growth mindset outcome of effort is not the ultimate goal, the journey is more important
135 Growth mindset value what they’re doing regardless of the outcome.
136 Growth mindset hard effort and always looking for a difficult task
137 Growth mindset humble about their talent
138 Growth mindset love mistakes, it is vehicle for learning
139 Growth mindset a confident person, nothing to prove
140 Growth mindset early performance is not an indicator of great success
141 Growth mindset imperfections is a source of motivation
142 Growth mindset criticism: comments are helpful, a positive feedback
143 Growth mindset setbacks: motivating and stimulating and encouraging
144 Growth mindset during failure: i will double my effort
145 Growth mindset loves adversities, it is a room for growth
146 Growth mindset loves team environment
147 Growth mindset delivers encouragement to the team when there is failure
148 Growth mindset full of gratitude
149 Growth mindset always thinking of growth and passion
150 Growth mindset rejection does not define the future but a stepping stone for change
151 Growth mindset accepts rejection wholeheartedly
152 Growth mindset when rejection happens: accepts the facts and move on [not dwelling too long]
153 Growth mindset things can be developed
154 Growth mindset all—you, your partner, and the relationship—are capable of growth and change
155 Growth mindset confront a bad situation and look for resolution
156 Growth mindset so forgiving and give partner a room to grow/change
157 Growth mindset being patient while in a bad/difficult relationsh
158 Growth mindset “I’d start thinking about studying harder”
159 Growth mindset “I’d look at what was wrong on my exam, resolve to do better”
160 Growth mindset “People can always substantially change their basic skills for managing other people.”
161 Growth mindset You are a developing person and I am interested in your development
162 Growth mindset “I did not win the tournament and will try a different strategy next time”
163 Growth mindset ”I’m diagnosed with a life ending illness, I will spend the rest of my remaining days the best I can”
164 Growth mindset ”I will cry but I will find ways to change things”
165 Growth mindset ”I will not succumb to self destructive actions when I fail”
166 Growth mindset ”I will force myself to get up every morning and start a motivating day even if I do not feel doing it”
167 Growth mindset ”I will not use eating/overeating as a way of escape of my situation”
168 Growth mindset ”I will not go to my closet and sit there all day and ponder about my failures”
169 Growth mindset ”I will look for another job instead of finding blame why I was let go”
170 Growth mindset ”I will not break things to show that I am really upset”
171 Growth mindset ”I will refuse to pick a fight with anybody”
172 Growth mindset ”I will not be paralyzed by my misfortune, I will do something positive to regain my status”
173 Growth mindset ”My depression is holding me back in life, but I will find ways to help myself”
174 Growth mindset ”My partner’s love is gone, I will give him/her time to ponder about the relationship”
175 Growth mindset ”I will not give up in a relationship easily”
176 Growth mindset ”I received a traffic violation, I will make sure I learned my mistakes and not repeat it”
177 Growth mindset ”My friend did  not treat me well, I will understand and find reasons why and I will not judge him/her”
178 Growth mindset ”I will not label someone if I am mistreated”
179 Growth mindset ”I will not use mind-reading in a relationship, I will ask about his/her actions”
180 Growth mindset ”I will confront any challenges that comes to life and not run away from it”
181 Growth mindset ”I will always focus on my development everyday to make myself better in life”
182 Growth mindset ”I don’t have a skill to write but I will try writing anyway”
183 Growth mindset ”I can’t run long distance but I will start training no matter what”
184 Growth mindset ”Co workers and friends are a resource for learning and not competition”
185 Growth mindset ”I will stretch my thinking and patience if I am in a bad situation”
186 Growth mindset ”I am not a very smart person but I will study harder and read more”
187 Growth mindset ”I will double up my effort”
188 Growth mindset ”I will show my failures to others so that they too can learn”
189 Growth mindset ”I will encourage my partner to become a better person”
190 Growth mindset ”I will take remedial courses to keep up”
191 Growth mindset ”I will do it even if it is impossible”
192 Growth mindset ”I will keep going in my endeavor even if I can see the finish line”
193 Growth mindset ”I will force myself to read books even if I don’t like to read”
194 Growth mindset ”I will listen to others when they me things or lessons”
195 Growth mindset ”I will not aim for perfection but I will aim to closer-perfection”
196 Growth mindset ”I will do something that I could not do before”
197 Growth mindset ”I have OCD but I will find ways why this gift is given to me”
198 Growth mindset ”I am diagnosed bipolar but I will find ways to harness the power of this disorder”
199 Growth mindset ”I am special/different but I will find ways to cultivate my gifts”
200 Growth mindset ”My illness will not put me or my mind in a box, I will find ways to make it serve me or others”
201 Growth mindset ”I am unhappy but I will try to overcome my unhappiness in whatever way possible”
202 Growth mindset ”I will take some big risk”
203 Growth mindset ”I am not afraid of failure”
204 Growth mindset ”My boss told me that I am not good enough, I will find ways to show him/her  that he/she is wrong”
205 Growth mindset ”I don’t know the direction of my life, I will ask people, or read or research and study my skills and strengths”
206 Growth mindset ”I will not live to convince or prove to people that  I am good or the best, I am satisfied with what I have”
207 Growth mindset ”I will not compete with others”
208 Growth mindset ”I will not compare my life with others”
209 Growth mindset ”I will not criticize others, I will give rooms to their imperfections”
210 Growth mindset ”I will not complain on any difficult situation, I will accept any misfortune and hardship and then find ways to get out from it”
211 Growth mindset ”I will think of life as a journey”
212 Growth mindset ”I am not the best, but I will find ways to be the best in some ways”
213 Growth mindset ”I will pick a thing that I love to do and stay at it no matter what”
214 Growth mindset ”I will continue in my pursuit on something even if I’m surrounded by naysayers”
215 Growth mindset ”The door is closed for me, I will looks for another open door”
216 Growth mindset ”Someone took my water well, I will dig another water well somewhere”

PARENTING MINDSET
Parent: “You learned that so quickly! You’re so smart!”
Child: If I don’t learn something quickly, I’m not smart.

Parent: “Look at that drawing. Martha, is he the next Picasso or what?”
Child: I shouldn’t try drawing anything hard or they’ll see I’m no Picasso.

Parent: “You’re so brilliant, you got an A without even studying!”
Child: I’d better quit studying or they won’t think I’m
brilliant.

ALTERNATIVE TO PRAISING WHEN A CHILD IS DOING GREAT
“You really studied for your test and your improvement shows it. You read the material over
several times, you outlined it, and you tested yourself on it. It really worked!”

“I like the way you tried all kinds of strategies on that math problem until you finally got it. You thought of a lot of different ways to do it and found the one that worked!”

“I like that you took on that challenging project for your science class. It will take a lot of work—doing
the research, designing the apparatus, buying the parts, and building it. Boy, you’re going to learn a lot
of great things.”

“I know school used to be easy for you and you used to feel like the smart kid all the time. But the truth is
that you weren’t using your brain to the fullest. I’m really excited about how you’re stretching yourself
now and working to learn hard things.”

“That homework was so long and involved. I really admire the way you concentrated and finished it.”

“That picture has so many beautiful colors. Tell me about them.”

“You put so much thought into this essay. It really makes me understand Shakespeare in a new way.”

“The passion you put into that piano piece gives me a real feeling of joy. How do you feel when you play it?”

WHEN A CHILD FAILED OR STRUGGLING
“I liked the effort you put in, but let’s work together some more and figure out what it is you don’t
understand.”

“We all have different learning curves. It may take more time for you to catch on to this and be
comfortable with this material, but if you keep at it like this you will.”

“Everyone learns in a different way. Let’s keep trying to find the way that works for you.”

NOTE TO PARENTS:
Parents think they can hand children permanent confidence—like a gift—by praising their brains and
talent. It doesn’t work, and in fact has the opposite effect. It makes children doubt themselves as soon as
anything is hard or anything goes wrong. If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they
can do is to teach their children to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort, and
keep on learning. That way, their children don’t have to be slaves of praise

Every word and action from parent to child sends a message. Tomorrow, listen to what you
say to your kids and tune in to the messages you’re sending. Are they messages that say:
You have permanent traits and I’m judging them? Or are they messages that say You’re a
developing person and I’m interested in your development?

How do you use praise? Remember that praising children’s intelligence or talent,
tempting as it is, sends a fixed-mindset message. It makes their confidence and
motivation more fragile. Instead, try to focus on the processes they used—their strategies,
effort, or choices. Practice working the process  praise into your interactions with your
children.

Watch and listen to yourself carefully when your child messes up. Remember that
constructive criticism is feedback that helps the child understand how to fix something. It’s
not feedback that labels or simply excuses the child. At the end of each day, write down the
constructive criticism (and the process praise) you’ve given your kids.

Parents often set goals their children can work toward. Remember that having innate talent is
not a goal. Expanding skills and knowledge is. Pay careful attention to the goals you set for your children.

If you’re a teacher, remember that lowering standards doesn’t raise students’ self-esteem.
But neither does raising standards without giving students ways of reaching them. The
growth mindset gives you a way to set high standards and have students reach them. Try
presenting topics in a growth framework and giving students process feedback. I think you’ll
like what happens.

Do you think of your slower students as kids who will never be able to learn well? Do they
think of themselves as permanently dumb? Instead, try to figure out what they don’t
understand and what learning strategies they don’t have. Remember that great teachers
believe in the growth of talent and intellect,

NASA’s Strategies of Selecting Candidates
-they rejected people with pure histories of success  and instead selected people who had had significant failures and bounced back from them

Yesterday, my wife told me that my 17 years old son scored >1900 on his first SAT test and his preparation are the following:
1. Watching MariaS, Novak and Rafael at Tennis Channel
2. Watching Minecraft in YouTube
3. Playing video Games ie. Minecraft and something else
4. The Book-Cracking The SAT 2013
5. Playing Tennis

I don’t exactly know how my son’s study habits are but based on my perception, he did not crank up to the maximum effort he can ever unleash on the SAT preparation.  I am motivated to write a summary of this book because I know that he is a perfect candidate of a would-be fixed mindset person. 

To Brent,
Please find time to process the contents of this book.  I told you to read it but you refuse.  Here’s the summary instead.

Dad

Day975; Dream-Tsunami in Merida, Bee

Book-Destined to Reign
Author: Joseph Prince
ISBN: 10:1-57794-932-3
No. of Pages: 307
No. of Chapters: 22


DREAM: #1 – Tsunami in Merida
Merida, my home town in the Philippines was hit by a tsunami.  I saw how the tide pulled back from the shore in a minute or so when a big tsunami came to town and flooded the whole town.  I told everyone to run for the hill.  There were a few survivors mostly teenagers and I started calling out names to see if they all survived.  After the tsunami, the town was submerged at roof level and only the hill is inhabitable.  The water was so calm and clear like a mirror.  I was overlooking the whole town from the top of the hill and there was no chaos visible and it appeared that everything was normal minus the water level which reaches to the roof.

DREAM: #2 Helping and Comforting Bee
I met an old friend [Bee]. She was in a classroom and needed some help to communicate with someone.  Mary Ann M. was there also and felt reluctant about my help to Bee.  I gave my phone to Bee to be able to call somebody and she end up using my phone listening to music.  I called the phone that I gave her and she was puzzled why my name appeared on the caller id.  The dream ended with Bee finally settled and at peace.

Dreams: Overflowing Water Tower; Soaked QRH and Planner; MN

DREAM: #1-Flawed Water Tower Design
A huge water tower built on top of a hill beside a highway.  On top of the water tower there was a contraption to provide an overflow protection when the tank is overfilled.  The overflow pipe was around 2 feet in diameter and was automated, retractable and robotic.  By design, the overflowing water goes back to the water tower so that no water is wasted when the tank is filled up. One day, the robotic arm was activated because the water overflow sensor was triggered but it turned out that it was a false alarm and the robotic arm retracted back-signifying that the overflow mechanism is working.  On the next day, the overflow sensor triggered again and this time it was real.  The robotic arm moved to the overflow position as designed to direct the overflowing water back to the tank.   It turned out that the design is flawed because when the overflowing water was sent back to the tank, there is no more room in the tank to hold the water.  The top of the water tank busted and was overflowing tremendously.  At the feet of the tower was a highway where cars were regularly passing every minute.  The broken water tower was continually gushing out water like a flood and drenching the cars below.  The passing cars were almost lifted up as the gushing water hit the ground.  Cars keep going but no accident, the only thing that was clear – passing cars received a good amount of shower for free.

What is the significance of a water tower?
Why flawed design?
Why highway by the water tower?
Why overflowing water tower?

DREAM: #2-Soaked QRH Notebook and Planner
Me and my co-workers went on top of the tower celebrating something [not known].  We were sitting at the edge of the tall tower with no safety rails.  Below us is a calm body of water.  It feels like we were on top of a dam and overlooking a deep, still water below.  Suddenly, we heard something dropped in the water.  Some were tiny items and some were large items.  Then a friend of mine told me, “Hey, is that your QRH floating?”  [QRH is my quick reference handbook for work.  Whenever I go inside the factory, I normally bring that notebook with me].    Unfortunately, it was my QRH floating in the water.  People started to retrieve their own items from the water but I stayed on top of the tower and remained seated and just watched the chaotic event.  I was really feeling bad because the QRH holds tons of my work notes and I have not converted it to an electronic format.  After the chaotic fishing and grabbing all the debris in the water, a person came up to me and gave me back my QRH but this time it was missing the spring binder.  The notebook was intact but just missing the spring binder.  The contents were not smeared and still very readable once dried.  One thing weird happened after I received back my QRH, a co-worker also returned my black planner which I don’t remember bringing it with me nor remembered that I dropped it.  He just told me, “Here’s your planner also”.

Why celebrating?
Why the tower reappeared again?
What is the significance of water?
What is the significance of the QRH?
Why the planner was found but mentioned before?
Why the planner, I don’t even use my black planner?

DREAM: #3-An encounter with a girl at work
I was in a hallway and saw this girl MN, we exchanged a few hello and level1 conversation and I told her that we should get together one day for lunch.  She said, 11:30, we will have lunch together.  It was 12:00 but I did not call her back and missed the lunch meeting.  My reason-I cannot have a lunch meeting with this woman because I am a married man and I have to stick with my principles.

Why MN? We are just acquaintance.
What is the significance of the meeting?

DREAM: #4-MN was in bed with me in between my wife [not sexual]
I was lying in bed with my wife but this MN was in between us.  It was a friendly conversation and we were talking just about anything like good friends.  The only thing weird is I was caressing [touch or stroke lightly in a loving or endearing manner]  MN and not my wife. 

Why MN reappeared?
Why was she in be with me and my wife?  [Disrespecting my wife is the last thing I will do to my wife]
What is the significance of “caressing”?

SONG: Lord, I Want You

To You Lord, I’ll be true
And through it all, I love You
[x2]

To You Lord, I’ll be true
And through it all, I love You

In the blindness that comes
Through the bitterness of soul
You’re teaching me to see with my heart
In the weakness that comes
When you touch me with Your hand
Forever I’ll be leaning on You
[x2]

Lord, I want You
[repeat]

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Day971: Dreams

DREAM:
A pregnant child Zebra2 jump off from a building unscathed.  I have to counsel her.

I was with MA preparing for a trip when an ambulance dragging her sister in a surfboard and she was dropped off in a huge parking lot and we have to take her to the ER.  I took my pickup truck to take her to the ER but she just hopped in the back of the truck like nothing happens.  As I was putting the luggage to the back of the truck, MA instructed me to be careful with his luggage since there were fragile items inside. When I placed his luggage the other way, he reminded me again.

I was in a big university and walked through a big hallway.  I was looking for an exit but end up with a huge double door with no sign of an exit.  I opened the door and saw MS and he shhhhs me because they were in a group meeting with a lot of people and the speaker was talking.  I slowly closed the door and left.

I was walking in a street without a shirt but had my black emergency backup on my back.  I saw 2 college roommates when I went into a very small tunnel which at first impossible to get through.  I went into the tunnel and  I was able to get through the tunnel just enough to crawl with my backpack.

NOTES: Favored Plus…

Title: Favored
Guest Speaker: Christine Caine
Celebration Church Podcast

Favor of God is upon us but what is the purpose?  Is it just for us?
There is a purpose for blessings-the church has a bigger task to humanity
You are the house, the storehouse
God is already doing something-go with His footsteps
Do not be afraid, you have found favor with God

The Virgin Mary-Jesus’ Birth Foretold Luke 1:26-38
26Now in the sixth month the angel Gabriel was sent from God to a city in Galilee called Nazareth, 27to a virgin engaged to a man whose name was Joseph, of the descendants of David; and the virgin’s name was Mary. 28And coming in, he said to her, "Greetings, favored one! The Lord is with you." 29But she was very perplexed at this statement, and kept pondering what kind of salutation this was. 30The angel said to her, "Do not be afraid, Mary; for you have found favor with God. 31And behold, you will conceive in your womb and bear a son, and you shall name Him Jesus. 32He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High; and the Lord God will give Him the throne of His father David;33and He will reign over the house of Jacob forever, and His kingdom will have no end." 34Mary said to the angel, "How can this be, since I am a virgin?" 35The angel answered and said to her, "The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you; and for that reason the holy Child shall be called the Son of God.36And behold, even your relative Elizabeth has also conceived a son in her old age; and she who was called barren is now in her sixth month.37For nothing will be impossible with God." 38And Mary said, "Behold, the bondslave of the Lord; may it be done to me according to your word." And the angel departed from her.

 

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What is favor to you?  Awesome, Great, Good News, Excited
Many were chosen to bring forth a generation-having a favor is a big responsibility
To take the Gospel to all nation-this is the responsibility
Your purpose-Be the light of the world and the salt of the earth

Favor Plus Attachment:
1. Favor is always attached to PURPOSE
2. Favor is attached to TIMING
3. Favor is attached to the PRESENCE OF GOD
4. Favor is always attached to FAITH
5. Favor is attached to OBEDIENCE
6. CONFESSION is attached to the favor of God

1. Favor is always attached to PURPOSE
You are called to bring forth GOD in the midst of darkness
I’ve called you for a higher purpose
There is a purpose-to take God everywhere-to all the world

2. Favor is attached to TIMING
You cannot put God in a box of time.  God place the timing, (not us)
We all received favor from God-what is missing is timing (God’s timing)
Some of you are in the edge of giving up-don’t give up, you are almost there

3. Favor is attached to the PRESENCE OF GOD
We are not is a cruise ship, we are in a battleship (we are at war with the devil)
People need to be empowered-be trained to face the frontline
You cannot do this without the power of the Holy Spirit
The world is the battleground, be prepared and be filled with the Holy Spirit
My Holy Spirit will overshadow you with joy, peace, patience
The Spirit of God-this is your fuel, you cannot do it alone
Be internally motivated by the Spirit of God, this is your fire

4. Favor is always attached to FAITH
Nothing is impossible to God!
What is impossible with man-to God it is not
Allow God to be God, faithfully serve Him

5. Favor is attached to OBEDIENCE
Obedience is not a trendy word, not popular, we have our own way
Just say yes to God, be obedient to everything God told you
Obedience=Risks, there is always a risk, take it
We want favor but we don’t want 100% obedience
Obey and every thing will change in your life
Church leaders, don’t be an entertainer, be a catalyst
There is a price for being a Christian, pay the price
We need a church that say-WE LOVE EVERYONE!

6. CONFESSION is attached to the favor of God

Confess who you are. Be open about who you are in Christ (your faith and your life)
The power of life and death is in the tongue.  Declare who you are.
If you can’t say what God say, Don’t say it. Say nothing
Doubt dies when not spoken
Stop talking about your mountain, tell the mountain to move.
Don’t walk with arrogance, walk with gentleness- remember that you are favored!
Your life is your confession.

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Day962; Dream

DREAM: Our neighbor’s house was remodeled.  The workers stripped everything in the house and the only remaining items were the frame of the house.  The house framing was extended to double the area of the house.  The look of the house was totally different and I cannot even notice the resemblance of the old house.  The driveway was empty and there were no homeowners around.  When I walked towards the backyard of my house, I noticed that the neighbor’s wood patio extended way beyond to my side of the fence line.  The wood patio was sitting right close to my own backyard patio.  There was a woman who was at the backyard watching the workers and I was going to ask her about the patio but I did not; I just left the patio like it is.  I was not sure if she was the owner or not.

neighbor’s house-?
remodeling-?
unfinished house but in progress-?
extended/expanded house-?
over extended neighbor’s patio-?

I want to know more-I was given more..

When you get a chance, please read all chapters at once as if it was written to you.
Colossians-Chapter 1
Colossians-Chapter 2
Colossians-Chapter 3
Colossians-Chapter 4

View Colossians Bible Study Guide in .pdf
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BibleStudyGuides
TextualSermonSeries
TopicalSermonSeries
SingleTextualSermons
SingleTopicalSermons

Search Me, Know Me

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Search me, know me
Try me and see
Every worthless affection hidden in me
All I’m asking for is that You’d cleanse me, Lord
Create in me a heart that’s clean
Conquer the power of secret shame
Come wash away the guilty stain of all my sin
Clothe me in robes of righteousness
Cover my nakedness with grace
All of my life before You now I humbly bring

Day958; 143×1,000,000,000; Dream

Dream: I was at work at Bay43 and was walking towards Bay42 when I saw that the whole Bay42 was empty.  I saw Joven just doing nothing in the empty Bay and I asked him what happened to all the new installed equipment.  He replied “The want us to Read and Understand”. Near Joven was an open tile with a Korean lady underneath the open tile staring at me.

Today was a historic day for a new project at work.

To my loving wife, 143×1,000,000,000

NOTES: Pure Sex-The Best Sex

I was going to keep my notes as “secret” today and just bury it in my notebook but the reminder from the Holy Spirit was bothering me since this morning after church. 

We all made mistake, we are sinners, we do sinful things – big or small, it does not matter. “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God”. “No one is perfect amongst us”. Also, there is a thing called – “My people perished for the lack of knowledge”.  Yeah, I did not know about the word “purity”. 

Most of us probably will say that to ourselves or our spouse – “I was not aware that my actions is hurting you or damaged our relationship”.  For those who were there already, don’t look back, look forward and make a better lifestyle change.  For those who are just getting started in a relationship, please understand the 7 key points mentioned below.  Your future will be much joyful and less painful if you abide the guiding principles about being pure.

purity: definition
– Being undiluted or unmixed with extraneous material
– The state of being unsullied [spotlessly clean and fresh] by sin or moral wrong; lacking a knowledge of evil

Pure Sex-What the Bible Say?
Celebration Church, 20130210

Be faith faithful with small things.
Disagreement then Divorce
Most topics at home are: love, discipline, leadership, truth, honesty, hard work, perseverance, but never the topic about sex
Sex is not being preached at home. Are you teaching your kids about sexual purity?
Sex before marriage avoidance, is the message clear at home?
Reason why sex is not mentioned at home-uncomfortable subject, don’t know how and not trained to talk about it
Society is always is the voice about sex, not the church. Now is the time.
No biblical knowledge is being discussed openly

7 Key Points:
1. Pure sex is God’s intention
2. Pure sex is defined by God’s Word
3. Pure sex is only pure in marriage
4. Pure sex contains no additional additives/preservatives
5. Pure sex is not about your pleasure
6. Pure sex must be protected
7. Pure sex is the best sex

1. Pure sex is God’s intention
Purity is God’s Will
Abstain from sexual immorality
Sex is a God given gift
Sex is the highest degree of intimacy in a relationship

2. Pure sex is defined by God’s Word
Do not practice what the world do
Sex-be fruitful and multiple [for reproduction]
If the action is not, it is not “pure”

3. Pure sex is only pure in marriage
Sex outside marriage is like worshipping the devil [idol worship]-produces sin and bad consequences ie. disease and guilt and anxiety and fear
Outside marriage, it is not pure
Can you produce? If no-it is not pure
Marriage must be honored by ALL

4. Pure sex contains no additional additives/preservatives
No need to stimulate
No outside people, ie. pictures, movies, materials, people
Focus on him/her-that’s it
Strange flesh is perverted

5. Pure sex is not about your pleasure
It is for the enjoyment of the other partner [not you]
To give pleasure to your spouse
Do not deprive one another

6. Pure sex must be protected
Sex is sacred in marriage-protect it at  all cost
Be sensitive to temptations, flee or depart or remove yourself from the situation
Stay away from places that you are not suppose to be.

7. Pure sex is the best sex

If sex is done with honor, it gives lasting pleasure and contentment
Shared with the husband and wife forever in memory
Pure sex produces peace and lasting joy.

References:
Now, about sex and marriage: Drink only the water that comes from your own well, and don’t let your water flow out into the streets.Keep it for yourself, and don’t share it with strangers. Be happy with your own wife. Enjoy the woman you married while you were young. She is like a beautiful deer, a lovely fawn. Let her love satisfy you completely. Stay drunk on her love, and don’t go stumbling into the arms of another woman.
Proverbs 5:15-20

I don’t want to believe what I am hearing—that there is sexual sin among you. And it is such a bad kind of sexual sin that even those who have never known God don’t allow it. People say that a man there has his father’s wife.
1 Corinthians 5:1

God wants you to be holy. He wants you to stay away from sexual sins
1 Thessalonians 4:3

Also, remember the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah and the other towns around them. Like those angels they were full of sexual sin and involved themselves in sexual relations that are wrong. And they suffer the punishment of eternal fire, an example for us to see.
Jude 1:7

Some people think they are pure, but they have done nothing to remove the filth of their sin.
Proverbs 30:12

They should bandage the wounds my people have suffered, but they treat their wounds like small scratches. They say, ‘It’s all right, everything is all right.’ But it is not all right!
Jeremiah 6:14

Rules about sexual relations: Leviticus 18:6-30
1The Lord said to Moses, 2“Tell the Israelites: I am the Lord your God.3You must not follow the customs of Egypt where you lived, and you must not follow the customs of the Canaanites where I am leading you. You must not live the way they do. 4You must obey my rules and follow my laws. Be sure to follow my rules because I am the Lord your God.5You must obey my rules and my laws, because whoever obeys them will live. I am the Lord.

6“You must never have sexual relations with your close relatives. I am the Lord.

7“You must never have sexual relations with your father or mother. She is your mother, so you must not have sexual relations with her.8You must not have sexual relations with your father’s wife, even if she is not your mother, because that is like having sexual relations with your father.

9“You must not have sexual relations with your sister. It doesn’t matter if she is the daughter of your father or your mother. And it doesn’t matter if your sister was born in your house or at some other place.

10“You must not have sexual relations with your granddaughter. It doesn’t matter whether she is the daughter of your son or the daughter of your daughter—they are all a part of you!

11“If your father and his wife have a daughter, she is your sister. You must not have sexual relations with her.

12“You must not have sexual relations with your father’s sister. She is your father’s close relative. 13You must not have sexual relations with your mother’s sister. She is your mother’s close relative. 14You must not have sexual relations with the wife of your father’s brother. You must not go near your uncle’s wife for sexual relations. She is your aunt.

15“You must not have sexual relations with your daughter-in-law. She is your son’s wife, so you must not have sexual relations with her.

16“You must not have sexual relations with your brother’s wife. That would be like having sexual relations with your brother.

17“You must not have sexual relations with a mother and her daughter or her granddaughter. It doesn’t matter if this granddaughter is the daughter of this woman’s son or daughter. Her granddaughters are her close relatives. It is wrong to do this.

18“While your wife is still living, you must not take her sister as another wife. This will make the sisters become enemies. You must not have sexual relations with your wife’s sister.

19“You must not go near a woman to have sexual relations with her during her monthly time of bleeding. She is unclean during this time.

20“You must not have sexual relations with your neighbor’s wife. This will only make you filthy.

21“You must not give any of your children through the fire to Molech. If you do this, you will show that you don’t respect the name of your God. I am the Lord.

22“Men, you must not have sexual relations with another man as with a woman. That is a terrible sin!

23“Men, you must not have sexual relations with any animal. This will make you filthy. And women, you must not have sexual relations with any animal. It is against nature!

24“Don’t make yourself unclean by doing any of these wrong things! I am throwing nations off their land and giving it to you because they did those terrible sins. 25They made the land filthy. Now the land is sick of those things, and it will vomit out the people who live there.

26“So you must obey my laws and rules. You must not do any of these terrible sins. These rules are for the citizens of Israel and the people living among you. 27Those who lived in the land before you have done all these terrible things. So the land became filthy. 28If you do these things, you will make the land filthy. And it will vomit you out as it vomited out the nations that were there before you. 29Whoever does any of these terrible sins must be separated from their people! 30Other people have done these terrible sins, but you must obey my laws. You must not do any of these terrible sins. Do not make yourself filthy with these terrible sins. I am the Lord your God.”

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Book: Art of Public Speaking- Ch29, 30, 31 Notes +End

Finally, I’ve reached the last page of this book today.  I had been reading it slowly daily so that I can soaked in the message that the author was trying to convey. Please note that this book is not just for public speaking and be advised that your life will change after reading the whole book.  No, I’m just kidding – but in theory, if you will take heed of the wisdom that the author mentioned in every chapter, in some ways, your perspective in life will shift to a better one. 

There are people who do not like to be told. [I am aware that sometimes I tell people…, please forgive me]. If you have been in my inner circle lately, and you had been ignoring the pointers that I shared with you, this is your chance to indirectly listen to me.  Read what I am reading.  Take notes of good points and then meditate on key ideas and find time to execute some of the action items that are worth implementing to your own life.  One time, you asked me why all these bad things are happening to you.  Read p180-Chapter 29-Right Thinking and Personality.

”All that a man is, all his happiness, his sorrow, his achievements, his failures, his magnetism, his weakness, all are in an amazingly large measure the direct results of his thinking. Thought and heart combine to produce right thinking: "As a man thinketh in his heart so is he." As he does not think in his heart so he can never become. “

In p189,  Chapter 31-Making Conversation Effective, please read the conversation hints if you don’t have time to read the whole book.  I think it can also be applied to team meetings and blogging.

“ The first step in remedying habits of confusion in manner, awkward bearing, vagueness in thought, and lack
of precision in utterance, is to recognize your faults. If you are serenely unconscious of them, no one–least of
all yourself–can help you. But once diagnose your own weaknesses, and you can overcome them by doing
four things:
1. WILL to overcome them, and keep on willing.
2. Hold yourself in hand by assuring yourself that you know precisely what you ought to say. If you cannot do
that, be quiet until you are clear on this vital point.
3. Having thus assured yourself, cast out the fear of those who listen to you–they are only human and will
respect your words if you really have something to say and say it briefly, simply, and clearly.
4. Have the courage to study the English language until you are master of at least its simpler forms.

Conversational Hints
Choose some subject that will prove of general interest to the whole group. Do not explain the mechanism of a
gas engine at an afternoon tea or the culture of hollyhocks at a stag party. It is not considered good taste for a man to bare his arm in public and show scars or deformities. It is equally bad form for him to flaunt his own woes, or the deformity of some one else’s character
.”

The Art of Public Speaking, p180 [public domain]
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Next Book Reading-Destined to Reign by Joseph Prince pp307[This book was a Christmas gift , [20121218, VN] from a Christian friend but the receiver declined to read and then forced me to read it and left the book in my reading table.  In obedience, I started Chapter1 last week and I am excited to learn more….

Chapter 17-Thoughts and Reserve Power

While waiting for the temperature outside [41’F] to get warmer before my 40mile cycling today, I spent reading in Chapter 17.  The topic is not just applicable to public speaking but also to writing and most specially to thinking.

The Mental Storehouse
The Seeing Eye
The Thinking Mind
Reading as a Stimulus to thought
The uses of books and reading

The Art of Public Speaking, p87 [public domain]
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Can’t Stop Praising

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Try to find the words to express the way You are
But the beauty of the Lord
Can not be described
In just one lifetime
Look at the sun over the seas
Look at Your grace that covers me

Now I know, yes I know
Now I know, I know
Your love has saved me

In the morning
I can’t stop praising Your Name
In the evening
I can’t stop praising Your Name

In the morning
I can’t stop praising Your Name
In the evening, I can’t stop

And I want you to know
Yes, I want you to know, oh yes I
And I want you to know
Yes, I want you to know

Lord You’re so amazing
Every word You say is true
Better than the finest treasure
So glad that I found You
You held me close when I was down
Your world has turned my world around

Now I know, yes I know
Now I know, I know
How much I love you

Hallelujah, we praise Your Name
We praise Your Name
© 2003 Sony

Christian lyrics – CAN’T STOP PRAISING LYRICS – HILLSONG

I’m Not A Good Singer But..

My 40Miles cycling yesterday ended with this song “Saviour King’.  I don’t believe in coincidences but I believe that God put that song at the very last so that when I wake up in the morning, I will put my headphones on and play the last song in my iPhone and meditate on it.  And here I am listening to this song in “repeat” so that I can soaked in what it really meant to my spirit.

I’ve shared almost everything here in my journal about my life and how I do things.  I’m trying to reveal things to you so that one day you might find peace and joy and contentment in life.  I know I will not be here forever to mentor you -there are more things/ideas that you need to know.  I am well aware that you are young and you want to enjoy life as it is presented to you by the media of this world.  I’ve consumed a lot of materials regarding the subject about living a great life.  There are many topics to choose out there and I’ve probably tried them all.  I’ve always seek peace, tranquility and contentment in some other means but my search always comes empty handed … until I surrendered my life to Christ. But even after I’ve committed my life to Him,  there was still a portion inside me that was untouched and I keep searching. 

The whole thing changed when I discovered WORSHIP.  I am not a good singer but I tried to sing to God through my own personal worship at home in secret and the whole life picture changed.   I did not know what it was but when I raised my hand and closed my eyes and sing a song to Him-there was a feeling of transformation inside me.  That feeling became a daily occurrence and later I know that it was not a feeling-it was an awakening.  I’ve discovered singing as a form of worship – it was the beginning of endless revelations.

I am not going to drag you to church, that is your responsibility to seek the truth.  I’m here to point you in the right direction.  If ever you’ve reached to the point in your life that “nothing works”, you know exactly what step you have to do next.

I do wish and pray that one day we can raise our hands together side by side in worship.

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Let now the weak say I have strength
By the spirit of power that raised Christ from the dead
Let now the poor stand and confess
That my portion is Him and I’m more than blessed
[pc]
Let now our hearts burn with a flame
A fire consuming all for Your Son’s holy name
And with the heavens we declare
You are our King
[c]
We love You lord
We worship You
You are our God
You alone are good
Let now Your church shine as the bride
That You saw in Your heart as You offered up Your life
Let now the lost be welcomed home
But the saved and redeemed those adopted as Your own
[c2]
We love You Lord
We worship You
You are our God
You alone are good
You asked Your Son
To carry this
The heavy cross
Our weight of sin
I love You Lord
I worship You
Hope which was lost
Now stands renewed
I give my life
To honour this
The love of Christ
The Saviour King

BookSummary: How To Win Friends and Influence People

BECOME A FRIENDLIER PERSON
1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest, sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
4. Become genuinely interested in other people.
5. Smile.
6.  Remember that a person’s name is to that person the most important sound in any language.
7.  Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
8.  Talk in terms of the other person’s interest.
9.  Make the other person feel important – and do so sincerely.
10 The only way to get the best of an argument is to
     avoid it.

WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING
11.  Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, "You’re wrong."
12.  If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
13.  Begin in a friendly way.
14.  Get the other person saying, "Yes, yes" immediately.
15.  Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
16.  Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
17.  Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
18.  Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
19.  Appeal to the nobler motives.
20.  Dramatize your ideas.

BE A LEADER
21.  Throw down a challenge.
22.  Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
23.  Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
24.  Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
25.  Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
26.  Let the other person save face.
27.  Praise the slightest and every improvement. Be "lavish in your praise."
28.  Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
29.  Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
30.  Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest

9 Strategies-You Can’t Win An Argument

From: How to Win Friends and Influence People p.120 By Dale Carnegie

“In an article in Bits and Pieces* some suggestions are made on how to keep a disagreement from becoming an argument:

1. Welcome the disagreement.
Remember the slogan, “When two partners always agree, one of them is not necessary.” If there is some point you haven’t thought about, be thankful if it is brought to your attention. Perhaps this disagreement is your opportunity to be corrected before you make a serious mistake.

2. Distrust your first instinctive impression.
Our first natural reaction in a disagreeable situation is to be defensive. Be careful. Keep calm and watch out for your first reaction. It may be you at your worst, not your best.

3. Control your temper.
Remember, you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry.

4. Listen first.
Give your opponents a chance to talk. Let them finish. Do not resist, defend or debate. This only raises barriers. Try to build bridges of understanding. Don’t build higher barriers of misunderstanding.

5. Look for areas of agreement.
When you have heard your opponents out, dwell first on the points and areas on which you agree.

6. Be honest,
Look for areas where you can admit error and say so. Apologize for your mistakes. It will help disarm your opponents and reduce defensiveness.

7. Promise to think over your opponents’ ideas and study them carefully.
And mean it. Your opponents may be right. It is a lot easier at this stage to agree to think about their points than to move rapidly ahead and find yourself in a position where your opponents can say: “We tried to tell you, but you wouldn’t listen.”

8. Thank your opponents sincerely for their interest.
Anyone who takes the time to disagree with you is interested in the same things you are. Think of them as people who really want to help you, and you may turn your opponents into friends.

9. Postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem.
Suggest that a new meeting be held later that day or the next day, when all the facts may be brought to bear. In preparation for this meeting, ask yourself some hard questions:

Questions to Ask Before Arguing:
1. Could my opponents be right? Partly right?
2. Is there truth or merit in their position or argument?
3. Is my reaction one that will relieve the problem, or will it just relieve any frustration?
4. Will my reaction drive my opponents further away or draw them closer to me?
5. Will my reaction elevate the estimation good people have of me?
6. Will I win or lose? What price will I have to pay if I win?
7. If I am quiet about it, will the disagreement blow over?
8. Is this difficult situation an opportunity for me?”

NOTES: Now Boarding-Are You Waiting?

When you wait patiently:
1. Waiting unlocks power
2. Waiting develops discipline
3. Waiting provides instructions
4. Waiting builds anticipation
5. Waiting forms relationships
6. Waiting open doors

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For thus says the Lord God, the Holy One of Israel: “In returning and rest you shall be saved; In quietness and confidence shall be your strength.” But you would not, Isaiah 30:15

Even the youths shall faint and be weary, And the young men shall utterly fall, But those who wait on the Lord
Shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary,
They shall walk and not faint. Isaiah 40:30

2013 Objectives [not Resolutions]

Resolution or Objectives?

Definition:
Resolution-A decision to do something or to behave in a certain manner
ObjectiveThe goal intended to be attained (and which is believed to be attainable)

I called my list as Objectives [not resolutions] – meaning – that these are just my intentions for 2013.  I am not really deciding by heart that I will really do it, so no pressure on my part.  I’ve done this last year also and the outcome was very positive.  Another concept about “objectives” is “segmentation” from TRIZ40 .  By diving the whole into smaller parts, the task become easily manageable and therefore easier to attain.  During wartime, in order for a nation to win the war, a nation must win smaller battles.  To win smaller battles, soldiers need to attain objectives.  Those objectives are smaller/simpler tasks generated from the highest level of the chain of command ie. capture the hill, secure the bridge, establish presence or build a support depot or establish a landing zone etc.

If we apply the same principle to our lives using smaller objectives-anything is possible.

Why don’t you try it.

My 2013 Objectives:
1    Stay alive for 365 Days
2    65 Miles Rosedale Ride [March 2013]
3    100 Miles Outlaw Ride [October 2013]
4    Weekly Long Distance Bike Ride
5    Weekly Long Distance Swim
6    Weekly Run Training
7    Weekly 25 Yards Subsurface Swim [1 breath]
8    Daily  2-minute Ab Workout
9    Daily 2-minute Dumbbells
10    Daily Bible Study
11    Daily Journal
12    Daily Sword Training
13    Daily Breathing exercise
14    Set apart from people for 365 Days
15    Write more from the heart
16    Devote to spiritual journey
17    Master Windows Server 2012
18    Master SQL Server 2012
19    Master Sharepoint 2013
20    Avoid Stent #3 in 2013
21    Stay at <180lbs in 2013

Today Is A New Life

"Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand." TC

It’s the start of 2013 and most people on earth are ready to tackle a resolution to make each life better.  But there is one problem – we do not know where to start or how? 

My proposal: Start with  “core values/principles” listed in Dale Carnegie’s Golden Book.  I like #1 in page 6.

View Dale Carnegie’s Golden Book
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REVIEW: 2012 Objectives

1    Stay alive for 365 Days, Completed
2    65 Miles Rosedale Ride [March 2012], Completed
3    100 Miles Outlaw Ride [October 2012], Completed
4    Weekly Long Distance Bike Ride, Completed
5    Weekly Long Distance Swim, Completed
6    Weekly 25 Yards Subsurface Swim [1 breath], Completed
7    Daily 100 Rep Abs Workout, Completed
8    Daily 100 Rep Dumbbells, Somewhat
9    Daily Bible Study, Completed
10    Daily Journal, Completed
11    Daily Sword Training, Completed
12    Daily Deep Breathing Exercise, Completed
13    Set apart from people for 365 Days, Completed
14    Devote to spiritual journey, Completed
15    Complete NASA Fault Tree Analysis Research, Completed
16    Implement NASA Fault Tree Analysis in CMPLSI, Somewhat
17    Complete CMPLSI Ticket Database, Completed
18    Migrate CMPLSI Sharepoint to 2010, Not Completed
19    Complete Lync Server2010 Deployment ,Not Completed
20    Complete Music Studio Setup, Completed
21    Read Power Listening, Completed
22    Read Lync Server 2010, Completed
23    Read NASA Fault Tree Analysis,  Completed
24    Read Put Your Dreams to the Test,  Not Completed
25    Read 8th Habit Completed,
26    Read The Journey, Completed
27    Read Purpose Driven Life, Completed
28    Read Introducing Windows 2012 Server, Completed
29    Read Introducing Windows 8, Completed
30    Read Introducing SQL 2012 Server, Completed
31    Brent Driver’s License, Completed
32    Read Managing Chaos, Completed
33    Read The Checklist Manifesto, Completed
34    Watch a Hillsong Concert, Completed
35    Avoid Stent #3 in 2012, Completed
36    Stay at <180lbs in 2012, Completed

2012 Swim [Miles]    115.345
2012 Bike [Miles]    2273.22
2012 Run [Miles]    3
Lifetime Swim [Miles]    1265.48
Lifetime Bike [Miles]    27682.88
Lifetime Run [Miles]    1065.88

I Simplified My Life-I Got An iPhone4

Not a typo-Yes iPhone4 [the old version, not the iPhone4S, and not the new iPhone5]

Here’s what I think:
1. iPhone4 was free [a hand-me down product, thanks to my roommates who decided to upgrade]
2. I don’t need Apple Care, I have 1 standby unit that I can switch SIM cards anytime.
3. Small screen is better, I can really pay attention to what I’m reading/doing.
4. Smaller/thicker phone is better, I can slide it in my back pocket without worrying of breaking the screen
5. Smaller screen is better, less visible apps to choose therefore less confusion and distraction
6. I have so many charger/cable laying around
7. It has iOS6.0.1, I just upgraded lately
8. No Siri but I have my fingers to type.
9. I have the same Apps as anyone else
10. I now have Facetime [don’t call me, I’m not into face to face conversation]
11. The battery last longer, 7 hours of Spotify listening
12. Connects to my sound mixer easily/quickly for hi-fidelity listening
13. Simple Screenshot and sharing using Dropbox
14. I used GTask more than ever as my Task List
15. I love reading YouVersion before I even get up in the morning.
16. I listen to Christian music more without worrying that I will run out of battery

Screenshots of all my Apps, 3 Pages only and the first page is where all the frequently used application resides.

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Day905; Brent First Mile Solo


PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Workout-Rest

READING LIST:
The Purpose Driven Life, p115

TIMELINE:
0800, End of Sleep
0900, Celebration Church
1000, Celebration Church
1100, AT&T, switch to iPhone from Android
1200, Car wash
1300, Read
1500, Nap
1800, Iron clothes
1900, Chapter 22
2100, Read SQL 2012

BRENT FIRST MILE – SOLO
In 1903, Orville Wright piloted the first powered airplane that lasted in 12 seconds.  He covered a distance of 120 feet as the plane climbs 20 feet above the ground.

There is no comparison here as to what the Wright brothers experienced in 1903.  I just want to make a point here that to us – Me, Britta and Brittney – it feels like this guy was taking off in an airplane for the first time and we don’t know if he is going to make it.  Well, he did not go that far today.  He was just dropping off a Christmas gift to a friend in a nearby neighborhood.  He only accumulated at least 6 miles of neighborhood street [it does not count as an actual flight].

There is always a “first time” for everything and today is the first time Brent was on his own – operating a vehicle without an adult supervision with only 6 Months of training.  He is only 16 and it seems like he is still a baby to us.  As a parent, there is only a few things that we can do to prepare our kids for real life experiences.  Yes, we can lecture them how to do things, we can teach them how to react in a certain situation.  Sometimes we share them our hard earned life lessons that sometimes appear to be a minor learning but then contributed to a bigger outcome later on. No, we cannot give them everything we know.  They have to do things themselves and venture the land on their own.  As a swimmer, I’ve always encourage people just to jump in the water and see if you will make it to the other side of the pool.  Sometimes life is like that.  We take the first step alone and the rest is history.

To Brent, I hope that you have acquired enough experiences to manage any situation on your own. Enjoy the rest of the lonely roads on your own.

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1997-Brittney and Brent
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Day904; Year #4-Stent#1


PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Workout-40Mile Cycling

READING LIST:
The Purpose Driven Life, p109

TIMELINE:
0700, End of Sleep
0800, Read
1300, 40Mile Cycling
1400, 40Mile Cycling
1500, 40Mile Cycling
1700, Nap
1800, Read
1900, Read
2000, Read

1460 DAYS
Today marks year#4 since my MI [view my Year#3 Journal] .  So far I had been surviving daily but I do not trust my body anymore.  I wake up each day as if it is my last and I am always grateful for every breath that I take.  I am well.  My body is functioning just right.  I saw my cardiologist a few days ago and he is not too worried about my recovery.  To my family and friends who sometimes wonder if I will come back from my 40-mile cycling workout or be able to survive a 25yd subsurface swim, I am ok and please do not worry about me.  I think I am now ready to go anytime.

STIGMA/ENIGMA
Being a cardiac patient makes my life a little different.  To me life is not normal anymore.  I view things differently.  I have not answered the “WHY” question about the cardiac event but I think I’ve already decoded the “WHAT” part.  When something happen to a person, there is a domino effect that precedes the event.  Humans tends to get awakened and we start doing things differently and in a better way.  Many people dread to experience a life threatening illness.  In my part, I am glad that it happened.  The cardiac event changed me as a person.  I think now that life is really too short. If I am given the opportunity to say something nice to somebody, without hesitation I’d say it.  Whenever I feel that my service contributes to the well being of another person, I take actions right away.  I now think that I might not have another chance to do what I ‘m called to do at a specific moment.

IT’S NOT ABOUT ME
I dislike blowing my own trumpet.  Every time I write something about myself or my activities or when I mentioned about what my family is doing and how they are, I feel a slight guilt inside me.  I don’t normally use the word “self” very often. When you hear me talking about my achievements, what I’ve done and what I’m doing – I am not longing to be approved by anyone.  I’m writing it down here and sharing it to the world so that you might know how I am able to encourage myself despite my life threatening medical condition.

There are people reading this journal who is suffering physically far greater than what I had experienced. I want to encourage you to keep going.  Do not lose hope.  Stay in prayer. Stay active when you can.  The end of your life is when there is no more breath in you.  But even that, there is always a hope of heaven.

I WANT TO HELP
If you think that I am in a position to lend a hand, please do not hesitate to let me know.  My heart is always open especially to people that I do not know.

2008 MI Incident Report.pdf
Mindmap-MI Recovery.pdf

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Stent #1 Swim/Bike Log
2008, Stent #1-my heart attack, exactly 4 years today.
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Day903; Brent Driving Test; -13

PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Brent’s Driving Test
Workout-Rest

READING LIST:
The Purpose Driven Life, p104

TIMELINE:
0700, End of Sleep
0900, Texas DMV for Brent’s driving test.
1000, Brent passed the test.
1100, Lunch at Jason Deli-pasta
1300, Nap
1500, Research about DIY paint scratch repair.
1600, Purchase DIY paint repair kit from Amazon
1700, Purchase Touch up paint from dealer
1800, Read about MS Action Pack Renewal Benefits
With the subscription:
Microsoft Exchange Server 2013 Standard
Microsoft Office Professional Plus 2013
Microsoft SharePoint Server 2013
Microsoft SQL Server 2013
Windows 8 Pro
Windows Server 2012
Windows Server 2012 Essentials

Mission accomplished-May 29, 2012 to December 21, 2012

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New Car Insurance Premium Per 6 Months

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Today was a small victory for us but in a broader view, having a driver’s license is actually a big deal.  Let me count the ways:
The Positive
1. I don’t have to drive him to school or pick him up.
2. He can do his own errands now or mine.
3. He starts his deeper independence training-being responsible for his own safety.
4. I don’t have to stay late at night waiting for him to be picked up from a friends house.
5. His freedom to do anything expands.

The Negative:
1. Insurance cost went up by almost $1000.00/year
2. Need for car #4
3. A slight anxiety of his whereabouts.
4. Me an my wife will now start thinking about“empty nest”. Today is the beginning of it.
5. My time with him will be less.  He won’t need me anymore.

Kids grows really fast and that is why as a parent, we ought to spend more time with them at any moment when they are available.  I have no regrets in the way I raised them and I know that from their hearts, they know we did everything for them.  To Brent and Brittney, you will always be in my heart.

Even if you guys are grown up now, this video always reminds me of how cute you were.

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March 25, 2003

Day897; Texas DPS Pflugerville

PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Workout-40Miles cycling

READING LIST:
The Purpose Driven Life, p80

TIMELINE:
1000, End of Sleep
1200, 40Miles Cycling
1300, 40Miles Cycling
1400, 40Miles Cycling
1600, Driving practice with Brent; Test will be this Friday
1800, Laundry


Brent’s final driver’s test will be in 6 days.   We did a preview of the place just to get comfortable with the venue.  He has been driving lately and I think he is now ready for a taste of real life driving.  It took us 6 months to get at this point safely.  One thing he is not comfortable doing is the parallel parking and so he practiced here a few times.

Location:
Texas DPS Pflugerville
216 East Wells Branch Parkway
Pflugerville, TX 78660
512-486-2800

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Day884; Dream-No Wheelchair

PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Workout-Rest

READING LIST:
The Purpose Driven Life, p34

TIMELINE:
0800, End of Sleep
0900, Celebration Church
1000, Celebration Church
1200, Lunch
1400, Nap
1600, Continue on Sharepoint 2010 Fresh setup on Dell Poweredge 2850
1900, Vacuum house
2100, Read/Journal Chapter 6; Post Suora’s notes.

DREAM:
I was with my mother in Merida doing our morning walk at pantalan.  She was doing a simple exercise/stretching and was telling me how grateful she is that she is able  to walk again freely without pain.

My mother is currently in great pain as a remnant from her November 6, 2012 car accident.  She is in Cebu, Philippines and I’m here in Texas.  I know that deep in my heart I wanted to be with her to take care of her needs and giving her encouragement but I cannot at this time. I have an obligation as a father/husband and I cannot just take off from work any time for half-way around the world trip.  We talked on the phone almost daily and had been giving encouragement to her.  She’s 80 years old and was still very active until the accident.  Imagining is very different than actually seeing her go through the pain.  I’m feeling low [but not discouraged]but I know that God takes care of my family.  Today at Church during worship, I closed my eyes and lift my hands to God hoping to hear something.  I heard nothing… but then later on in the service, the Holy Spirit impressed my heart these words “I’ve given you a sign, she will be ok, Trust Me”.  I hope she will be. 

For we walk by faith [we regulate our lives and conduct ourselves by our conviction or belief respecting man’s relationship to God and divine things, with trust and holy fervor; thus we walk] not by sight or appearance. 2 Corinthians 5:17

Texas Driver Learner’s Permit–Final Driver’s Test Requirements

It’s been 6 Months now since me and Brent [my 16 years old son] started his driver’s training.  So far, me and my wife feel that he is ready for the real world.  I have to re-read the Parent Taught Packet to know what to do next.  Also, I did not know that there is a DPS office just 10 minutes away from my house.  We normally go to Georgetown for DPS matters.  I did not know.  This will make the task simpler.

Repost: Obtaining Texas Driver’s Learner’s Permit

My Notes:

1. Fill out Application Form-http://www.txdps.state.tx.us/internetforms/Forms/DL-14A.pdf
2. Schedule Testing-http://www.txdps.state.tx.us/administration/driver_licensing_control/rolodex/search.asp [select Georgetown]
3. Or select Pflugerville

 

Georgetown
Street Address
515 S. Pine Street
Georgetown, TX 78626-5100
General Information
512-863-5816

Pflugerville
216 East Wells Branch Parkway
Pflugerville, TX 78660
512-486-2800

This driving test is for Class C licenses (passenger cars) only, not commercial driver license (CDL) tests.
WHO CAN SCHEDULE A DRIVING TEST ONLINE? Two groups of people can use this online service to schedule a driving test:
• Teenagers who have a Texas learner license
• Adults who have applied for a driver license and have passed the knowledge (written) test
NOTE : Minor restricted driver license (hardship license) applicants cannot schedule driving tests online. Those tests must be scheduled in an office. If you are not part of the two above groups, you cannot schedule online at this time. Please visit a driver license office to schedule a driving test appointment.

PREPARING FOR YOUR DRIVING TEST Please carefully review the steps to apply for a driver license (http://www.txdps.state.tx.us/DriverLicense/ApplyforLicense.htm ) to prepare for your visit to the driver license office.
BRING THE FOLLOWING ITEMS TO YOUR APPOINTMENT:
1. VOE
1a. Your Texas learner license or Texas driver license with B restriction.
2. The driving test fee (http://www.txdps.state.tx.us/DriverLicense/dlfees.htm ) or the payment receipt if you already paid.
3. If you’re younger than 25, bring proof of driver education. Depending on the type of class you took, you will bring either:
• Texas Driver Education Certificate (DE-964) from a certified driving school
• Parent Taught Driver Education Affidavit (DL-90B) and driving logs (classroom log and behind-the-wheel log) OR
• Adult Driver Education Certificate (ADE-1317) 4. If you’re under 18, a Verification of Enrollment (VOE) form, high school diploma or GED. 5. A vehicle for the test. VEHICLE REQUIREMENTS You must provide a vehicle for the driving test and meet the following requirements:
• Show proof of current liability insurance for the vehicle
• Have a current registration sticker
• Have a current inspection sticker
• Have two license plates (front plate must be attached to the bumper)
• Meet the vehicle safety requirements (http://www.txdps.state.tx.us/DriverLicense/documents/drivingtestrequirements.pdf)
NOTE: having a current inspection sticker and two license plates is not required if you are borrowing a test vehicle that is from a state that doesn’t have these requirements. If the vehicle belongs to you, you must comply with all requirements before you can test with it. If you use a rental vehicle for the test, the person taking the driving test must be listed on the rental agreement as an authorized driver. You must show proof that the rental vehicle is covered by liability insurance either by accepting the liability damage waiver when you rent the vehicle or by showing proof that your personal auto liability insurance covers rental vehicles. Please arrive one hour early for your appointment for processing and/or payment. If you do not arrive one hour early, your appointment may be rescheduled. Appointments must be scheduled using the customer’s Texas driver license number or learner license number. Otherwise, the appointment will be canceled. Customers may only schedule one appointment. Individuals must schedule their own appointments; driving schools may not schedule them. Duplicate appointments will be canceled without notice.

Links
http://www.txdps.state.tx.us/DriverLicense/ApplyforLicense.htm

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Day878; Stable Angina

PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Workout-Rest

READING LIST:
The Purpose Driven Life, p17.

TIMELINE:
0500, End of Sleep
0600, Leave for work

Today at work, at around 1630hrs, I felt a sharp pain in my left chest.  I was not doing anything strenuous. I was just sitting down all day doing paperwork and reports.  It’s been 878 days since Stent#2 and I hope that Stent #3 is not coming soon.  I will not react at this time but angina is coming on and off as of 2000hrs.  I am aware that I am taking some risks by not going to the ER right now.  I will try to sleep on this chest pain all night but if the pain comes back with a higher pain threshold, then I will definitely go to the ER and be diagnosed properly.

What is Angina?
Angina Animation

Symptoms of Angina
1. Discomfort or pain in the chest or surrounding areas (arm, shoulder, back, neck or jaw), YES
2. Shortness of breath, NO
3. Feeling tired or fatigued, NO
4. Feeling light headed, NO
5. Nausea, NO
6. Sweating, NO
7. Weakness, NO

Treatment
There are a number of ways to treat chronic angina. Your cardiologist may suggest a combination of the following options depending on your condition and medical history:
Lifestyle changes, Somewhat.
Antianginal medications, YES
Angioplasty/Percutaneous coronary intervention (PCI, also known as stenting), YES
Bypass surgery, NO
Cardiac rehabilitation, YES. I can bike for 40 miles non-stop and I can swim 1 mile comfortably in a race pace.

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Book Summary: The Journey-By Billy Graham

Book-The Journey – How To Live By Faith In An Uncertain Word
Author-Billy Graham
ISBN-10: 0849918871
Pages: 320
Chapters: 30

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Read Online
Chapter 1- Welcome to the Journey-The Journey Begins; Day842
Chapter 2–The Great Designer; Day843
Chapter 3–The Great Design; Day844; Dream-Suore
Chapter 4-What Went Wrong; Day845
Chapter 5-Can We Start Over; Day846
Chapter 6-A New Beginning; Day847
Chapter 7-Can We Be Sure; Day848
Chapter 8-Heading in the Right Direction; Day849
Chapter 9-Preparing for the Long Haul; Day850
Chapter 10-The Unending Battle; Day851
Chapter 11-Our Unfailing Guide; Day852
Chapter 12-Keeping in Contact; Day853
Chapter 13-Travelling Together; Day854
Chapter 14-Our Constant Helper; Day855
Chapter 15-Strength For Each Day; Day856
Chapter 16-Prone To Wander; Day857; Ormoc Flood 21 Years Ago; Mom Tootsie Accident
Chapter 17-Confronting The Enemies; Day858
Chapter 18-Emotions That Defeat Us; Day859
Chapter 19-Things That Destroy; Day860; cc Turns 631,152,000 seconds
Chapter 20-When Life Turns Against Us; Day861
Chapter 21-When Others Disappoint; Day862
Chapter 22-Dealing With Suffering and Loss; Day863; Marlon-Helenjoy
Chapter 23-One Day At A Time; Day864
Chapter 24-Forks in the Road; Day867
Chapter 25-For Better or For Worse; Day868; Mom MRI
Chapter 26-Keeping The Flame Alive; Day869
Chapter 27-Passing The Baton; Day870
Chapter 28-Making An Impact; Day871
Chapter 29-As Life Moves On; Day873
Chapter 30-Our Glorious Hope; Day874

Chapter 26-Keeping The Flame Alive; Day869

And if it seems evil to you to serve the Lord, choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you dwell; but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.  Joshua 24:15

Gardens don’t grow by themselves, they need to be tended and cultivated and weeded. the same is true of a marriage.

Is happy and lasting marriage possible?
Yes, when the couple learn to adjust to each other.
Every divorce represents a broken dream
Every divorce represents a shattered hope
Every divorce represents a ruined expectation
Every divorce represents a violation of God’s original blueprint for marriage.
Every divorce is a failure of the commitment made at the wedding when both said “I DO”
Every divorce is an evidence that word “as long we both shall live” was just a mere one line sentence of no importance during the wedding day.
Divorce just did not happen overnight. It started long before the signing of the papers or the physical separation.
Divorce started when the spouse began to contradict in ideas and intentions
Divorce happened because spouses ignored the warning signs and did not do anything to repair/adjust
Divorce is not the end of the journey
Divorce also can be a great beginning

3 Steps-Keeping the Flame Alive
1. Commit your marriage to God
Marriage is between Husband, Wife and God [God being in the middle]
Two vows we made at the wedding, one to the spouse and one to God – A promise of commitment
Marriage vows are vows of absolute faithfulness to each other and God
But whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks heart and understanding (moral principle and prudence); he who does it is destroying his own life.  Proverbs 6:32
Grow together in your relationship with Christ

2. Commit yourself to your marriage
Don’t take your spouse for granted
Don’t drift apart, stay close at all times
Give priority to marriage
Put the welfare of marriage first above friends or relatives or other activities
Make marriage as the central part of your life, everything takes off from marriage and not marriage on the sideline
Address marriage as a responsibility and not a privilege
Always do something to strengthen it, not weaken it

3. Treat each other with affection and respect
Mutual affection and respect are essentials for a strong marriage
Encourage daily
Learn to forgive daily
Be sensitive to each others needs
Carry each other when hard time comes
Listen and listen well when your spouse is in a special situation or hardship

However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]. Ephesians 5:33

Bear (endure, carry) one another’s burdens and troublesome moral faults, and in this way fulfill and observe perfectly the law of Christ (the Messiah) and complete what is lacking [in your obedience to it]. Galatians 6:2

The 2 Most Important phrases in a marriage are
a. I LOVE YOU
b. PLEASE FORGIVE ME

A Word To The Unmarried
God calls some people to singleness and they may be better equipped to serve Him
Do not allow yourself to be drawn to a relationship that do not honor God.
Avoid sexual impurity of any type [heterosexual or homosexual]
Avoid falling in love with the wrong person for the wrong reasons
Don’t just look at the physical appearance
Look for inner qualities that will stand out during a long journey of comfort and sacrifice
Make it your goal to honor God in everything-including your marriage

Do not be in a hurry in the laying on of hands [giving the sanction of the church too hastily in reinstating expelled offenders or in ordination in questionable cases], nor share or participate in another man’s sins; keep yourself pure. 1 Timothy 5:22

Charm and grace are deceptive, and beauty is vain [because it is not lasting], but a woman who reverently and worship fully fears the Lord, she shall be praised! Proverbs 31:30

Let not yours be the [merely] external adorning with [elaborate] interweaving and knotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or changes of clothes; 4But let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the sight of God. 1 Peter 3: 3-4


PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Workout-40Mile Cycling

READING LIST:
Book-Permanent Innovation p.143
Book-The Journey, By Billy Graham p.266

TIMELINE:
0800, End of Sleep
1300, 40Mile Cycling
1400, 40Mile Cycling
1500, 40Mile Cycling
1700, Car Maintenance
1800, Car Maintenance
1900, Read/Journal

Chapter 25-For Better or For Worse; Day868; Mom MRI

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

Nothing brings more joy than marriage and nothing brings more misery than a bad marriage.
Marriage is God’ gift
What is marriage?
God gave marriage to us.
We are meant for each other.
Spouse should be our best friend also
Greatest joy is to be with each other till the end

Purpose of Marriage
1. God gave marriage to us for our companionship
2. God also established marriage for our mutual help and encouragement
3. God gave us marriage for our mutual happiness and pleasure
4. God gave us marriage to provide for the well-being of our families
5. God gave marriage to us to reflect Christ

Conflict-the true source of marital difficulties
Conflicts are caused by problems that couples create
Conflicts comes from spiritual disharmony
Conflicts are caused by selfishness
Opposite of love is not hate but SELFISHNESS
True love is an act of the will, a conscious decision to do what is best for the other person instead of ourselves
The true meaning when we say “I DO” is Lifetime Commitment
Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. Philippians 2:4


Mom is back in the hospital for back pain. MRI showed compression fracture.  Pain threshold is 7.  The accident happened last November 05, 2012.


PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Workout-Rest

READING LIST:
Book-Permanent Innovation p.143
Book-The Journey, By Billy Graham p.256

TIMELINE:
0500, End of Sleep

Chapter 24-Forks in the Road; Day867

[the Lord] will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with My eye upon you. Psalm 32:8

We can’t change the past, but we can change the future.
It’s hard to undo some of the decisions we’ve made.
A man reaps what he sows.
Search for God’s will
Does God really care about the decisions we make? Yes.
Does God have a plan for our lives? Yes.
Avoid wrong choices
Develop daily the ability to make wise choices.
The greatest barrier to knowing God’s will is simply that we want to run our own lives.

Battles Within
1. Battle in our heart [our desires]
2. Battle between our wills  and God’s will

GOD’S WILL – 2 DIMENSIONS

1. God’s universal or general will
-His will for every person
-moral will-deals with our morality and ethical behavior
-does not change from person to person
-applies to you  and me and everyone
-it is God’s will for us to become His children
-it is God’s will for us not to lie or cheat or kill
-it is God’s will for us not to steal
-it is God’s will for us not commit sexual immorality
-these are written in the 10 Commandments Exodus 20

10 Commandments:
1. You shall have no other gods before or besides Me.
2. You shall not make yourself any graven image [to worship it] or any likeness of anything that is in the heavens above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth; You shall not bow down yourself to them or serve them; for I the Lord your God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children to the third and fourth generation of those who hate Me, But showing mercy and steadfast love to a thousand generations of those who love Me and keep My commandments.
3. You shall not use or repeat the name of the Lord your God in vain [that is, lightly or frivolously, in false affirmations or profanely]; for the Lord will not hold him guiltless who takes His name in vain.
4. [Earnestly] remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy (withdrawn from common employment and dedicated to God).
Six days you shall labor and do all your work, But the seventh day is a Sabbath to the Lord your God; in it you shall not do any work, you, or your son, your daughter, your manservant, your maidservant, your domestic animals, or the sojourner within your gates. For in six days the Lord made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, and rested the seventh day. That is why the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and hallowed it [set it apart for His purposes].
5. Regard (treat with honor, due obedience, and courtesy) your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land the Lord your God gives you.
6. You shall not commit murder.
7. You shall not commit adultery.
8. You shall not steal.
9. You shall not witness falsely against your neighbor.
10. You shall not covet your neighbor’s house, your neighbor’s wife, or his manservant, or his maidservant, or his ox, or his donkey, or anything that is your neighbor’s.

Where do we discover God’s General will?
1. The Bible-instruction book/guide
Purpose of the Bible:
a. for teaching
b. rebuking
c. correcting
d. training in righteousness

How can a young man  keep his way pure? By living according to His Word.
God’s will never lead us to do something that is contrary to His written Word-The Bible

2 Spiritual Principles: Luke 10:27 
A simplified 10 Commandments, do these and you don’t have to worry memorizing/knowing the Ten Commandments.
1. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind.
2. Love your neighbor as you love yourself

If you are ignorant of God’s Word, you will always be ignorant  of God’s will.
Know the Bible to know what God wants.
Make the Bible part of your daily life
Read Daily and understand and hear and apply

2. His personal will or individual will
– personal will differs from person to person
– For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11

Finding God’s Will
1. Commit your decision to God
2. Search the scriptures
3. Understand your circumstances
4. Seek Godly advice
5. Trust the Holy Spirit Guidance
6. Trust God for the outcome

And your ears will hear a word behind you, saying, This is the way; walk in it, when you turn to the right hand and when you turn to the left. Isaiah 30:21
Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding.6In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6


PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Celebration Church
Workout-1Mile Swim

READING LIST:
Book-Permanent Innovation p.143
Book-The Journey, By Billy Graham p.246

TIMELINE:
0700, End of Sleep
1600, End of work
1800, 1Mile Swim

Chapter 23-One Day At A Time; Day864

THEREFORE THEN, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses [who have borne testimony to the Truth], let us strip off and throw aside every encumbrance (unnecessary weight) and that sin which so readily (deftly and cleverly) clings to and entangles us, and let us run with patient endurance and steady and active persistence the appointed course of the race that is set before us. Hebrews 12:1

Without fuel a fire grows cold and so does our faith.

Journey disruptions
1. Destructive emotions
2. Wrong motives
3. Bad habits
4. Disappointments
5. Failure
6. Difficult relationships
7. Suffering and grief

Demas and Timothy example
Demas left Paul but Timothy stayed with him in times of trouble

Reasons  for faith gone cold
1. Pressure of time-we forget God; hectic schedule
2. Pressure of the crowd-I’m an oddball syndrome
3. Unconfessed sin
4. Our spiritual discipline grows lax

What is fuel of our faith?
1. Bible
2. Prayer
3. Fellowship
4. Worship

Faith Basic Principle
1. See each day as a gift from God
2. Commit your time with God
3. Set aside time for God and for others
4. Take time for God and for others.
5. Take time for your own needs

Christ wants to extend His authority to every part of our lives
1. Instead of seeing your job as a burden, see it as a responsibility given by God.
2. Be faithful in your work
3. Do your work in with integrity

 


PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Celebration Church
Workout-Rest

READING LIST:
Book-Permanent Innovation p.143
Book-The Journey, By Billy Graham p.224

TIMELINE:
0700, End of Sleep

Chapter 22-Dealing With Suffering and Loss; Day863; Marlon/Helenjoy

But though He causes grief, yet will He be moved to compassion according to the multitude of His loving-kindness and tender mercy.  Lamentations 3:32

Nothing  demonstrate our human frailty more forcefully than pain.
Wrong responses of pain:
1. Complaints
2. Anger
3. Bitterness

Purpose of Pain:
1. Alerting us to danger
2. Serves as warning that something is wrong

How should we react with Pain?
1. Be on guard against pain’s dangers.
-when in pain, we tend to focus on self
-emotional and spiritual danger manifests
-we become self absorbed and ignore the feelings of those around us
-we sometimes reject help from others “I can do it” or “I can handle” syndrome [by myself]
-watch out for self pity and bitterness
-watch out of the feeling of despair [loss of hope]
-watch out for statement “God is punishing me”, this is not true.
-pray for others when in pain, there are people like you who is in the same situation

2. Ask God to help you learn pain’s lessons
-get the message about your misfortune or pain [look for what and not why]
-sometimes pain teaches us to solely depend on God
-suffering draws us closer to God
-learn to trust God each day
-take the pain as a gift, not as punishment
-let your lips be filled with prayer and praise
-pray for His will to be done in your life
-rejoice since we have heaven waiting for us
-His Grace is enough

Loss and Grief
-grief is the deepest and intense pain a human being can experience
-a profound and enduring sense of sorrow and loss

Difficulties in Life includes:
Loss of health
Loss of friendship
Loss of financial security
Loss of inner peace
Loss of hope
Loss of a love one, the hardest of all the losses

Death is our final enemy

Responding to Grief
1. Don’t be surprised by grief-go to acceptance immediately
-our first response is numbness and shock
-we feel guilty and irrationally blaming us for not doing more to prevent [self blame syndrome]
-we feel angry towards the doctors and nurses [other blame syndrome]

2. Turn your grief over to God
-Cast your burden on the Lord and He shall sustain you Psalm 55:22
-don’t carry your grief alone
-He knows what you are going through and He is truly the father of compassion and the God of all comfort who comforts us in all our troubles 2 Corinthians 1:3-4

3. Surround your grief with gratitude
-thank God  for the years you have been together [the good and bad times]
-thank God that our loved one is now out of suffering
-thank God that they are now in Heaven
-thank God that someday you will be reunited with them
-thanks God for everything [it means not just the good things but also misfortune]

4. Reach out to someone who is also hurting
– when we reach out to others during suffering, the act of doing it releases pain also
-we are called to carry each other’s  burden

5. Know that our hardship and suffering are part of the process of life
-hard times are the chisel God uses to shape us
-grief is the molding process – to make us better and stronger
-grief produces perseverance
-Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything James 1:2-4


PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Celebration Church
Workout-Rest

READING LIST:
Book-Permanent Innovation p.143
Book-The Journey, By Billy Graham p.224

TIMELINE:
0700, End of Sleep
0830, Celebration Church with Helenjoy and Marlon Aquino

Again the kingdom of heaven is like a man who is a dealer in search of fine and precious pearls,
Who, on finding a single pearl of great price, went and sold all he had and bought it.
Matthew 13:45

Love one another with brotherly affection [as members of one family], giving precedence and showing honor to one another.
Never lag in zeal and in earnest endeavor; be aglow and burning with the Spirit, serving the Lord.
Rejoice and exult in hope; be steadfast and patient in suffering and tribulation; be constant in prayer.
Contribute to the needs of God’s people [sharing in the necessities of the saints]; pursue the practice of hospitality.
Romans 12:10

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Series: Honor – Honor the Church [the Body of Christ, us]
1. Honor says “Take NOTICE of the Church”
2. Honor says “Take HOLD of the Church”
3. Honor says “Take ACTION of the Church”
4. Honor says “Take  OFF from the Church”

1030, Breakfast with Helenjoy and Marlon, we exchanged life stories.

God’s Perfect Timing:
Nov 5, 1991 Ormoc flood
Parallel events happened with 3 different people.
December 1991, MA left for the US [same time I left for NY]
CP awakening-Nov 5, 1991

Chapter 21-When Others Disappoint; Day862

Clothe yourselves therefore, as God’s own chosen ones (His own picked representatives), [who are] purified and holy and well-beloved [by God Himself, by putting on behavior marked by] tenderhearted pity and mercy, kind feeling, a lowly opinion of yourselves, gentle ways, [and] patience [which is tireless and long-suffering, and has the power to endure whatever comes, with good temper]. Colossians 3:12

Have these:
Compassion
Kindness
Humility
Gentleness
Patience

Life would be great if it were not for other people. This is not a true statement, we need others and without them life will not be great
God did not makes us that way.
It is not good for man to be alone. Genesis 2:18
Man’s companion
1. Others
2. God Himself

Why life is difficult?  Because of people.
People can be difficult
People can be stubborn
People can be ego-driven
People can be thoughtless
People can be mean
People can be selfish
People can be manipulative

Why can’t we just get along?
1. People are from different culture or social background and they think everyone should be the same way they are.
2. People has contrasting personalities and have a hard time adjusting with them
3. People wants our own way

Our deepest problem is from within
Our problem is our hearts and minds
Satan’s objective-to divide the Christians and destroy our witness
Our defense is the Holy Spirit and God’s Love
How to solve the problem?-Learn to love each other.
Live in Love
Be like God, a loving God
Love one another as I loved you John 13:34

What is Love? Types of Love
1. Eros-Physical or sexual attraction
2. Storge-Family affection; love between parents and their children
3. Phileo-Friendship or brotherly love
4. Agape-selfless love;
-love that extends even to those who are not loveable or even worthy of love
-the kind of love that God has for us
-the kind of love we should have for others
-it is more than a warm feeling or an impulsive act of kindness
-it is more than an emotion but a conscious act of the will
-it is a deliberate decision on our part to put others ahead of ourselves
-the opposite of agape love is selfishness
-Each of you should look not only to your own interests but also to the interests of others Philippian 2:4
-God’s love/His love/agape love is the hallmark of our life as a Christian

7 Principles-How to live A Good/Great Life
1. Make it your goal to live at peace with others
2. Treat others the way you would want them to treat you
3. Pray not only for your friends but for your enemies
4. Guard your tongue, and use it for good instead of evil
5. Never repay evil with evil
6. Don’t only avoid revenge, but don’t be a captive to the past
7. Practice the transforming power of forgiveness


PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Workout-40Mile Bike

READING LIST:
Book-Permanent Innovation p.143
Book-The Journey, By Billy Graham p.214

TIMELINE:
0700, End of Sleep 
0830, 40Mile Cycling 
1300, Clean house
1500, Praise and worship

Day860; cc Turns 631,152,000 seconds

cc’ turns 631,152,000 seconds today.
20 years
1043 weeks
7305 days
175,320 hours
10,519,200 minutes
631,152,000 seconds

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PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Workout-1Mile Swim

READING LIST:
Book-Permanent Innovation p.143
Book-The Journey, By Billy Graham p.194

TIMELINE:
0500, End of Sleep
0645, Work
1745, End of Work

There is nothing like

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Father true and merciful
bound to me with love
adopted in, free from all sin
Jesus savior glorified
your offering none could give
I stand before You humbled and in awe
and all to You God
for all you are to me
there is nothing like
there is nothing like
your love, your love
Holy Spirit gift of God
teach my soul to soar
train me in your holy ways oh Lord
and all to you God
for all You are to me
there is nothing like
there is nothing like
your love, your love
I love you forever
I love you forever
I love you forever lord

Ormoc Flood 21 Years Ago; Mom Tootsie Accident

November 05, 1991
21 years
7672 days
662,860,800 seconds
11,047,680 minutes
184,128 hours
1096 weeks

Heard the news that mom and totsie had  car accident in Merida


PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Workout-Rest

READING LIST:
Book-Permanent Innovation p.143
Book-The Journey, By Billy Graham p.164

TIMELINE:
0500, End of Sleep
0645, Work
1545, End of Work

Day844; Dream-Suore

DREAM: Time with Suore
I was in an unknown city trying to find my way home.  I asked one a person in the street where I can find the train station and told me that “it is right there – pointing his hand in the direction but you really have to walk around a long way to get to the train station”.  My search of the train station started. I was walking in the crowded and busy street looking for the train station for quite a while and all of a sudden the street ended at the train station counter.  There was only one visible train in the station as viewed from the flight of stairs as I entered the place.  At the entrance of counter, I have to pick “Line A” ?or “Line B”?.  I was confused as to why I have to choose a certain Line to get home when in fact there is only one train available and goes to only one destination.  I reasoned that I should be able to ride the train and gets home no matter what Line I choose since the train only goes in one place.  I later learned that Line A, when you disembark will get you to a different place because there are two places being separated by the railroad tracks and you can’t just walk across the railroad track to go to the other side.  The train is the only way to get to the other side.  Since I was confused of what Line to take, I decided to not take the train ride and started walking around looking for an alternative.  As I was walking down the stairs of the shopping center, I met an old friend – codename-Suore in her habit.  We said hello and exchanged a lot of stories about life and end up spending the whole night together talking about our different experiences.


PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Workout-25yd subsurface swim +1Mile Swim

READING LIST:
Book-Permanent Innovation p.143
Book-The Journey, By Billy Graham p.32

TIMELINE:
0500, End of Sleep,
0645, Work
1645, End of work
1800, 25yd subsurface swim +1Mile Swim

Chapter 1: Welcome to the Journey-The Journey Begins; Day842

Book-The Journey – How To Live By Faith In An Uncertain Word
Author-Billy Graham
ISBN-10: 0849918871
Pages: 320
Chapters: 30

CHAPTER 1 – WELCOME TO THE JOURNEY
I came today to the well and said, O Lord, God of my master Abraham, if You are now causing me to go on my way prosperously Genesis 24:42

You can’t change the past, but you can change the future.
The future does not need to be a copy of the past, nor does God want it to be
Architects draws the plan for a new building, but it still has to be built
God gave us the blueprint for living , but we must know what it is and then put into action
Life is a journey, it has a starting point
Life is a journey, it has an end
Like any other journey, there is also a middle part [we are in the middle of the  journey]

WHAT KIND OF JOURNEY?
1. Disappointment
2. Sorrows
3. Heartache
3. Sickness
4. Fear
5. Guilt
6. Loneliness
7. Despair

CAN LIFE BE ANY DIFFERENT?
With God’s help, you can begin again

3 GREAT TRUTHS ABOUT THE JOURNEY
1. God put you on the journey of life
2. God wants us to join us in this journey
3. God calls us to a new journey

CHANGE TO GOD’s Path-A JOURNEY WITH GOD
REASONS:
1. The old path will not deliver what it promises
2. God’s path will always deliver what He promises
3. It leads us home-eternal home


PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Workout-25yd sub-surface swim +1Mile swim

READING LIST:
Book-Permanent Innovation p.143
Book-The Journey, By Billy Graham p.12

TIMELINE:
0700, End of Sleep,
0900, Celebration Church
1000, Celebration Church
1200, 25yd sub-surface swim +1Mile swim
1400, Nap

THE DAY BEFORE:
Yesterday [Saturday], I was doing my own shopping around of tech stuff but was not happy with the outcome. My 16 years old son called me that he was with Britta [my wife] shopping for school supplies. I told him that I will meet them as I am getting closer to their location. After 10 minutes, we met at the parking lot and then went inside a “woman” store. Me and Brent looked at each other and then I signaled him that we need to vacate to a better “manly” venue or else we get bored waiting and also irritate the other shopper. I told him about the a new Half-Price Book Store just recently opened nearby and suddenly in unison told Britta “take your time Mom, we are going to the bookstore”. After a few walking around wondering at the ‘business section’ of the bookstore, I came across the ‘Christian section’. I browsed the used books with my head in horizontal position since the books were arranged in an upright position. It took a while and I keep telling myself “show me a good book to read”. After 5 minutes of looking, there it was – I found a treasure – The Journey by Billy Graham. In the Half-Price bookstore, you can read the entire book in the reading lounge but that was not my intention that evening. I sat down and browsed the chapters and started reading chapter1. Twenty minutes later, I bought “The Journey” and then Brent bought
Fiesta-The Sun also Rises by Ernest Hemingway.

The reason why I mentioned the mechanics of how I got this book is to show an example of how I can change something in the future as mentioned in Chapter1. I was wondering of what else can I do with this material. Then I remember – maybe I can share this information through my journal and others will have an interest on the same journey also. I will not divulge too much information here but will write down the highlights.

To Brittney and Brent – “ Please read when you discover this book in my bookshelf. ”.

To those reading this journal, I want you to read the book yourself, it is very enlightening [I think]. I will be using this book as the source of my daily journal entry for 30 days. I hope that you too will join me in the study.

 

5 Things-Personal Leadership; Day841; "la ricerca è finita"

Exercise foresight and be on the watch to look [after one another], to see that no one falls back from and fails to secure God’s grace (His unmerited favor and spiritual blessing), in order that no root of resentment (rancor, bitterness, or hatred) shoots forth and causes trouble and bitter torment, and the many become contaminated and defiled by it–  Hebrews 12:15

If we [freely] admit that we have sinned and confess our sins, He is faithful and just (true to His own nature and promises) and will forgive our sins [dismiss our lawlessness] and [continuously] cleanse us from all unrighteousness [everything not in conformity to His will in purpose, thought, and action]. 1 John 1:9

If anyone says, I love God, and hates (detests, abominates) his brother [in Christ], he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, Whom he has not seen. 1 John 4:20

1. Practice foresight [Providence by virtue of planning prudently for the future]
2. Be careful and sensible when making decision
3. Always make sound judgment
4. Admit mistakes
5. Love every human being you come in contact

 


"la ricerca è finita"

In Your Freedom
I search for You God of strength
I bow to You in my brokenness
No other King could have so humbly come
To save my soul and heal my heart

[pc]
I have nothing more
Than all You offer me
I have nothing else
That’s of worth to me

[c]
I love You Lord
You rescued me
You are all that I want
You’re all I need
I pray to You God of peace
I rest in You my cares released

[b]
In Your freedom I will live
In Your freedom I will live
I offer devotion
I offer devotion

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PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Workout-40Mile Cycling

READING LIST:
Book-Permanent Innovation p.143
Book-The Journey, By Billy Graham p.5

TIMELINE:
0500, End of Sleep,
0900, 40Mile Cycling
1000, 40Mile Cycling
1100, 40Mile Cycling
1400, Nap
1600, Play ping-pong with Brent
1700, Pro Audio Shopping, Mackie ProFX12 and SRM450v2
2000, Dinner with Britta and Brent

Like Incense

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May my prayer like incense rise before You
The lifting of my hands as sacrifice
Oh Lord Jesus turn Your eyes upon me
For I know there is mercy in Your sight
Your statutes are my heritage forever
My heart is set on keeping Your decrees
Please still my anxious urge toward rebellion
Let Love keep my will upon its knees
Oh God, You are my God
And I will ever praise You
Oh God, You are my God
And I will ever praise You
To all creation I can see a limit
But Your commands are boundless and have none
So Your Word is my joy and meditation
From the rising to the setting of the sun
All Your ways are loving and are faithful
The road is narrow but Your burden light
Because You gladly lean to lead the humble
I shall gladly kneel to leave my pride
To all creation I can see a limit
But Your commands are boundless and have none
So Your Word is my joy and meditation
From the rising to the setting of the sun
I will seek You in the morning
I will learn to walk in Your ways
And step by step You’ll lead me
And I will follow You all of my days

Journey to Gladness; Day816; Day001

They who sow in tears shall reap in joy and singing. Psalm126:5
A glad heart makes a cheerful countenance, but by sorrow of heart the spirit is broken. Proverbs 15:13
Your words were found, and I ate them; and Your words were to me a joy and the rejoicing of my heart, for I am called by Your name, O Lord God of hosts. Jeremiah 15:16
Nevertheless, do not rejoice at this, that the spirits are subject to you, but rejoice that your names are enrolled in heaven. Luke 10:20

KEYPOINTS:
1. Gladness progression is from tears to joy; heartbroken to being whole
2. Gladness starts from the inside. When the Holy Spirit touches/speaks to you in a special way
3. Gladness is found in His Words-the heart rejoices when we consume His Words
4. Gladness motivation-our membership in Heaven is counted. [no other reasons]
5. Gladness source-Christ Himself and no other

“God made us: invented us as a man invents an engine. A car is made to run on gasoline, and it would not run properly on anything else. Now God designed the human machine to run on Himself. He Himself is the fuel our spirits were designed to burn, or the food our spirits were designed to feed on. There is no other. That is why it is just no good asking God to make us happy in our own way without bothering about religion. God cannot give us a happiness and peace apart from Himself, because it is not there. There is no such thing.”  Mere Christianity p.30  C..S. Lewis 

Regarding keypoint #2, I had been shown in my heart by the Holy Spirit and He is trying to communicate with me through strange circumstances lately.  The other day during my 1-mile swim, I normally just execute my swimming training thinking and praying to God and sometimes brainstorming about work problems.  I had 30 minutes to do it since I have to pickup my son from his tennis practice.  I had my stopwatch running and I normally ends at :35 minutes, this time I stopped at :30.  When I went to my backpack and get my phone to check if Brent had called, the phone rings and my wife told me that Brent is ready to be picked up.  I did not pay attention to it but then in a few minutes the Holy Spirit explained to me that there is an “appointed time” that He set and if I pay attention closely, I can recognize it.  My day went on and forgot the whole experience.  On Monday the next day, I did my normal 40mile cycling route but added an extra 2 miles just to climb an extra hill for training purposes.  When I got home, I reached out for my phone from my back pocket and as I began to turn off the MapMyRide app, the phone rings again at the precise moment-the end of my workout-it was my daughter who was just asking a few questions regarding a water filter at her apartment in San Antonio.  This time, I did not even argue/self doubt and I know what he meant by “appointed time” – He is showing me something.

I’m switching to my own daily devotional using the youversion application. For some reason, I wake up this morning with this idea – “find your own revelation”.  As I follow my intuition, I was surprised of how everything is already laid out for me at youversion.  Check it out when you get a chance.  Consider this message as your “appointed time” revelation.

Step By Step:
1. At your desktop, Go to http://www.youversion.com/
2. Sign up
3. Go to the Reading Plans [pick your own plans]
4. At your iPhone or Android Smartphone, download the youversion app
5. Sign in
6. Enjoy your synchronized Bible Reading Plan.
7. Turn on Email Alerts

http://www.youversion.com/reading-plans?category=topical
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PLAN:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
2.4-Mile Swim
2-Minute Ping-pong Drill
2-Minute Stay Ball Exercise
2-Minute Sword Practice
2-Minute 15-lbs Dumbbell

READING LIST:
Book-Permanent Innovation p.123
Mere Christianity p.35
Surprised By Joy p.00

TIMELINE:
0500, End of Sleep,
1100, 2.4 Mile Swim
1200, 2.4 Mile Swim
1500, Nap
1600, Reading-Mere Christianity and listening to Hillsong Live
1700, Reading
1800, Grocery shopping
1900, Cook for Brent
2000, Reading
2100, Reading

Hillsong Live Playlist

http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL65F86A835D434C29

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The raw audio output from youtube does not fit my listening taste [too harsh and loud].  I have to add an EQ to my receiver to adjust the audio output.  I am using a Behringer FBQ3102 . After the EQ was added, I was able to fine tune the output at will. 

 


Player: Dell Laptop E4300 with Win7 and/or Samsung WindowsRT Tablet
Receiver: Pioneer VSX-D1S
Equalizer: Behringer FBQ3102
Front Speakers: Bose 101 Music Monitor
Center: Polk CS1
Sub: Polk PSW12
Rear: Polk OWM3
Earphone: Creative EP-630
Location: Home office

Notes on Temptation; Day814; The Cross

For no temptation (no trial regarded as enticing to sin), [no matter how it comes or where it leads] has overtaken you and laid hold on you that is not common to man [that is, no temptation or trial has come to you that is beyond human resistance and that is not adjusted and adapted and belonging to human experience, and such as man can bear]. But God is faithful [to His Word and to His compassionate nature], and He [can be trusted] not to let you be tempted and tried and assayed beyond your ability and strength of resistance and power to endure, but with the temptation He will [always] also provide the way out (the means of escape to a landing place), that you may be capable and strong and powerful to bear up under it patiently. 1 Corinthians 10.13  […read more] [full chapter]

KEY POINTS:
1. Temptation-Something that seduces or has the quality to seduce; The desire to have or do something that you know you should avoid; The act of influencing by exciting hope or desire; Qualities that attract by seeming to promise some kind of reward
2. Synonyms-enticement, lure
3. Temptation has no ground in us [believers] ; we have the ability to resist. Just say no and that is the end of it or walk away
4. We are tempted but God always gave us a way out; when the exit door is shown, make sure you leave
5. There’s a ratio of how much temptation is allowed to us [according to our ability and strength]
6. There is always a way out when you are tempted
7. If you think the temptation is unbearable, be patient.
8. Wait patiently!
9. Temptation will always be there, but it is up to us if we yield to it.
examples:
-small voice telling you that you are worthless and you need to jump off a bridge or quit [you are designed to succeed]
-small voice telling you that you don’t have the ability to be the best-[you are the best!]
-small voice telling you that it’s ok not to go to church [there is a new movement of the Holy Spirit, seek it]
-urge to read information that is not relevant to you [if the information does not improve you, don’t consume it]
-mindless internet surfing [there is more to fb, chat, social networking – read a good book, articles, blogs that encourages you or energizes your passion]
-urge to shop mindlessly/without reason or purpose [always have a purpose when you do something, don’t just do things because you are bored and what to get some air]
– friend inviting you to a party where drinking is the central part [stay at home, that is the safest place for a stable person-you will never regret it]
-watching mindless tv instead of listening to Christian music and reading a book [tv has other good purposes, find it]
-feeling of keeping it to yourself when you have something good to say/write [if it will make the world better, if it encourages someone or if it can influence to a great workplace-share it]
-having a mindset that you have plenty of time to change later [change now!  you don’t really have much time and what if tomorrow does not come]

THE CROSS OF CHRIST
Celebration Church, Pastor Joe Champion 20120923, Sunday
Series: Out of the Box-Week#3
1. The Cross of Christ condemns
2. The Cross crucifies the flesh
3. The Cross cast out the devil
4. The Cross calls for a spiritual walk

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[my penmanship is sometimes hard to read, just use your imagination to connect the dots…]

 


PLAN:
Saturday:
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
1-Mile Swim
2-Minute Ping-pong Drill
2-Minute Stay Ball Exercise
2-Minute Sword Practice
2-Minute 15-lbs Dumbbell

READING LIST:
Book-Permanent Innovation p.123
Mere Christianity p.13
Surprised By Joy p.00

TIMELINE:
0500, End of Sleep,
0900, Celebration Church
1200, 1Mile Swim
1400, Setup W2008R2 on Dell Latitude Notebook [hard disk#2]
1900, Mow yard
2000, More Hillsong Concert at home.
“I cannot stop praising Him”

Jesus at the Center

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Jesus at the Center
Jesus at the center of it all
Jesus at the center of it all
From beginning to the end
It will always be, it’s always been You Jesus
Jesus
 
Jesus at the center of it all
Jesus at the center of it all
From beginning to the end
It will always be, it’s always been You Jesus
Jesus
 
Nothing else matters, nothing in this world will do
Jesus You’re the center, everything revolves around You
Jesus You, at the center of it all
The center of it all
 
Jesus be the center of my life
Jesus be the center of my life
From beginning to the end
It will always be, it’s always been You Jesus
Jesus
 
Nothing else matters, nothing in this world will do
Jesus You’re the center, everything revolves around You
Jesus You
Nothing else matters, nothing in this world will do
Jesus You’re the center, everything revolves around You
Jesus You
 
From my heart to the Heavens
Jesus be the center
It’s all about You
Yes it’s all about You
[x4]
 
So Jesus be the center of Your church
Jesus be the center of Your church
And every knee will bow
And every tongue shall confess You Jesus, Jesus
Say His name, Jesus, Jesus…
 
From my heart to the Heavens
Jesus be the center
It’s all about You
Yes it’s all about You
[repeat until end]

Book-Understanding Mental Disorder Binder

Website: http://www.mind.org.uk/

As part of of my “Full Listening” project, I need to understand how a normal human being turns into something else.  I’m not interested in the cure and the method of diagnosis [this is not my field] but I’m interested about what the psychological community is saying.  These articles here gave me a few answers.

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Simple Information Delivery-Google Reader

The Blind Caveman is getting lazy and found a better way to “pull information” from the web.

I have 3 devices at home that I normally use:
1. My HTC Phone
2. My Dell Notebook/Desktop with Dual Monitor
3. My Samsung Windows RT Tablet
and I am fetching all internet information in one site http://www.google.com/reader/ 

Uses:
1. Skim internet headlines, I don’t need to read all the details
2. Share relevant articles to friends through
3. I can mark the article as “starred” for future reference or when I don’t have time to read it yet.

Requirements:
1. Gmail account
2. Subscription to RSS feed.  I normally just search for keywords after clicking the red button “Subscribe”
3. Google Reader App for android phones.
4. Readiculous App for Windows RT Tablet
5. or Internet Explorer or Chrome

Enjoy and have less time wasting your valuable time surfing the web.

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Book Summary: Power Listening

I have to write this book summary for a course credit so I might as well share this to the world.
Are you a bad listener?  Check to see if you are not a member of this group.

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Date: September 2012 Name: Rigel G. Arcayan
Title/ Author/ ISBN; Power Listening
By Bernard T. Ferrari
ISBN: 978-159184462
208 pages
Introduction: A well prepared book on the subject of listening. The author starts the book with the importance of listening and how it can be used to make good judgment. Listening is a skill and just like any other skills, it must be learned and applied daily to become a part of our automatic response to any situation. There is power to listening and when we catch on to the immense potential of what it can do to a team or a corporation, we become addicted to listening well to our conversation partner. The author first establishes the 6 archetypes of a bad listener and discussed each one with clarity. After knowing/exposing the 6 archetypes of a bad listener, immediately you will latch on to the notion “not to be one”. The book is not just for CEO or managers as implied mostly in the book by mentioning examples of meetings of high level leaders in a big corporation. If you are a human being and you interact with people or a team; or if you are a parent who has children to manage daily; or a husband or a wife – this book is for you to digest.
What is the book about? Chapters:

1. Listening Is Worth the Effort
2. What Kind of Listener Are You?
3. Respect Your Conversation Partner
4. How to Keep Quite-Most of the Time
5. Challenge All Assumptions
6. Keeping Your Focus
7. What is the Mandate?
8. What is the Plan?
9. What is the Team?
10. How Will We Get it Done?
11. Is It getting Personal?
12. Connecting Better Listening to Better Judgment
13. Changing Your Organization through Listening
Conclusion: What to do on Monday Morning
Notes and Highlights:
Listening Actively:

Take nothing that you hear for granted, and try to sustain respect for the ideas of each of your colleagues.

Keep quiet! You have to get out of the way of the conversation in order to hear what’s important.

The Filing System:

1. Get to the mandate. Sometimes simply getting clarity on the specific dream, aspiration, or organizational mission underlying the discussion can make all the difference.

2. Understand the plan. How are we going to get from A to B? We have to understand each individual step if we want to be able to navigate toward a successful outcome.

3. Know who is on the team. Is this discussion about people and how they will work together?

4. Be aware of how well you are executing. Build your understanding around the risks and rewards, measurements, and accountability that will drive effective execution of the plan.

5. Be mindful of the personal. People are not automatons. Character and personality traits can impact what information is being offered.

Active Listening:
1. Listening is purposeful. A disciplined businessperson enters a conversation with a clear understanding of what it needs to accomplish.
2. Listening requires control. Even when you’re on the receiving end of a communication, you need to steer and filter the incoming information in order to accomplish your purpose.
3. Listening requires total focus and engagement. When you listen with intent, you must bring a heightened awareness to the conversation, so that you can formulate the right questions and generate the necessary interjections and interruptions (a subject I’ll talk about in more depth later) to advance the conversation productively.
4. Listening is the front end of decision making. It’s the surest,

What Kind Of Listener Are You?
6 Types of Bad Listeners

#1. The Opinionator
The Opinionator listens to others primarily to determine whether or not their ideas conform to what he or she already believes to be true. Opinionators may appear to be listening closely, but they aren’t listening with an open mind and instead often use their silences as opportunities to “reload.” While Opinionators may have good intentions, the effect of this listening style is to make conversation partners uncomfortable or even to intimidate them. Opinionators routinely squelch their colleagues’ ideas.

#2. The Grouch
The Grouches are poor listeners who are blocked by a feeling of certainty that your idea is wrong. One typical grouch, a top executive I worked with at an industrial company, made no secret of his contempt for other people’s ideas. He approached conversations as a necessary evil and sent the implicit message: “You’re full of it. You’re a fool. Why did you think I’d be interested in this?” Through perseverance, people could get through to him in conversations, painful though that was. However, many of his colleagues simply didn’t have the energy to break down his barriers every time they needed to express an idea to him.

#3. The Preambler
The Preambler’s windy lead-ins and questions are really stealth speeches, often intended to box conversation partners into a corner. Preamblers use questioning to steer the discussion, send warnings, or generate a desired answer. I remember a meeting with one Preambler, the chairman and CEO of a medical complex, who (by my watch) spent 15 minutes posing slanted questions
and making rhetorical assertions that all supported a recommendation he wanted to make to his board. Such behavior epitomizes one-way communication.

#4. The Perservator
Perseverators talk a lot without saying anything. If you pay close attention to one of these poor listeners, you’ll find that their comments and questions don’t advance the conversation. As often as not, Perseverators are editing on the fly and fine-tuning their thoughts through reiteration. Perseverators use the thoughts of their conversation partners to support their own prejudices, biases, or ideas. When talking to one, you may feel that the two of you are having completely different conversations.

#5. The Answer Man
Everyone wants to solve problems, but Answer Man spouts solutions before there is even a consensus about the challenge—a clear signal that input from conversation partners isn’t needed. Answer Man may appear at first to be an Opinionator. But the latter is motivated by strong feelings of being right, while the former is desperately eager to please and impress. You know you are speaking to Answer Man if your conversation partner can’t stop providing solutions and has ready answers for any flaws you point out, as well as quick rejoinders to all the points you raise.

#6. The Pretender
Pretenders feign engagement and even agreement but either aren’t interested in what you’re saying or have already made up their minds. The worst Pretender I ever met was the CEO of a health care company who had all the right moves: he seemed to hang on every word uttered, for example, and frequently won people over with a knowing, empathetic smile. That gave his conversation partners every indication that he was processing their words and agreeing with them. Yet eventually his colleagues would realize that he had not acted on anything they’d said or, worse, didn’t have access to that information when it came time to make decisions or take action.

How To Improve Your Listening Skills
1. Show Respect-respect your conversation partner no matter what
2. Keep Quiet-use 80/20 rule.  80% listening, 20% talking
3. Challenge Assumptions-seek to understand and challenge what they say-the assumptions

5 Questions To Ask Before Interrupting
1. Do I need any clarification?
2. Do I want to hear more about this issue, or one that has come before?
3. Do I need to parse an issue to focus on a certain aspect?
4. Do I want to head down a different line of discussion?
5. Is there a counterargument or new perspective

6. Do I need to end the conversation?

Keep Focus:
1. Compartmentalizing-Managing external stimuli
2. Decoupling-process of separating your emotions from the substance of the conversation
2. Get to the POINT and don’t repeat

Sorting the Chaos
1. Identify what a conversation is all about
2. Capture the information that matters from any conversation or meeting
3. Steer a conversation in order to ensure that you gather all that information
4. Know how to sort and process the information received
5. File away the information so you can remember, recall, and use it when necessary

File Drawers
1. Mandate
2. Plan
3. Team
4. Execution
5. Personal

A. What is the Mandate?
1. Why are we here?

2. Are there any misalignments?
3. Can we work with this mandate?

4. Does the mandate capture the imagination and energy of the leadership team?
5. Can the mandate be communicated more broadly to all the stakeholders?
6. Can the mandate be translated into a plan?

B. What is the Plan?
1. What are you going to do now?
2. What are the specific objectives that begin to move a company toward its mandate?
3. What are the specific initiatives that will help achieve the objectives?
4. What is the timeline?
5. What assets are required, and are they available?
6. What are the risks we will be facing?

C. What is the Team?
1. What capabilities do we need?
2. What are the mind-sets of the team members?
3. What are roles of the team members?
4. Will this assignment be goo for the individual on the team
5. What are the inescapable realities?
6. How is the chemistry?
7. What are the consequences of the performance?

D. How will we get it done?
1. How are we making decision?
2. Are we getting the right information at the right time?
3. How do we manage complexity?
4. Do we have a rhythm?

E. Is it getting personal?
1. What does this person value?
2. What are the individual’s aspirations?
3. How does this person interact with colleagues and others?
4. What is the person’s level of self-awareness?
Change your organization through Listening
1. Foster a more disciplined and productive organization.
2. Ensure the free and open flow of information and ideas.
3. Establish a reverence for fact-based discussions.
4. Generate new insights and more creative solutions.
5. Build an organization that excites and energizes its people.

What to do on Monday Morning?
1. Keep quiet.
2. Challenge assumptions.
3. Focus on what you need to know.
4. Increase your tolerance for ambiguity and uncertainty.
5. Sort incoming information into the appropriate file drawers and folders.
6. Work your memory to gain insights.
7. Know when to pull the trigger.
8. Demonstrate the best listening practices to lift everyone’s game.

What do you think about the book? The book is well written. I like what he wrote in his acknowledgement section that he will try to present the subject matter with the” applicability” in mind and to deliver the message with less prose. The author did exactly what he said will do-deliver the message with clarity and brevity. I hope all authors are like him-to the point and no extra run around the corner theory and examples. This is not a defined HOWTO book on listening. You have to think and digest on every point he is explaining and then apply it slowly to real life experiences. One morning after reading the first few chapters the night before, I was in a meeting with my small team at work and I noticed immediately the archetypes. I’m normally a very quiet/silent person by choice long before I’ve read this book but I did not know how to listen well. Knowing now the key concepts of Power Listening, it made me a better listener.

The idea of Power Listening mentioned in this book is focused on people. But as I was reading the book and now I’m writing a summary, it occurred to me that the application of Power Listening is not just limited to the realm of being in a conversation with someone or being in a group of people in a meeting or an interaction between a leader and a subordinate or a relationship between a husband and wife or the leadership between a parent and child. I saw more.

Think of a problem at work or home, if you apply the concepts of Power Listening and avoid the 6 archetypes of a bad listener, you can make way of a better judgment on what to do next. Don’t jump to conclusion when you see a slight victory, let the situation mellow down by listening to the data and outcome. Listen to the data available before taking any action to any situation.

Conclusion: If you don’t have time to read this book, immerse on this idea when you are in a conversation with somebody:
“Take nothing that you hear for granted, and try to sustain respect for the ideas of each of your colleagues. The next step may seem obvious: Keep quiet! You have to get out of the way of the conversation in order to hear what’s important”.p5

Recommendations:
1. Read this book.
2. Use the Kindle version if you have a tablet. I’ve read this book mostly before going to sleep and waking up.
3. Read one chapter at a time and then apply at work, co-worker or at home. I used my wife and son as the guinea pig. One time, my wife confided me about a bad situation at her workplace. She was feeling bad about the situation and here she is telling me everything and I had no idea where the subject was going. Instead of cutting her off and telling her that I’m not interested about her workplace negative reports, I told her to go on and I listened well. In the end, I noticed that all she wanted was to release the tension inside her head. For me, I learned that sometimes a person just needs somebody to listen – you don’t really have to do anything else.

4. Be Quite.  Give it a try! You’ll be amazed how much you hear around you. [not just inner voices of people, but data, insights and wisdom]

The 4 Things I Do Consistently to Be More Productive

http://feeds.lifehack.org/~r/LifeHack/~3/XGZWX57oa2A/4-ultimate-ways-to-become-more-productive.html

Holy Is Our King

I played this song in repeat mode in my Spotify app on my phone while doing my 40mile bike ride today.  When I left the house, I clicked the “play” button and listened to this song over and over for almost 3 hours.  When I got back to the house right at the front door, the music ended at the very last note where I started and my mileage was right at 40.09 miles.

Then an impression in my heart told me “Just so you know, I’m with you and I received your worship”. 

I was so tired and dying and my only wish was “just get me home”, temperature was close to 95’F. 

Little things like this one elevates my faith one more notch.

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Angels gather round your throne
and around your throne they bring
Praises to the Living Word
To the awesome One they sing

Crying Holy…Holy…Holy..Is our King.

Elders bowing at your feet
And at your feet, they bend their knees.
All creatures on the earth below
Bow before you now.

Crying Holy…Holy…Holy..Is our King.


http://www.mapmyride.com/routes/view/129597341

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17 Back to School Lifehacks to Start Your Semester

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifehack/17-back-to-school-lifehacks-to-start-your-semester.html

7 Things to Say (and Not Say) to a Grieving Person

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/7-things-to-say-and-not-say-to-a-grieving-person.html

The Only 2 Tricks You Need for Maximum Productivity

http://feeds.lifehack.org/~r/LifeHack/~3/Qt9AwZxO86Y/the-only-2-tricks-you-need-for-maximum-productivity.html

5 Steps to Fixing It When Life Throws You a Curveball

http://feeds.lifehack.org/~r/LifeHack/~3/_cXLFr84w2M/5-steps-to-fixing-it-when-life-throws-you-a-curveball.html

Get Organized Now: 9 Ideas That Work

http://feeds.lifehack.org/~r/LifeHack/~3/Qtkh93FFbAM/get-organized-now-9-ideas-that-work.html

Introvert or Extrovert?

Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, ISBN: 0670916765

http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/quiet-quiz-are-you-an-introvert/

1. I prefer one-on-one conversations to group activities.
2. I often prefer to express myself in writing.
3. I enjoy solitude.
4. I seem to care about wealth, fame, and status less than my peers.
5. People tell me that I’m a good listener.
6. I’m not a big risk-taker.
7. I enjoy work that allows me to "dive in" with few interruptions.
8. I like to celebrate birthdays on a small scale, with only one or two close friends or family members.
9. People describe me as "soft-spoken" or "mellow."
10. I prefer not to show or discuss my work with others until it’s finished.
11. I tend to think before I speak.
12. I often let calls go through to voice-mail.

Your personality profile: I. (I = Introvert. E = Extrovert)

I = Introvert. If you answered the majority of the questions true, you’re probably an introvert. Given the choice, you’ll devote your social energy to the people you care about most, preferring a glass of wine with a close friend to a party full of strangers. You think before you speak, and relish solitude. You feel energized when focusing deeply on a subject or activity that really interests you. You have an active inner life, and are at your best when you tap into its riches.

E/I = Ambivert. If you answered the questions evenly, true and false, you’re probably an ambivert – meaning that you fall smack in the middle of the introvert-extrovert spectrum. In many ways, ambiverts have the best of both worlds, able to tap into either pole as needed.

E = Extrovert. If you answered the majority of the questions false, you’re probably an extrovert. You relish social life, and are energized by interacting with friends and strangers alike. You are assertive, go-getting, and able to seize the day. You’re great at thinking on your feet, and are relatively comfortable with conflict. You are actively engaged in the world around you, and are at your best when you tap into its energy.

Why does it matter where you fall on the introvert-extrovert spectrum? Because introversion and extroversion are at the heart of human nature. And when you make life choices that are congruent with your temperament, you unleash vast stores of energy.

Conversely, when you spend too much time battling your own nature, the opposite happens—you deplete yourself. Too many people live lives that don’t suit them—introverts with frenetic social schedules, extroverts with jobs that require them to sit in front of their computers for hours at a stretch. We all have to do things that don’t come naturally—some of the time. But it shouldn’t be all the time. It shouldn’t even be most of the time.

(Remember, though, that no one is all introvert or all extrovert. Introverts attend wild parties, and extroverts curl up with their favorite books. As the psychologist Carl Jung put it, "There is no such thing as a pure extrovert or a pure introvert. Such a man would be in the lunatic asylum.")

Unending Love

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Unending Love
Hillsong

VERSE 1:
There’s no silver or gold
And no treasure untold
That could draw me away from Your heart
Neither love of myself
Or of anyone else will do

PRE-CHORUS:
Jesus nothing compares
To this grace that rescues me
Saviour now and forever
Your face is all I seek

CHORUS:
Now all I am
I lay at Your feet
I’m humbled by the wonder of Your majesty
One thing I know
I find all I need
In Your unending love
In Your unending love

VERSE 2:
Letting go of my pride
I lay down my desires
Just to worship in Spirit and truth
More than all of my dreams
More than fame I will seek You Lord

PRE-CHORUS:
Jesus nothing compares
To this grace that rescued me
Saviour now and forever
Your face is all I seek

CHORUS:
Now all I am
I lay at Your feet
I’m humbled by the wonder of Your majesty
One thing I know
I find all I need
In Your unending love
In Your unending love
Now all I am
I lay at Your feet
I’m humbled by the wonder of Your majesty
One thing I know
I find all I need
In Your unending love
In Your unending love

Make a Joyful Noise!

MAKE A joyful noise to the Lord, all you lands! Psalm 100:1

Albert Barnes in his time of studying the Bible wrote this commentary regarding the “Joyful Noise” in Psalm 100:1.  He had no idea that it will become a worldwide movement of Praise and Worship like this one. He wrote in his notes  “It may thus be used to denote any shout of joy or praise. In public worship it would denote praise of the most animated kind”

Barnes on Psalm 100:1
Make a joyful noise unto the Lord – See the notes at Psalm 95:1.

All ye lands – Margin, as in Hebrew, “all the earth.” The margin expresses the sense. The idea in the psalm is, that praise did not pertain to one nation only; that it was not appropriate for one people merely; that it should not be confined to the Hebrew people, but that there was a proper ground of praise for “all;” there was that in which all nations, of all languages and conditions, could unite. The ground of that was the fact that they had one Creator, Psa_100:3. The psalm is based on the unity of the human race; on the fact that there is one God and Father of all, and one great family on earth

O come, let us sing unto the Lord – The word here rendered come, means properly "go;" but it is used here, as it often is, as a formula of invitation, in calling on others to share in what is done by the speaker. It is here to be understood as used by one portion of an assembly convened for worship addressing the other portion, and calling on them to unite in the praise of God.

Let us make a joyful noise – The word used here means commonly to make a loud noise, to shout, Job_30:5. It is especially used
(a) of warlike shouts, Jos_6:16; 1Sa_17:20;
(b) of the shout of triumph, Jdg_15:14;
(c) of the sound or clangor of a trumpet, Num_10:9; Joe_2:1.

It may thus be used to denote any shout of joy or praise. In public worship it would denote praise of the most animated kind..

 

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Book Review: The 8th Habit

Title/ Author/ ISBN; The 8th Habit Stephen R. Covey
ISBN-978-0-684-84665-1
Pages=328
Introduction The book 8th Habit is about personal leadership. The main theme is finding your voice and inspiring others to find theirs. When personal leadership is fully developed and grounded within, it can be used as a springboard to influence others [another dimension of effectiveness]. The 8th Habit is -“Finding your voice and inspire others to find theirs”. The book itself is not just about the 8th Habit, the title is misleading because once you finished reading the book, you end up with a “million things” to absorb/learn, practice, study and implement.
What is the book about? The book is divided into 15 Chapters. The book includes a DVD with 16 videos to be viewed almost at the end of every chapter. The videos are good “eye openers” and speak a lot of meaning. At the end of every chapter beginning in Chapter 4, there is a Question and Answer portion, these are off topic questions [sometimes] but has a lot of wisdom and good answers.

Chapters:
Chapter 1-The Pain
Chapter 2-The Problem
Chapter 3-The Solution
Chapter 4-Discover Your Voice
Chapter 5-Express Your Voice
Chapter 6-Inspiring Others to Find Their Voice-The Leadership Challenge
Chapter 7-The Voice of Influence
Chapter 8-The Voice of Trustworthiness
Chapter 9-The Voice and Speed of Trust
Chapter 10-Blending Voices
Chapter 11-One Voice
Chapter 12-The Voice and Discipline of Execution
Chapter 13-The Empowering Voice
Chapter 14-The 8th Habit and the Sweet Spot
Chapter 15-Using Our Voices Wisely to Serve Others

My Notes:
Recap: 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

1. Be proactive
2. Begin with the end in mind
3. Put first things first
4. Think Win-Win
5. Seek first to understand then to be understood
6. Synergize
7. Sharpen the saw
8. Find your voice and inspire others to find theirs

Two Steps to 8th Habit
A. Find your voice
-engage in work that genuinely taps your talents and fuels your passion
-to do something significant with your career
-to sense an unmet need
-harness all your talents and passion to meet that need
-to take the path to greatness rather than settling for mediocrity

B. Inspire others to find their voices
-continue your achievements by helping others finding their voice as well
-recognize, respect and create meaningful opportunities for others to express their voices
-to breathe life into another
-encourage and positively influence others within your organization

Focus
1. Expand your influence
2. Be trustworthy
3. Build trust
4. Blend other’s voices
5. Create a common vision

Execution
1. Align goals and systems
2. Empower others

Voice-Unique Personal Significance
1. Talent-natural gifts and talents
2. Need-know what the world needs [or workplace, or community]
3. Conscience-still small voice
4. Passion-things that naturally energize, excite, motivate and inspire

Life is too short-mindset change
1. To Live
2. To Love
3. To Leave a legacy

5 Ages of Civilization
1. Hunter/Gatherer Age
2. Agricultural Age
3. Industrial Age
4. Information/Knowledge Worker Age
5. Wisdom Age

Video Lesson Max and Max:
1. Do your job and your job only disease
2. Confusing leadership disease
3. Initiative killers

Whole Person Paradigm-4 Dimensions of a Person
1. Mind-To learn, growth and development
2. Body-To live, survival
3. Heart-To love, relationship
4. Spirit-To leave a legacy, meaning and contribution

6 Levels of Choice
1. Rebel or Quit
2. Malicious obedience
3. Willing compliance
4. Cheerful cooperation
5. Heartfelt commitment
6. Creative excitement

A Great Organization
1. Can sustain long term growth
2. Provide prosperity
3. Contribute to the world

Habit is the glue of:
1. Knowledge
2. Attitude
3. Skills

Hardwired Birth Gifts
1. Freedom and power to choose
2. Principles [natural laws-universal, timeless, self-evident]
3. The 4 Intelligences/Capacities
IQ-Mental
PQ-Physical/Economic
EQ-Emotional/Social
SQ-Spiritual

Stimulus and Response is separated by our Freedom to Choose

5 Component of Emotional Intelligence-EQ
1. Self-awareness
2. Personal motivation
3. Self-regulation
4. Empathy
5. Social skills

Components of Spiritual Intelligence
1. Integrity-being true to one’s highest values and conscience
2. Meaning-a sense of contribution to people and causes
3. Voice-aligning work with one’s unique calling and gifts

Video Lessons: Law of the Harvest
Preparation
Patience
Respect Law of Nature
Acknowledge Human Element
Avoid shortcuts

4 Leadership Must Haves
1. Have a vision-Mind
2. Have discipline-Body
3. Have passion-Heart
4. Have a conscience-Spirit

Traits of Significant Person
A-Vision-Mental Intelligence/Capacity
1. Idealistic
2. Long term perspective
3. Anticipates failure
4. Dreamer
5. People believer
6. Sets expectations
7. Philosophical
8. Pioneering
9. Strategic Thinker
10.Hopeful
11.Outside the box

B- Discipline-Physical Intelligence/Capacity
1. Realistic
2. Focused
3. Execution
4. Constant
5. Takes initiatives
6. Committed
7. Hard working
8.Tenacious
9. Willing to sacrifice
10. Self-disciplined
11. Competent
12. Consistent
13. Decisive

C-Passion-Emotional Intelligence/Capacity
1. Optimistic
2. Hope
3. Synergistic
4. Courageous
5. Emphatic
6. Inclusive
7. Affirming
8. Fearless
9. Challenging
10. Sensitive
11. Motivating
12. Fun
13. Influential
14. Humor
15. People oriented

D-Conscience-Spiritual Intelligence/Capacity
1. Enthusiastic
2. Intuitive
3. Takes responsibility
4. Moral
5. Wise
6. Integrity
7. Servant
8. Humble
9. Fair
10. Abundant
11. Ethical
12. Inspired
13. Compassionate
14. Respectful
15. Cause oriented

What do successful leaders do?
1. Set direction-vision, customers, future
2. Demonstrate personal character-habits, integrity, trust, analytical thinking
3. Mobilize individual commitment-engage others, share power
4. Engender organizational capability-build teams, manage teams

4 Primary Management Practices
1. Strategy-devise and maintain a clearly stated focused strategy
2. Execution-develop and maintain flawless operation execution
3. Culture-develop and maintain a performance oriented culture
4. Structure-build and maintain a fast, flexible, flat organization

7 Levels of Initiative
1. Wait until told.
2. Ask
3. Make a recommendation
4. I intend to
5. Do it and report immediately
6. Do it and report periodically
7. Do it

5 Cancerous Behaviors
1. Criticizing
2. Complaining
3. Comparing
4. Competing
5. Contending

Survey Said: “Character of Effective Leader”
1. Integrity [the top quality]
2. Communicator
3. People Focused
4. Visionary
5. Caring
6. Decision Maker
7. Dedicated
8. A Model
9. Motivator
10. Expert
11. Courageous

Effective Team/Individual
1. Clear Mission and Values
2. Goals are set
3. Plan Weekly
4. Plan Daily

Types/Levels of Listening
1. Ignoring
2. Pretend Listening [patronizing]
3. Selective Listening
4. Attentive Listening
5. Empathic Listening [within the other’s frame of reference][highest level]

Solution Continuum
1. Lose-Win/Win-Lose [transaction]
2. Compromise [transaction]
3. Mutual understanding [without agreeing] [transformation]
4. Win-Lose/Lose-Win [with increased understanding and caring] [transformation]
5. Compromise on issue [synergy in relationship] [transformation]
6. Synergy on issue and in relationship [transformation][stay on this]

Video Lessons: Goal
1. Unable to identify top goal and priorities
2. Not passionate about the goal
3. Less time spent on goals
4. Don’t understand what to do

Video Lessons: Berlin Wall
1. Barriers exist within people
2. Barriers prevents communication
3. Barriers cannot be broken in  a short time
4. Barriers are sometimes spiritual-unseen
5. People are different even after the barrier is taken down

Point of View Changes the World
You cannot change the world
But you can change the facts
And when you change the facts,
You changes point of view
When you change the point of view,
You can change the world

Survey Said: What is holding Empowerment?
1. Manager afraid to let go [let go of micromanagement]
2. Misaligned systems
3. Manager lack skills
4. Employee lack skills
5. Employee don’t want responsibility
6. Manager too busy
7. Management too controlling
8. Lack of company vision
9. Employee don’t trust manager
10. Employee lack integrity

A Servant Leader 5 Questions
1. How is it going?
2. What are you learning?
3. What are your goals?
4. How can I help you?
5. How am I doing as a helper?

4 Roles of Leadership
1. Modeling-Inspire trust without expecting it [personal moral authority]
2. Pathfinding-create order without demanding it [visionary moral authority]
3. Aligning-nourishes both vision and empowerment without proclaiming them [institutional moral authority]
4. Empowering-unleashes human potential without externally motivating it [cultural moral authority]

Modes of Communication
1. Hostility [1+1=-1] [contention]
2. Defensive Communication [1+1=5] [contention]
3. Communication Compromise [1+1=1.5] [transaction]
4. Synergy-Third Alternative [1+1=3, 10, 100] [transformation]

Execution Gap
1. Unable to identify top goals and priorities
2. Not passionate about the goal
3. Less time spent on goals
4. Don’t understand what to do

Requisite of a successful team:
1. Mission-clear purpose
2. Strategic planning-main strategy on how to accomplish the mission
3. Structure-detailed roadmap of actions; people, resources, tools [templates, database, spreadsheets, documentation

Mission Statement
1. should encompass your sense of purpose, your vision and your values
2. strategic plan-crisp descriptions of how you will provide value to your customer [value proposition]; focus and voice
3. strategic plan=action plan, realizing your vision and values everyday

Level 5 Leadership Hierarchy
Level 1-Highly Capable Individual, makes productive contributions through talent, knowledge, skills and good work habits
Level 2-Contributing Team Member, contributes to the achievement of group objectives, works effectively with others in a group settings
Level 3-Competent Manager, organizes people and resources toward effective and effective pursuit of predetermined objectives
Level 4-Effective Leader, catalyzes commitment to and vigorous pursuit of a clear and compelling vision; stimulates the group to high performance standards
Level 5-Executive, builds enduring greatness through a paradoxical combination of personal humility plus professional will

What do you think about the book? The success and the impact/influence of the 7 Habits across the globe transformed many individuals from just being “good” to “being great”. Personally, I’ve been a believer and a practitioner of the 7 Habits many years ago. My favorite is the Time Management Matrix-Quadrant2. Truly a remarkable starting point to get things organized in our personal life. Knowing the fundamental principles of a true working leadership theory, one should not hesitate to include the 7 Habits as the core/guiding principle in life. Later on, once mastery is attained to the fullest; apply/utilize the 8th Habit. The 8th Habit takes the 7 Habits as the basic foundation of personal development and then later implemented like a building block to transform a person, a family, a workplace or an organization. Influencing a person or a friend or a child or a colleague is a broad subject by itself and takes a lot of wisdom/demand on how to truly impact their lives with what we currently believe and practice. The author took time and effort and provided plenty of explanation and theories and gave examples on how to guide others to find their voice. The first step before we can even think of executing the 8th Habit is to find/know our voice. Once our voice is identified and engrained in our personal habits/systems and the voice itself is grounded in solid foundation of our own “life examples” and “life experiences” we can then share it to someone. You cannot share what you don’t have and it is impossible to really give what you do not practice. Many people are finding the hard truth of why our personal leadership is ineffective. The true/short answer is most likely; we have not “got it” ourselves yet. There are many components to become a great leader/person. One has to constantly sharpen those fundamental skills/traits daily and work towards flawlessness and constancy of application to real life situation. There is no shortcut to true personal leadership, one has to acquire each skillset one a time and then later on we become capable to inspire others and one day they too will nod their head and say – “this is a good example of true leadership and me too – I want to inspire others to find their meaning and voice”. In doing so, we transform a person at first and then our surroundings and then our organization and then the world.
Conclusions/Recommendations: I was in the mid part of the book when I shared the 8th Habit to someone. I asked him if he knows about the 7 Habits and he said yes. Then later I asked him if he heard about the 8th Habit, he became curious instantly but when I told him that the 8th Habit demands us to inspire others – he automatically become so antagonistic about the subject and we started having a debate. His point of view are these:
1. At work, I have to compete to survive.
2. Why would I inspire others? Who cares about other employees?
3. I worked hard to get where I am, everyone should go through the same ordeal.

I was speechless and unable to carry on the conversation. Later in my reading of the book, I came across the 5 cancerous behaviors. That is when I realized that a personal transformation must happen first. The transformation must come inside the core of our self – mind, body, heart and spirit. Without the visible transformation, a person cannot set out to sail in the business of inspiring other people. It takes great humility and firm belief system to transform an individual. A person can read several motivational/self-help books, listens to great speakers but without the spiritual transformation within, the human nature will take over and dominate the person and will eventually show the symptoms of the cancerous behaviors of criticizing, complaining, comparing, competing and contending. Step Zero-get rid of this cancerous attitudes.

The Book 8th Habit is a lengthy read. I managed to take notes as I went along through the 20 pages/day pace. I wish they have a Kindle version of the book so that I can just screenshot key points and take notes. There are a good amount of theories to dissect and absorb but generally the knowledge and wisdom of what Covey is talking about is easily comprehensible.

I made a summary of key points on this report to remind me of the things that I’ve read. Reading the key points will not immerse you to the full effect of the message of the book. You really have to read the book to know what Covey is talking about.

Recommendations:
1. Read the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People before reading this book.
2. Take notes when reading this book. Mark or highlight key points so that when you try to go back for a second reading, you know where to go.
3. Take time to absorb the material and then apply. You have to practice it.
4. Establish a clear personal mission statement. Once done, inspiring others will come natural.

Voice of Truth

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Voice Of Truth
Songwriters: Hall, Mark; Casting Crowns;

Oh what I would do to have
The kind of faith it takes
To climb out of this boat I’m in
On to the crashing waves

To step out of my comfort zone
Into the realm of the unknown
Where Jesus is
And He’s holding out His hand

But the waves are calling out my name
And they laugh at me
Reminding me of all the times
I’ve tried before and failed

The waves they keep on telling me
Time and time again
"Boy, you’ll never win!
You’ll never win!"

But the voice of truth tells me a different story
The voice of truth says, "Do not be afraid!"
And the voice of truth says, "This is for My glory"
Out of all the voices calling out to me
I would choose to listen and believe the voice of truth

Oh what I would do to have
The kind of strength it takes
To stand before a giant
With just a sling and a stone

Surrounded by the sound
Of a thousand warriors
Shaking in their armor
Wishing they’d have had the strength to stand

But the giant’s calling out my name
And he laughs at me
Reminding me of all the times
I’ve tried before and failed

The giant keeps on telling me
Time and time again
"Boy you’ll never win!
You’ll never win!"

But the voice of truth tells me a different story
The voice of truth says, "Do not be afraid!"
And the voice of truth says, "This is for My glory"
Out of all the voices calling out to me

The voice of truth tells me a different story
The voice of truth says, "Do not be afraid!"
And the voice of truth says, "This is for My glory"
Out of all the voices calling out to me
I would choose to listen and believe
I would choose to listen and believe the voice of truth
The voice of truth

 

The Voice of Truth
I am for you, who can be against you.
You are my child
I call you by name, I have placed my hand upon you
I love you with an everlasting love
I am your shield and protector
Rest in my Love
Nothing that is good will be withheld from you
Do not be anxious about anything
Nothing can separate you from My Love
With me all things are possible

Magnificent

I had 4 hours of sleep and Monday is my 40Mile cycling day. I had to do something in the first 2 hours of my waking hours.  My watch said 12:10pm [Austin, Texas time] and the temperature outside reads 91’ F. I had two choices, skip cycling or just go no matter what.  When I left home, I had my doubts if I will be able to make it back.  I know my chest pains are somewhat back [I’m a cardiac patient at Day773 on Stent#2] and there is always that feeling that this is the day that I will not come back – I did it anyway.  I turned on my Spotify app in my Android phone and plug in my ear buds and tuned in to Matt Redman’s album.  At mile18, this song below [Magnificent] touched my heart. I stopped and placed the song in ‘repeat’.  Temperature rising and I could feel that this the worst day to ride 40 miles.  As the lyrics of the song started to soaked in, I feel weaker and weaker as I pedal steadily in a comfortable pace but then spiritually I felt something strange and it was beautiful.  I cannot stop, I cannot give up and I was determined to be back home. I was imagining what a great way to die – worshipping God in the Spirit.  I only had one prayer.  Lord, “just get me home”.  I pressed on as the song played over and over and I started to regain my strength until I reached home.

When I got home, I  looked up the true meaning of the word “magnificent” and the lyrics of the song – one thing I can say honestly from the bottom of my broken heart – He is Magnificent.

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You show Your majesty
In every star that shines
And every time we breathe
Your glory, God, revealed
From distant galaxies
To here beneath our skin

You are higher than we ever could imagine
And closer than our eyes could ever see
You are…

(CHORUS)
Magnificent, You alone are holy
No one else as glorious as You
Magnificent, Jesus You are worthy
Who can shine as brightly as You do?
Magnificent
You’re so magnificent

You’re lighting up our lives
Illuminate our hearts
With everything You are

You are higher than we ever could imagine
And closer than our eyes could ever see
You are…

CHORUS

You are higher than we ever could imagine
And closer than our eyes could ever see
We are pouring out our hearts here in Your presence

CHORUS

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Believe God Exist; Day769; Berlin Wall Lessons

And he who believes in (has faith in, clings to, relies on) the Son has (now possesses) eternal life. But whoever disobeys (is unbelieving toward, refuses to trust in, disregards, is not subject to) the Son will never see (experience) life, but [instead] the wrath of God abides on him. [God’s displeasure remains on him; His indignation hangs over him continually.] [Hab. 2:4.]  John 3:36

believe- (verb) accept as true; take to be true

Everyday, I’m finding tiny reasons to spend a few minutes of my time reading the Bible, study the daily devotional and most of all observing my daily life.  I take time to examine what went on during my full waking hours and at the end of the day I reflect and pause for a few minutes to see what surprises I have at hand. Today is no different and I’m not surprised anymore.  The scriptures that I studied daily is taken from Billy Graham’s daily devotional website.  Those are preset scriptures that has been planned/put together long time ago by his team or Billy Graham himself.  But the life that I’m living is random – the things that I do or the books that I read or the materials that is coming into my lap or the people that I interact daily are not .  But many times throughout my Christian life, I get this two things in alignment by itself.  What I mean by that? – the scriptures that I am studying coincides to what I am experiencing in my daily life in real time [Input-Output alignment].  How do you explain that?  Say for instance today, the scripture is from John 3:36, I study the scripture first thing in the morning and later in the day I came across p.246 of the book that I’m reading and then tells me to watch a video called Berlin Wall and in that video, a screen comes up with the banner below that reads:

You can’t change the world
But you can change the facts
And when you change the facts
You changes point of view
When you change point of view
You can change the world

My version:
How to change the world?
1. Change point of view [belief system]
2. Transform yourself to a better person
3. Influence one person at a time [at home, at work, a blog reader]
4. Change the person
5. That person repeats Step #3
6. The world changes – one person at a time

Life is exciting when you believe in God.  There is always a surprise.

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Berlin Wall, 8th Habit Video #13
I was trying to look for the Berlin Wall video in YouTube that came with the 8th Habit book but unfortunately nothing is posted there.  I have no time to encode the video to .wmv at this time so no video to get the point across.  Anyway, it’s about the Berlin Wall, Germany was divided into two parts by a physical barrier known as the Berlin Wall from 1961 to 1989.  The video emphasized more on the after effect of the fall of the Berlin Wall.  After the fall, two mindsets existed and began to emerged.  Here’s my notes on the video.

Berlin Wall Lessons
1. Barriers in people [not just physical but spiritual/emotional]
2. Wall prevents communication
3. Barrier cannot be broken in a short period of time [slow process]
4. People are different [division exist even after the wall was taken down]
5. We label people even after the barrier is broken [oh, he/she is from the other side]

West Berlin Mindset
1. Luxury
2. Materialistic [buying big house, nice cars]
3. Career 
4. Freedom

East Berlin Mindset
1. Insecurity [likes the security of the old regime of wall]
2. Hard time adjusting to the freer country
3. Critical of the new generation
4. Very slow in adapting to the new life

Lesson Learned:
Adapt to the new environment immediately because sooner or later, you will.  Why not just do it!


PLAN:

2-Minute Stay Ball Exercise
2-Minute Sword Practice
2-Minute 15-lbs Dumbbell
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
25 Yards Subsurface Swim
Workout-1 Mile Swim

Read 20 pages

READING LIST:
The 8th Habit p.270 of 328
Data Protection 2010 Step By Step p.39 of 360

DO:
0500, End of Sleep,
0515, John 3:36 [read more]
0600, Leave for work
1800, Dinner
1900, Read

Divine Source; Day768; Day0001-New Job; Levels of Initiative

For no prophecy ever originated because some man willed it [to do so–it never came by human impulse], but men spoke from God who were borne along (moved and impelled) by the Holy Spirit.  2Peter 1:21

Prophecy:
Knowledge of the future (usually said to be obtained from a divine source)
A prediction uttered under divine inspiration

Intuition:
Instinctive knowing (without the use of rational processes)

Have you ever been in a difficult situation and started thinking that it is a mistake being there.  This phenomena always happen at Mile 001 or Day 001.  I’m in that “confusion state” right now [homeostasis-resistance to change] .  I’ve been with my job for so many years that I can say that all the routines and structures are well in place [I can do my job while sleeping stuff…]. Everything is different now and I have to make some fine tuning on the ways that I spend my time at work.  I’m still with Samsung but this time my department has 7 members only [compared to >50 previously].  I will be spending more time in the office area now than in the factory floor and will be using my creative thinking brain the more. 

I am not worried about my job or where I am because I know I was destined to be in this situation. Although at Day001, I had my thoughts of negativity of my new situation but I remember something – when you desire something in your heart-it will be given unto you. Many years ago, I started having an interest in System Thinking and Inventive Problem Solving so I started consuming materials regarding the subject.  I read books, collect articles, try out new methodology to problem solving and started solving difficult problems etc.  I’ve probably over saturated myself now with all the knowledge that I soaked up for a few years and it is time to do it and apply it to real world situation.  I feel like the prophecy has been fulfilled in my life. This is going to be a great start!

I’m almost done with the 8th Habit and learning has been very good.  There are new things that I did not know before that has been explained clearly.  This one caught my attention.  I’m still trying to test out and “self-asking” which level is the best or ideal because if you are in Level 7 and something goes wrong – that is big trouble example: a child make a mistake and a parent ask “Why did you not ask me?”  Take a look.  

“7 Levels of Initiative” 8th Habit p.133
1. Wait until told.
2. Ask
3. Make a recommendation
4. I intend to
5. Do it and report immediately
6. Do it and report periodically
7. Do it

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PLAN:
2-Minute Stay Ball Exercise
2-Minute Sword Practice
2-Minute 15-lbs Dumbbell
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Workout-Rest
Read 20 pages
2-Minute Ping-pong Drill

READING LIST:
The 8th Habit p.250 of 328
Data Protection 2010 Step By Step p.39 of 360

DO:
0300, End of Sleep,
0315, 2Peter 1:21 [read more]
0600, Leave for work
1800, Dinner
1900, Read

Notes: 8th Habit-Video#12-Goal and Execution Gap

 

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Execution Gap
1. Unable to identify top goals and priorities
2. Not passionate about the goal
3. Less time spent on goals
4. Don’t understand what to do

Requisite of a successful team:
1. Mission-clear purpose
2. Strategic planning-main strategy on how to accomplish the mission
3. Structure-detailed roadmap of actions; people, resources, tools [templates, database, spreadsheets, documentation

Mission Statement
1. should encompass your sense of purpose, your vision and your values
2. strategic plan-crisp descriptions of how you will provide value to your customer [value proposition]; focus and voice
3. strategic plan=action plan, realizing your vision and values everyday

This I Know

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VERSE 1:
Who has stretched out the skies like a canvas?
Who has scooped up the oceans with His hands?
Who has measured the hills from the mountains?
You have
 
VERSE 2:
Who has given us beauty for ashes?
Who has broken the chains of the captives?
Who has rescued our lives with compassion?
You have
 
CHORUS:
This I know, You are a great God
This I know, You are a great God
This I know, You are the one true God
You are a great God
 
VERSE 3:
Who is breaking the curse of injustice?
Who is calling the nations to Jesus?
Who is King of the world?
Let us shout it, "You are!"
 
BRIDGE:
Everlasting, all-consuming
Burning fire, Glorious One
Risen Saviour, King forever
Love unending, Beautiful One

Principle-Set Your House In Order; Day766; 5S

IN THOSE days Hezekiah became deadly ill. The prophet Isaiah son of Amoz came and said to him, Thus says the Lord: Set your house in order, for you shall die; you shall not recover. [II Chron. 32:24-26; Isa. 38:1-8.]  2Kings 20:1

Set Your House In Order
Many of us may have experience a warning statement in life in the form of a sickness, disease, a cancer, an accident, a near death moment, a loss of love ones, a loss of job, a failed relationship, a failed career, a failed business, a failed body, a failed mind, a broken spirit.  I wish we all receive a warning like this one to tell us that we are dying and the end of life is near.  Don’t expect to hear audible voices telling us what will happen next but expect to see and heed those signs as you progress in life. Life has plenty of road signs especially when are heading towards destruction.

A good way to start putting our chaotic life in order is to use the 5s methodology – SORT, STRAIGHTEN, SHINE, STANDARDIZE-SUSTAIN.  The most important phase is the sustaining part.  Most of us can do the first 4 easily but fails to continue to sustain the changes we make throughout lifetime.

 

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What is 5s?
5s Examples

PLAN:
2-Minute Stay Ball Exercise
2-Minute Sword Practice
2-Minute 15-lbs Dumbbell
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
40 Mile Bike
Laundry
Read 20 pages
2-Minute Ping-pong Drill

READING LIST:
The 8th Habit p.210 of 328
Data Protection 2010 Step By Step p.39 of 360

DO:
0900, End of Sleep,
0915, 2Kings 20:1 [read more]
1000, Read
1100, 40Mile Cycling
1200, 40Mile Cycling
1300, 40Mile Cycling
1400, Nap
1900, Iron clothes

Principle-Talk/Walk Right; Day765; Big Rocks

But if we [really] are living and walking in the Light, as He [Himself] is in the Light, we have [true, unbroken] fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses (removes) us from all sin and guilt [keeps us cleansed from sin in all its forms and manifestations].  1John 1:7

Sometimes we are placed in a difficult situation where we have to come up with life changing “yes or no” answer.  Many times we failed because we neglect to answer a simple question. “Is it the right thing to do?”  I know that I’ve done so many mistakes in life and I know that if only I’ve examined the situation objectively and answer the question, the outcome will be different. Well, past is past and we cannot undo lost opportunities, heartaches, regrets and emotional pain.  What we can do next time is – be careful of whatever we say or do and include a checklist: Right or Wrong? …. then proceed.

I’m on page 174 on the 8th Habit book and so far I’ve gained a lot insights.  The book includes a DVD with video lessons and on video #9-Big Rocks, the author demonstrates an analogy of Big Rocks to Life Priorities. Watch the video first then later on make a list of things that are important to you.  Once you have identified the “important things”  start prioritizing daily and weekly on how you are going to handle the most important things in life-the one that matters most [the Quadrant II stuffs].

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Big Rocks First-Prioritize

Poster-Quadrants
Poster-7+1 Habits
Poster ICAN

PLAN:
2-Minute Stay Ball Exercise
2-Minute Sword Practice
2-Minute 15-lbs Dumbbell
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Celebration Church
25 Yards Subsurface Swim
Workout-1 Mile Swim
Mow yard
Organize office
Read 20 pages
2-Minute Ping-pong Drill

READING LIST:
The 8th Habit p.190 of 328
Data Protection 2010 Step By Step p.39 of 360

DO:
0700, End of Sleep,
0715, 1John 1:7 [read more]
0900, Celebration Church
1000, Celebration Church 
1100, 1Mile Swim
1300, Lunch
1400, Nap
1900, Mow yard
2000, Read
2100, Read, journal
2300, Sleep

Principle-Serve One Master; Day764

No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will stand by and be devoted to the one and despise and be against the other. You cannot serve God and mammon (deceitful riches, money, possessions, or whatever is trusted in). Matthew 6:24

Serve one master
1. One thing theory-focus on one thing only [no division; full engagement]
2. One mind
3. One heart
4. One spirit
5. One relationship; one spouse; one love
6. One job
7. One objective at a time
8. One God; no other idols
9. One purpose
10.One life
11. Solve one problem at a time
12. Live one day at a time

PLAN:
2-Minute Stay Ball Exercise
2-Minute Sword Practice
2-Minute 15-lbs Dumbbell
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
Workout-Rest
Read 20 pages

READING LIST:
The 8th Habit p.170 of 328
Data Protection 2010 Step By Step p.39 of 360

DO:
0500, End of Sleep,
0515, Matthew 6:24 [read more]
0600, Leave for work
2000, Read
2300, Sleep

Book Review: The Checklist Manifesto

 

Title/ Author/ ISBN;

The Checklist Manifesto
Atu Gawande,
ISBN-978-0-8050-9174-8
Pages=211

Introduction:

Atu Gawande is a medical doctor first and a journalist/writer second. His specialty in the medical field is General and Gastrointestinal Surgery. He is known for as an expert on reducing error, improving safety and increasing efficiency in surgery. He wrote The Checklist Manifesto to make an impact to the world in terms of preventing unnecessary loss of lives due to human error and carelessness of procedures in the operating room, hospital and or any workplace. He explained in clear examples how a simple checklist saved lives in his own operating room and later observed others do the same

What is the book about?

If I have to summarize the book into one sentence, it will be like this-“Make a Checklist of Everything You Do”. Of course the contents of the book are more than that.

The Table of Contents:
1. The Problem of Extreme Complexity
2. The Checklist
3. The End of the Master Builder
4. The Idea
5. The First Try
6. The Checklist Factory
7. The Test
8. The Hero in the age of checklist
9. The Save

The Structure of a Good Checklist
1. Simple
2. Brief
3. To the Point
4. One Page
5. Step by Step
6. One already knows

Complex Environment Difficulties:
1. Fallibility of Human Memory and Attention
-mundane, routine matters, faulty memory , distractions
2. People skip steps even when they remember them
-thinks that a step in not important and can be skipped.

Three Different Kinds of Problems:
1. Simple-baking a cake from a mix; a recipe can be followed
2. Complicated- sending a rocket to the moon, no straightforward recipe
3. Complex-raising a child, expertise is valuable but cannot guarantee if the next child will be a success also; outcome is uncertain; not impossible to raise a child, just complex.

US Airways Flight 1549 Miracle at Hudson River, 2009
-no loss of lives
-at first, investigators thought it was the pilot who really did a good job but then later in the investigation, it was learned that the checklist and procedures, the crews and it’s effort saved the 155
-key items of the miracle were-teamwork of the crew, adherence to procedures and individual skills of the crew

Personal Code of Conduct
1. Expectation of Selflessness-accept responsibility for others; place needs and concerns of those who depend on us above our own
2. Expectation of Skill-aim for excellence in our knowledge and expertise
3. Expectation of Trustworthiness-we are responsible in our personal behavior toward our charges.
4. Expectation of Discipline-discipline in following prudent procedures and in functioning with others; make discipline a NORM.

What do you think about the book?

We’ve seen “checklist in action” in so many scenarios in our career and personal life. Anywhere we go there is a checklist present. Examples such as going to the doctor’s office, bringing our car to the dealer for a regular maintenance, doing grocery shopping, planning a trip or a vacation, doing big projects at work, performing a failure analysis, performing a complex repair of a complex system, going to college, joining the military. We’ve seen them all but how often do we study our checklist and revise them so as to yield an efficient flow of execution and how often do we question someone else’s checklist or procedure. At the basic concept of human behavior, we normally just accept what is given to us. No questions ask. “Ok, I’ll fill it up” or “I’ll do it without complaining”. Reasons for that is because most of the time, we do not have control of the checklist or the procedures. I recently finished reading another book about “Managing Chaos and Complexity” and I’ve learned that chaos will always be there because life is a complex system. Humans will always face chaos no matter what. After reading “The Checklist Manifesto” I had another answer on how to manage “chaos” – use a checklist. Simplify every complex task into a one page checklist.

Conclusion:

I did not realize that I had been using a checklist all my life. I have journals, small notebook for personal stuff, small notebook for work related materials, I have action items [actionable items] even the moment I wake up I did not even know it that I am following a checklist. When I write, the tone of my writing is in a checklist form. In some ways, most of us are using a checklist and we don’t even know it. Even for those that don’t even write it on paper- those items on our head when we make a decision, those are mental checklist. Reading The Checklist Manifesto reiterates the importance of a checklist. As mentioned in the book, there are key ingredients of a good checklist and it has to be followed. Silly, but the author made a checklist on “how to make a checklist” because like any other activities, when we function robotically, we miss things. Checklist has to be analyzed several times because there are times we miss a step or the step is confusing. .

Recommendations:
Read the book, it will change the way you look at procedures.
Apply it, it will change the way you create a checklist and procedures.
Live it, it will make your life/work less chaotic.

Supplement Materials/Examples: Checklist Manifesto Article
Guide To Doing Things Right
Example-Cardiac Surgery Checklist
The Leadership Checklist
NASA-Human Factors of Flight Deck Checklist
NTSB Investigation-Flight 1549

Principle-Be Pure; Day759

Lay hands suddenly on no man, neither be partaker of other men’s sins: keep thyself pure.  1Timothy 5:22

If the activity is sinful in nature-stay away, do not be a part of it; applicable in most situation in life.
Lust of the eyes-lust of covetousness; delighted with riches and possessions
Lust of the flesh-an evil desire for the things of the flesh; adultery, fornication, pre-marital sex, homosexuality
Pride of Life-craving for honor and applause; a stubborn mindset that refuses to repent and confess their sins; a hardened heart; King of the Hill Syndrome (I am the best mentality), get rid of it.
True remedy-Walk in the Spirit, no other way.  Cannot make these as a to do list-it becomes legalistic and no power.  When we walk in the Spirit, flesh loses its power and dominion

Quadrant I-Urgent and Important
2-Minute Stay Ball Exercise
2-Minute Sword Practice
2-Minute 15-lbs Dumbbell
Daily Bible Devotional
Journal
40 Mile Bike
Laundry
Read 20 pages
2-Minute Ping-pong Drill

Reading List

The 8th Habit p.50 of 328
Data Protection 2010 Step By Step p.39 of 360

0800, End of Sleep,
0815, Study 1Timothy 5:22 [read more]
0900, Read
1000, Read
1100, 40Mile Cycling
1200, 40Mile Cycling
1300, 40Mile Cyling
1400, Nap
1600, Read
1700, Read
1800, Read
1900, Iron clothes

Principle-Integrity; Day754

I will behave myself wisely and give heed to the blameless way–O when will You come to me? I will walk within my house in integrity and with a blameless heart. Psalm 101:2 [Amplified] 

will behave myself wisely in a perfect way. O when wilt thou come unto me? I will walk within my house with a perfect heart. Psalm 101:2 [KJV]

integrity-moral soundness
blameless-free of guilt; not subject to blame

Quadrant I-Urgent and Important
Rest

Reading List
Systems Thinking-Managing Chaos p.149 of 374
Data Protection 2010 Step By Step p.39 of 360

0500, End of Sleep,
0515, Study Psalm 101:2 [read more]
0600, Leave for work
1800, Dinner
1900, Ping-pong with Brent
2000, Read
2100, Sleep

Principle-Start Small; Day753

He who is faithful in a very little [thing] is faithful also in much, and he who is dishonest and unjust in a very little [thing] is dishonest and unjust also in much.  Luke 16:10

Quadrant I-Urgent and Important
2.4Mile Swim
Iron clothes
Vacuum floor
Fix Dell E6400 Notebook Locking Up

Reading List
Systems Thinking-Managing Chaos p.149 of 374
Data Protection 2010 Step By Step p.39 of 360

0700, End of Sleep,
0715, Study Luke 16:10 [read more]
0800, Read Systems Thinking
0900, Read Systems Thinking
1000, Fix notebook
1200, 2.4Mile Swim
1300, 2.4Mile Swim
1400, Grocery shopping
1500, Cook dinner
1600, Ping-pong with Brent
1700, Iron clothes
1900, Vacuum floor
2300, Sleep

Step by Step: Obtaining Texas Drivers License-Parent Taught Program

Requirements:
DL-92.pdf application,
$20.00,
15 years of age

More Information:
http://www.txdps.state.tx.us/DriverLicense/parenttaught.htm

1.Fill out Form DL-92
2. Mail/Submit to:
Processing and Routing Services
Texas Department of Public Safety
PO Box 149246
Austin, TX 78714-9246

3. Read PTDE information, complete first 6 hours of the lessons
4. Read Texas Driver’s Handbook
5. Take a learner’s permit driver’s test
6. Pass the test
7. Obtain PTDE Courses from: http://www.txdps.state.tx.us/DriverLicense/ptdeCourses.htm
8. Or take the course PTDE 101 http://www5.esc13.net/drivers/parent-taught-driver-education.html
9. Complete Module 1-10
10. Take the written and actual driver’s test

 

Abundance of Favor and Blessings; Day745; Checklist

Lord, You will ordain peace (God’s favor and blessings, both temporal and spiritual) for us, for You have also wrought in us and for us all our works.  Isaiah 26:12

Quadrant I-Urgent and Important
40Mile Cycling
Northwest Airlines Flight 255, a pilot error
Pre-read Checklist  Manifesto
Read The Checklist Article
Test drive Calibre E-Book converter

Reading List
Systems Thinking-Managing Chaos p.121
Data Protection 2010 Step By Step p.39

0700, End of Sleep,
0715, Study Isaiah 26:12 [read more]
0700, Read
0800, Read
0900, Read
1200, 40Mile Cycling
1300, 40Mile Cycling
1400, 40Mile Cycling
1500, Nap
1600, Nap
1700, Yard work
1800, Yard work
1900, Cook/train Brent on cooking
2000, Read

Shadow Of Your Wings

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Lydia Stanley – Shadow of Your Wings

Oh my soul cries for Your love
You are the God of my salvation
You are my strength and my song
So I lift up my hands
And I pour out my heart
In the shadow of Your wings
I sing to You
You are all my heart desires
You’re all I want
Let all my prayers come before You
Hear all the yearnings of my heart
You are my rock and my refuge
You are the one that I trust
So I lift up my hands
And I pour out my heart
In the shadow of Your wings
I sing to You
You are all my heart desires
You’re all I want
Oh my heart aches for Your presence
Oh my soul cries for Your love
You are the God of my salvation
You are the one that I trust
So I lift up my hands
And I pour out my heart
In the shadow of Your wings
I sing to You
You are all my heart desires
You’re all I want

Division Antidote; Day731

This is My commandment: that you love one another [just] as I have loved you. John 15:12

The division rate in America for first marriage is 41% [source]
The division rate in America for second marriage is 60%
The division rate in America for third marriage is 73%
The division rate in America for couples with children is 40%
The division rate in America for couples without children is 60%
The division rate in Canada is 48%
The division rate in UK is 48%
The division rate in Australia is 40%
The division rate in Japan is 27%
The division rate in India is 1.1%
State with the lowest division rate Massachusetts (2.4 per 1,000 population)
State with the highest division rate Nevada (9.1 per 1,000 population)
Percentage of US population that is divided 10%
Mean age at first division For Males: 30.5 yrs. For Females: 29 yrs.
Median age at second division For Males: 39.3 yrs. For Females: 37 yrs.
Median number of years people wait to remarry after their first division For Males: 3.3 yrs. For Females: 3.1 yrs.
Average length of division proceedings 1 year.

Common cause of division [more] [read more]
1. Communication
2. Money
3. Cheating
4. Wrong expectation
5. Commitment
6. Addictions
7. Sex
8. Mid-Life crisis
9. Little things
10. Society”

Quadrant I-Urgent and Important
40Mile Cycling
Read
Fix flat
Restore TTBike to race ready
Fix RO System low water pressure

Reading List
Systems Thinking-Managing Chaos p.90
Data Protection 2010 Step By Step p.39

0800, End of Sleep,
0810, Bagel breakfast +Coffee
0830, Study John 15:12 [read more]
1000, 40Mile Cycling
1100, 40Mile Cycling
1200, 40Mile Cycling
1400, Nap
1700, Read
1800, Read
1900, Vacuum house
2100, Read

Your Mercy Goes Much Deeper

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Your mercy goes much deeper
Your grace it rescues me
Your mercy goes much deeper
Farther than I can see
I reach for You when I’m going under
I wait for You Jesus You’re my life-line

Where could I go
Where would I stand
How could I leave the shelter of Your hand
Where could I go
Where would I stand
How could I leave the shelter of Your hand
Farther than I can see
Farther than I can see
Much farther than I can see.

820,540,965.40 Seconds

It’s been 820,540,965.40 seconds (26 years) since we started our journey together.  The journey was not all that perfect.  There were some good times and there were some bad times.  If someone asks if I  will change anything- I will say “I will do the same thing over and over again with you”.  I just love the way we are.  I love the way we become and I enjoy watching our family move forward everyday. I have no regrets. May we continue to spend our lives together till the end of time.

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